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I typically become obsessed with people, or certain groups of people. I don't mean love or anything, but I'll sit around thinking "I wonder what they're up to..." even though they're not my friends and it doesn't matter what they're up to. This usually happens to a group of people that rejected me because of my SA, or if I failed to become friends with them because of it. I'll imagine myself doing the thing we would have done if I had become friends with them, like going to parties or whatever, wishing we could be friends, even though it's never going to happen and I'm just wasting my time thinking about it. If I'm angry, I'll imagine myself getting revenge on them in some way, like them needing my help for a task and I refuse to do it.

Does anyone else do this?
 

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sometimes, its usually with people who stick out though, like if someone is very quiet, or has a awkward, but attractive look, or has strange clothes, ect. I will become increasingly interested in them. If they are overly friendly with me for no particular reason then that can do it to, that's only happened once in my life.
 

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I’m very much like you! Sometimes I just tend to put my hopes on another person and at times it can be too much. I always feel like they can bring me happiness or fill a void and that’s when my obsession or rather infatuation starts. Especially if it’s someone shows any type of interest in me. If I feel wronged then like you I start to act vindictive towards them. Sometimes that’s why I tend to push people away so I don’t get too attached to them. I've been obsessed with this guy for a very long time...long story.
 

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I remember getting kind of upset at this girl from work because we were hanging out, having fun together and then this one night she had a party and didn't invite me. I heard about the party from a different co-worker talking about it to another co-worker. It happened the night before and they were talking about how hungover they were. I left work that day kind of bummed that she didn't invite me. And then I couldn't help but think hey I wonder how that party went and then I kind of pictured everybody getting drunk and having fun and me being left out but what can you do. Other then that I try to stay away from the people that don't want to hang out with me. I can't change for them, I won't allow myself to.
 

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No.
I don't know. No one ever interests me enough to get obsessed with them. I might be interested in what they're doing or how they are, but that's about it.
 

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Not obsessed but I find myself incredibly envious of this girl I used to go to high school with. She's on my friend's list on Facebook. She seems so happy and just at ease with herself and her world. Her pictures are full of random adventures, not necessarily stupid partying pictures like everyone else's. She's everything I don't have the courage to be...yet.
 

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When i was in high school i was obsessed with this girl Vivian, i thought she was the bell of the ball. But 2 yrs of longing for her didn't do me any good. When i finaly made my move she coldly turned me down. So i vowed never again give that much of my brain space to someone I barely know, or just about anyone. OH and i was so obsessed with Nirvana when i was younger!
 

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Not really obsessed, but there are a bunch of people on my facebook that I have never talked to that I find fascinating and always look at their statuses and such...I so want to be friends with them lol...
 

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Not obsessed but I find myself incredibly envious of this girl I used to go to high school with. She's on my friend's list on Facebook. She seems so happy and just at ease with herself and her world. Her pictures are full of random adventures, not necessarily stupid partying pictures like everyone else's. She's everything I don't have the courage to be...yet.
Ahh yes. This is exactly the reason I've learned to dislike facebook lol.
 

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I hate to say this, but yes. There are a few people I knew from grade school who I end up thinking about nearly everyday; I don't really know why. I'll often find myself thinking about what would happen if I ran into them randomly. What they would think of me.

And there is also the occasional person who I'll become fascinated by. Usually it's someone who is unique in some way. But whenever I become obsessed with a person, I try as hard as I can to fight it. Otherwise, I feel like a stalker.
 

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I only did it once. I worked with this really beautiful woman who was from somewhere in Europe (I can't remember now). Anyway, she was really friendly with me when I talked to her and I interpreted this as her way of saying she may have been a little interested in me too.

I was too infatuated with her to notice she was really friendly with everyone and not just me. She was just a nice person. It took me a while to acknowledge the reality because I built my hopes up really high. I wouldn't say I was exactly obsessed with her. But it was definitely a one way thing and I was deluding myself.
 

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As much as I hate to say it, I think I'm obsessed with my ex-girlfriend. Not in a dangerous way, it's more of a patheticly sad way. I don't talk to her anymore unless she talks to me first, but I think about her all the time. And I have been obsessed with certain girls in my past.
I do have an obsessive personality, not just with girls or even people in general. Sports teams, certain foods, gambling, porn...etc.
 

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obsessed...for me, slightly yes but not overboard crazy...if i keep wondering waht someone is up to its because im close to them in that point in time, they have qualities i wish to have, things they do i wish i was doing...things like that, i was never obsessed in the sense that i wish i was with that person myself

everything i want to be and do, i know i can accomplish anything, i just gotta get out the house more often! its that simple for me since i was an insanely social person in school, once i left i crawled into a shell and am now finally coming back out of it
 

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I wouldn't call it obsession. When I was at school there was this very popular girl who used to talk to me sometimes in the beginning. One day in French class, and I was 14, she sat there poking fun at me for the hour's lesson. I was drawn to tears. Other girls laughed with her and encouraged her to keep doing it. She made really nasty comments about my looks, my hair, my clothes, and stuff. From that time on she felt she had the right to scream abuse at me and physically assault me without her getting into trouble. I was the shyest girl in the entire school and that was the reason why she did that. I would say that this girl was obsessed with me and I also think she was something else too. Whenever I look back on school she stands out and I think she made me become severely SA and have no self esteem or confidence.
 

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God yes, all the time. I can't help wondering, what if... I study alongside amazing women with amazing personalities, but my social anxiety always holds me back from persuing anything past our basic friendships. It's these constantly missed opportunities that are fuelling this small obsession. Succeeding with SA will solve everything.
 

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I wouldn't call it obsession. When I was at school there was this very popular girl who used to talk to me sometimes in the beginning. One day in French class, and I was 14, she sat there poking fun at me for the hour's lesson. I was drawn to tears. Other girls laughed with her and encouraged her to keep doing it. She made really nasty comments about my looks, my hair, my clothes, and stuff. From that time on she felt she had the right to scream abuse at me and physically assault me without her getting into trouble. I was the shyest girl in the entire school and that was the reason why she did that. I would say that this girl was obsessed with me and I also think she was something else too. Whenever I look back on school she stands out and I think she made me become severely SA and have no self esteem or confidence.
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