[Basketball]

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[Annie K]

Yes... I hate to admit this, but I've been kind of obsessed with one guy for 4 years, even though he dislikes me and has been really mean to me in the past.

 

[SOME]

I dont call it "obsessed" i call it caring

 

[Ununderstood]

No, not really obsessed. Only times when I felt like I had an obsession was when I used to like this one girl from school. She was so beautiful.

 

[leonardess]

I wonder how much of this comes from not seeing things, people, etc as they really are, but how we want them to be - how much is idealization.

Just wondered, as I have a problem with this sort of thing too. unrealistic expectations, seeing things through (insert colour of choice)-tinted glasses, and so on.

At one point it got so bad I wondered if I have that borderline personality disorder thing.

 

[leonardess]

Yes. It was terrible. Nearly ruined my life. It was hard work, but when I managed to put things in their proper perspective, and realized I have a habit of idealizing things, and accepted reality, it got a LOT better. I was finally able to stop crying about it, and move past it. I learned a quite a lot about myself through this event, so it wasn't a total waste of my time.

 

[lyssado707]

I've only been extremely obsessed/intrigued by a few individuals, but more often i'll just think about the person a bit more than i would think of just anyone. I've always been like that since childhood. Usually it's because i want attention from them or am jealous and want to be like them.

 

[Freedom2010]

I've never been obsessed with someone in a creepy, stalker way but I have thought a lot about certain people.

When I get crushes on guys, I will think about the guy a lot. There is this one guy that I do have a pretty big crush on right now. He almost became an obsession (I was checking his facebook page multiple times a day and thinking about him all the time), but I stopped myself before it became an obsession ("this is silly"). I now still like that guy- I am just not obsessed with him (and never really was).

I also think a lot about people when they are nice to me. I don't become obsessed with them, but I do become interested in their lives and really want to be around them. I am just coming out of having social anxiety for the past 5 years and I am used to people ignoring me- not being really nice to me. When someone is nice to me, I won't become obsessed with the person, but I will think about them a little.

I also think about people in the past who were nice to me, but I turned away from because of the anxiety I had. I become sort of regretful of the past, but I know there is so much life ahead of me and all I can do is just move on. Sometimes I will also think about family members I haven't seen in a while.

I guess I just think about people- I don't really obsess over them.

 

[Black_Widow]

Quite a few times. In fact it happens almost every time I develop a crush on someone new of the opposite sex. However this is an aspect of myself that I am trying to overcome, as it's a trait that I really want to change and one that I don't like about myself very much.

 

[kreeper]

When i was in high school i was obsessed with this girl Vivian, i thought she was the bell of the ball. But 2 yrs of longing for her didn't do me any good. When i finaly made my move she coldly turned me down. So i vowed never again give that much of my brain space to someone I barely know, or just about anyone. OH and i was so obsessed with Nirvana when i was younger!

Yay for Nirvana!! I definitely went through a Nirvana/Kurt obsession too lol.

But yeah, I get oddly obsessed with things. And I hate it, most of the time. For example, I had a teacher that I learned lives somewhere in my neighborhood. Whenever I go running now, my thoughts are always consumed with "oh my god what if he sees me?!??" and wondering what he would think if he recognized me. Every car that passes by could very well be his, in my mind. I don't even particularly like the guy, I just for some reason care what he thinks of me.

Also, whenever I develop a crush on someone, I get obsessed. That's a bit more normal, though, I think, although my crushes themselves are really not normal lol.

 

[Aviator]

Yep, I'm going through it pretty badly right now. In the past couple of months I started spending too much time thinking about a girl I had a crush on in high school, after I found her Myspace. It it got even worse when I actually ran into her last week. I managed to work up the courage to talk to her, but I was too much of a chicken to do anything more than an extremely superficial conversation.

So, I know where she is now and could technically go talk to her again at any time. Feel like a total stalker though, so what I really want to do is just forget about her and move on

 

[Cataclysm Ballet]

I used to get obsessed with girls that looked interesting or seemed cool or like me in some way. In my experience, who they are in my imagination is always much better than who they are in reality. Appearances can be deceiving. The people who actually live up to those hopes and receive you warmly are often the people you'd least expect.

 

[wtf?]

If a girl I'm even mildly attracted to shows any kind of interest in me I tend to think about her all the time. I would say I get mildly obsessed. But then I go and show too much interest back and cater to her every whim and then they're headed for ze hills. I don't even realize that I'm doing it. I hate this game. It seems like everything that comes naturally for me is the opposite of what typically attracts girls.

 

[Post_Punk_Proclivity]

I hate to say this, but yes. There are a few people I knew from grade school who I end up thinking about nearly everyday; I don't really know why. I'll often find myself thinking about what would happen if I ran into them randomly. What they would think of me.

And there is also the occasional person who I'll become fascinated by. Usually it's someone who is unique in some way. But whenever I become obsessed with a person, I try as hard as I can to fight it. Otherwise, I feel like a stalker.

More importantly, for me personally, having these same thoughts become depressing after a while, because in a sense whenever I become fascinated by unique/talented people, the thoughts of comparison creep on morbidly. Comparing yourself to somebody who seems so much higher than you is enough to make you feel like crap at any time of the day.

 

[Post_Punk_Proclivity]

I used to get obsessed with girls that looked interesting or seemed cool or like me in some way. In my experience, who they are in my imagination is always much better than who they are in reality. Appearances can be deceiving. The people who actually live up to those hopes and receive you warmly are often the people you'd least expect.

There is plenty wisdom in these words.

 

[Post_Punk_Proclivity]

My obsessions/ infatuations will generally go in cycles and tend to use up a lot of my thinking energy. There've been times where I've been attracted to girls who hated my guts, but it didn't seem to make any difference although I knew I was fooling myself all along..

It seems the way I've adapted my thinking to these types of experiences has moulded me into somebody who is a sucker for the elatedness that exudes from fantasy.

I'm guessing I put everybody in general on the pedestal, regardless of who they are. I look up to everybody.

 

[Hadron92]

I hate admitting this, but yes. Only with one person, though. She was in my secondary school last year, but I haven't seen her since.She went to a different college. I think it was mainly because she was the complete opposite of me -- very friendly and open with everyone. She wasn't even a super-model...

 

[Fonda86]

I used to get obsessed with girls that looked interesting or seemed cool or like me in some way. In my experience, who they are in my imagination is always much better than who they are in reality. Appearances can be deceiving. The people who actually live up to those hopes and receive you warmly are often the people you'd least expect.

I know just what you mean! When I meet someone I think is cute and start to develop a crush on, I'll imagine how she's probably really nice and funny and smart, but then I soon find out I built them up and created my own version of them. What makes it worse is when I find out they're not the nice person I thought they were, I can't seem to "let go" of the image I created and find it harder to forget them, I'll become slightly obsessed picturing "how it could have been" even though I know it's mostly just an illusion I've made.

 

[KennethJones]

I know just what you mean! When I meet someone I think is cute and start to develop a crush on, I'll imagine how she's probably really nice and funny and smart, but then I soon find out I built them up and created my own version of them. What makes it worse is when I find out they're not the nice person I thought they were, I can't seem to "let go" of the image I created and find it harder to forget them, I'll become slightly obsessed picturing "how it could have been" even though I know it's mostly just an illusion I've made.

I am the complete opposite. I associate the most negative things to people before i even get to know them. If the person turns out to be half way decent then im kinda shocked. I think this pessimistic attitude is the best way to deal with people.

 

[AriesTrying]

i am having trouble with this now in my life. there is one person who i am thinking about a lot, though i will in all liklihod never see them again. I want to remember and write down all the things about him that i loved, or that he loved. And i only met him once!! (though talked to him online for a while beforehand). I truly feel/and fear that i will never meet anyone as interesting or compatible with me in the future. Do you think that its because we are less social/come in contact with people less that we are more likely to want to 'hold onto' the ones who we find to be special or different? I wonder if maybe we become more social and meet more people will we not become 'obsessed' with the small things about people, or think about them as much. I hope that as i progress in my recovery that i will consider these special interactions as just that - special interactions that brightened my day.