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#41 ·
When I played online games, I'd get interested in certain players after chatting with them for prolonged periods. Soon I didn't even play the game(s), just logged on to chat with them. I'd have dreams of them, think of them often, even fantasize for an unhealthy amount of time. I became infatuated.

This kept happening over and over. My doctors finally told me it was erotomania, which explains it all for me. Now I'm wary of making friends for fear of going too far, ironically.
 
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#42 ·
kinda

I've never been "obsessed" with anyone, but rather my mind becomes filled with all the possibilities that might be... An obsession with what could be.

you start thinking... "maybe this person can help bring a moment of sanity to the onslaught of chaos that takes in my head everyday."
 
#45 ·
Wow...reading these posts makes me feel a bit better. I feel as though I am the only one going through this kind of issue, since it is so painful. These past few weeks have been the most depressing weeks of my life. I never really understood why until, I realized my obsession over this guy. Him and I, work at the same workplace and even though I only see him once or a twice a week, it's hard to not think about him. My obsession started about two months ago when his friend told me that he liked me. I then right away started obsessing and it only worsened when him and I started to hang out. I loved hanging with him, but I would always get so nervous, which would make me really quiet...WHICH made things so awkward. He didn't seem to mind the social awkwardness but It still made me worry of rejection.
This obsession has taken over my life. I stalk his facebook, always check my phone for a text message from him, I don't eat or sleep like I used to and I cannot stop thinking about him. It really hurts me and I always think of what he's doing, who he's with, or if he is thinking of me. I even heard he was obsessing over me a bit but, he sees me push him away because I'm so nervous and I think it makes him think I don't like him...because of that we are just friends now.
I literally cannot take this anymore. A big part of me wants him out of my life, but there is still that part that can't let go. I don't know what to do! I am not myself anymore and I don't enjoy the things I used to love to do! I hate obsession and I never knew it could ever get this bad.
 
#48 ·
I've been obsessed with a number of people - kind of infatuated. But not usually men. Usually people in an advisory/guidance/authority role to me. It started as young as my grade 1 teacher. I was six years old and I remember having dreams about her hugging me. In high school I was obsessed with another teacher who was there for me after my dad commited suicide when I was 13. Then I got over her somewhat and the next person was my art teacher. Then my boss. And now my doctor (the first male) and Hugh Laurie as Gregory House. What's wrong with me?!
 
#49 ·
I used to communicate often with some online friends, and I became kind of obsessed with them (but I didn't show it). When I was on FaceBook, I would visit their profiles often and they seemed so intelligent. Yeah, I seem to go after the intelligent folks, because I often see myself as incredibly ignorant.

But what about celebrities? I wouldn't say I have stalker tendencies, but everyday, I find myself daydreaming excessively about being friends and conversing with people in the film industry that I really admire. It gets to the point where if I watch one of their movies, I get distracted from the actual storyline and retreat back to my silly thoughts. Then I embarrass myself because I feel the intimidation from them in these fake conversations! Now I have this huge fear of meeting folks that I admire. I often wonder what it would be like if they came to my town (thank God, that's unlikely) and how I would react. I stress myself to the max over situations that will never happen.
 
#50 ·
Sometimes I do - if only for a moment. I guess maybe theres more to Zodiac signs that meets the eye? Gemini's apparently are always doing new things and want to do everything. . .and 9/10 times, thats me >_< So yes, I will often become a tad obsessed with certain groups of people, till I finally start doing what they are. . and then immediately become obsessed with something else >_< I'm hopeless XD
 
#51 ·
Yes I do indeed. I am especially drawn to people who share similar traits to me like shyness or quietness, but who are also nice (not that I'm not) and who seem generally happy and funny. As much as I want to, I end up not getting to know them, stalking their facebook profiles, and feel as if I do know them since I think about them so much. Then, they do something and I think to myself, "Well, that's out of character," and then I realize that I don't know them at all -- I made everything up, and then I get sad, and don't think about them as much. Yes, I am a weirdo. I gues I'm just desperate for a friend. :( I even do that on this forum.... not gonna say any names......

Edit: I also get obssessed with some celebrities and ya know... fall a little bit in love with them, but I guess that's a little more common and less strange to people. Currently it is miss Regina Spektor that I am infatuated with, standin' in my avatar to the left.
 
#55 ·
PickleNose said:
I only did it once. I worked with this really beautiful woman who was from somewhere in Europe (I can't remember now). Anyway, she was really friendly with me when I talked to her and I interpreted this as her way of saying she may have been a little interested in me too.

I was too infatuated with her to notice she was really friendly with everyone and not just me. She was just a nice person. It took me a while to acknowledge the reality because I built my hopes up really high. I wouldn't say I was exactly obsessed with her. But it was definitely a one way thing and I was deluding myself.
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Snap! Been there, possibly still there. Aw man. It's gutting. Some people are hard to understand I find
 
#56 ·
Moon Fire said:
I wouldn't call it obsession. When I was at school there was this very popular girl who used to talk to me sometimes in the beginning. One day in French class, and I was 14, she sat there poking fun at me for the hour's lesson. I was drawn to tears. Other girls laughed with her and encouraged her to keep doing it. She made really nasty comments about my looks, my hair, my clothes, and stuff. From that time on she felt she had the right to scream abuse at me and physically assault me without her getting into trouble. I was the shyest girl in the entire school and that was the reason why she did that. I would say that this girl was obsessed with me and I also think she was something else too. Whenever I look back on school she stands out and I think she made me become severely SA and have no self esteem or confidence.
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I am so sorry for you. She was a real ***** for doing that to you. She was using you as a crutch to hide her insecurities, she is clearly not a nice person which she had to deal with the rest of her life. You however are probably quite sweet and charming and maybe your gentility is why you were picked on. I think you could have been vulnerable to someone else's bullying if it was not her. Don't blame her for who she is, she is just a *****. Don't remember her anymore. Just remember that she was a person that picked on the vulnerable and will get hers in the end
 
#57 ·
Aviator said:
Yep, I'm going through it pretty badly right now. In the past couple of months I started spending too much time thinking about a girl I had a crush on in high school, after I found her Myspace. It it got even worse when I actually ran into her last week. I managed to work up the courage to talk to her, but I was too much of a chicken to do anything more than an extremely superficial conversation.

So, I know where she is now and could technically go talk to her again at any time. Feel like a total stalker though, so what I really want to do is just forget about her and move on :(
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Look man this sounds like the beggining of a romance novel and I want to read the rest of it - your keeping us hanging :) , but your the actor as well as the author - stop over analysing and just relax next time you see her. Just be cool and dont write the story before its done. If you want to see her go see her and invite her to go/ do something. If she says no then thats fine
 
#59 ·
Yes! I do this all the time, and I'm glad I found this post because I thought I was the only one. The people I become obsessed with are usually the ones that rejected me and destroyed my self esteem at one time or another, or just the ones who are nice to me. I usually think about them wishing things had been different and that they didn't find me weird and that i had had the courage to talk to them. I'm not proud to admit that I waste a significant ammount of time just fantasizing and imagining scenarios in my head of something happening that would change their opinion of me. I'm also not proud to admit that I also spend alot of time snooping in their facebook page. I'm just adicted to fantasizing rather than forming real relationships because in my imagination I'm safe from judgement and pain of rejection and I'm not afraid to say what I want. Also I know its not real and if I get uncomfortable I can just distract myself and it will all go away.
 
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