Yes, most people (SA or not) have experienced stuff like this at some point or another...

Sounds like you need some practice talking to girls.

Suggestion: Any time you see a girl (any girl, regardless of attraction or what have you) and there's an opening to talk to her, then talk to her. About anything. The weather, school, homework, a teacher, other students - whatever. Just talk to girls for the sole purpose of talking. The more you do it, the more comfortable you (should) get with it, and you should reach a point where you can talk to a 'crush' in a... less awkward manner.

And for that day when you talk to a girl you're interested in... If you know you're going to be talking to her, try warming up your social skills (like you would your muscles) beforehand. Talk to anyone about anything. Do that, and it should make you a little looser when you go to talk to this girl.

 

Sounds like you need some practice talking to girls.

I beg to differ.

I think you did well OP. You approached her on your own, despite feeling anxious. Also, not only did you initiate the conversation, but when it was about to go dry, you were able to stimulate a new topic about her joining sports. You did very well and guess what, you got a smile out of it. And despite it not having gone as well as you'd have wanted it to go, you did manage to approach her. At the end of the day, she will remember you. You wanna know why? Because you make the conscious decision to go over there and speak to her.

Rome wasn't built in a day. You laid down the foundation. Next time you see her, just strike up another conversation with her about whatever you'd like to talk about. There's no need to think about what is an appropriate conversation. Before going over there, think to yourself: what would I like to know about this girl that I already don't? Then go over there and ease into it. And if something awkward happens like the last encounter, don't stress about it. Try this technique that I do in which I try to leave my physical body and get an altitude on me and the girl talking. If I'd have seen me standing there will nothing left to say, I'd have just laughed it off and said "Oh, well this awkward" or "Alright then! And that's my cue, have a good day!".

 

Oh man, I feel for you. I've definitely had some awkward moments with pretty girls. I wouldn't say it's over, because if you're going to be able to bounce back tomorrow, I bet she won't think a lot about what happened today. I know you probably feel incredibly anxious talking to her, but if you want to have any chances of developing any kind of a relationship with her, you need to act as if nothing awkward happened. Think of some casual questions to ask her tomorrow, if you get a chance to talk to her, preferably in a place where there aren't a lot of people, practice them in front of the mirror. It sounds like she might really like you, so just go in and don't overthink everything, if she likes you, you're good enough for her.

 

The thing was I had it all planned out (like what I was going to say) and it all flopped. I think it's because of my aching hand I formed while writing two papers of full paragraphs of the canadian definitions during geography. Haha, maybe I'll just go up to her tomorrow and just apologize for yesterday explaining I couldn't think straight because of my aching hand. I don't know, what do you think.

 

The thing was I had it all planned out (like what I was going to say) and it all flopped.

I don't really buy into the whole "planned conversation" deal. I've tried that before, and it just. doesn't. go. as planned.

Plus if you plan it ahead of time, then you're probably spending too much time thinking about what you're going to say next, instead of actively listening to what she says and responding based on that.

maybe I'll just go up to her tomorrow and just apologize for yesterday explaining I couldn't think straight because of my aching hand. I don't know, what do you think.

Talk to her, for sure, but don't apologize for yesterday. Personally, I wouldn't even reference it

 

It's happened to me a couple of times with girls. But I try not to over think it, because then I start to remember the awkward moments.

 

This has happened to me several times before. I absolutely hate that feeling when you REALIZE your mind is going blank--that "oh sh*t, this is actually happening for real" feeling. These kinds of situations, sadly, do not encourage one to seek out starting conversations with girls in the future...

 

Yeah, and now, due to all my past fiascos, I have too much anxiety to initiate a conversation with a girl...

 

It didn't sound very awkward, at least not in a bad way- if a guy did that to me, I'd think it was cute (in a totally manly way!) and probably want to talk to him again, especially if I liked him. You haven't ruined your chances or anything like that.

 

I feel you bro I freeze up time to time as well.Its because Im not that socially active and can only talk about real world issues not teen gossip.

 

I don't think u messed up that bad, just try talking to her again...

 

Seriously, get over yourself! You're human and have the right to screw up and be too nerves to do anything as much as you d***-well please. Should you choose to make her your girlfriend, you can bet that won't be the last time you screw something up. So what?
It sounds like that girl really does like you, probably all she can remember is that you took the time to talk to her. She's just waiting for you to drop all the bull and ask her out already.

 

For the record, maybe it wasn't all that awkward at all, above anything she might have found it cute. But I still feel sick from it; but I guess you're right YOSUP315, it's bound to happen to every guy (and already has to some I hear).

 

I feel like it also sounded like she wasn't exactly helping the situation o.o
I'm sure it's okay and you'll do better next time! I totally relate, I always know what I'm gonna say and have topics planned then completely go blank face to face.

 

I've heard of much worse screw-ups than that. Given the general fair-weather nature of the conversation, I would say that she still has a pretty neutral view of you. Try not to get too worked up about it.

 

Dude! You did fine. It sounds like she's still interested.

Just don't put her on a pedestal. She's just a girl

It's harder to talk to girls when you focus too much on how cute they are.

You have to kind of tone down your feelings towards her a bit and focus on who she is as a person, but at the same time give her the opportunity to get to know YOU. Don't be afraid to connect and don't give yourself a hard time.

Remember this: It's hard for anyone to think of things to say when they have too much pressure on them. Keep it relaxed.

Some tips: Conversation I've learned is like a different headspace. You just have to let it come. Don't plan a conversation, feel it out. Try walking and talking with her after class. It takes a lot of the pressure off. Keep cool, and don't panic. Words will come. Focus on enjoying her company and she'll enjoy yours.

I find that whenever I feel like something is going to completely crash and burn is when I do the best.

Try to find out what she's interested in and find things in common that you can talk about. The key is to get her comfortable around you and for you to get comfortable around her. It should be mutual.

Also, you shouldn't be afraid to be who you are around someone. As long as you're confident in who you are, you'll find people who have similar personalities to you - even girls. They just want to be themselves, too.

 

Sorry to necro, just want to give an update. It is my thread after all.

We don't talk anymore after that incident, I would say bye to her after school then and there, but that stopped like two weeks after the incident. I really thought to myself why doesn't this girl say bye to me after all the days I said bye to her? In the class I have with her, I would see her stare at me now and then, like even recently she did a couple days ago. What does this girl even want? To be chased after? Attention? If you don't try, then I shouldn't have tried; And if you don't care, then I shouldn't have cared. I know girls aren't the ones to make the moves but come on.

She talks to other guys now that are popular and athletic so I guess I should just leave her alone. I'm not good enough for her anyways, I'm not even socially capable.

 

Sorry to necro, just want to give an update. It is my thread after all.

We don't talk anymore after that incident, I would say bye to her after school then and there, but that stopped like two weeks after the incident. I really thought to myself why doesn't this girl say bye to me after all the days I said bye to her? In the class I have with her, I would see her stare at me now and then, like even recently she did a couple days ago. What does this girl even want? To be chased after? Attention? If you don't try, then I shouldn't have tried; And if you don't care, then I shouldn't have cared. I know girls aren't the ones to make the moves but come on.

She talks to other guys now that are popular and athletic so I guess I should just leave her alone. I'm not good enough for her anyways, I'm not even socially capable.

I'm not saying this ex post facto, but it's pretty obvious from your first post
that you should not put girls so high on the pedestal. For example, you say
that you screwed up but I don't see any evidence for it. You asked her if she
liked the school so far, she said yes, then you asked her if she's joining any
sports, which is a completely open-ended type question and she just replies yes???

What the ****? Guys do make the moves but that reply couldn't be any more
colder, it's like she wanted to kill the conversation. So I'm not saying that
she did it on purpose, she may have locked up herself. But in no way, was
that a failure on your part, ok?

So stop accusing yourself and go try your skills on some other girls that will
be more receptive. Don't get caught up in one-itis, yahearmenow?

 

No never experienced this before. No girl has ever liked me in that way. It's hard to create awkward moments out of thin air when nobody is attracted to you in the first place.

But I wouldn't worry, I'm sure it wasn't enough to deter her completely.

 

was she laughing with you or at you? sounds to me like she picked up on your shyness and thought it was cute. You could probably approach her again. If she was laughing more at you, sort of like, this guys fking weird, well then leave her alone.

As beta as it is if i know im going to approach a girl I always have 3-4 in the back of my mind to say/ask just incase that situation happens where im feeling awkward and have no idea what to say.

Even if you did **** up guess what, you gave it a shot. Now you potentially looked stupid to some random girl. Did your heart stop beating? Did it give you cancer? You're fine. Next time you have class with her when you walk in maybe give her a subtle smile and her response will tell you how she feels. Imagine if you felt that stupid every single day of your life.

 

was she laughing with you or at you? sounds to me like she picked up on your shyness and thought it was cute. You could probably approach her again. If she was laughing more at you, sort of like, this guys fking weird, well then leave her alone.

Even if you did **** up guess what, you gave it a shot. Now you potentially looked stupid to some random girl. Did your heart stop beating? Did it give you cancer? You're fine. Next time you have class with her when you walk in maybe give her a subtle smile and her response will tell you how she feels. Imagine if you felt that stupid every single day of your life.

She was more laughing with me in a sense of my shyness. There's no way I can approach her now, especially with my SA. And yeah, you know what, I did give it a shot. Who cares if I did screw up, I'm sure many people like me have experienced this. Maybe I will give her a subtle smile, but I'd rather start fresh with her in the future.

 

Highly doubt she'll remember what happened if she has a crush on you

 

You had an awkward moment, but at least it wasn't too weird. She probably thought it was cute. You handled it well despite the anxiety. I've experienced much worse than that.

 

Well, you can't really expect the relationship to continue if all you do is say "bye" to each other. She probably thought that you weren't interested in her at all and moved on because you didn't do much after that short, insignificant conversation.

 

I guess so. There wasn't much to say after that incident (at least that I could think of).

 

My GF has more social anxiety than me so almost every single convo we have is 2x as awkward as what OP descried. She always answers open ended questions with stuff like "I guess...", "No..." "Yes..." etc.

But that doesn't mean she doesn't like me...she's just unsure in social situations. Especially public ones.

What I'm getting at OP is that if you really like this girl, you will put your SA aside and just go for it...yes this has been said 74868872788884787774.2 times but how else are you going to succeed?

You just have to laugh those moments off mate. No girl that actually likes you will care about crap like that, she might even like you cause of it. You never know!

 

wow this is my whole life summed up. horrifically awkward conversations.

 

You're blowing this so far out of proportion, you're going to the Moon and back. From what you wrote, that conversation was barely awkward. If you would have gone to school the next day and talked to her again, it would have been like nothing ever happened.

 

If i imagine it in my head, it didnt sound bad at all. You should be proud. It takes guts to talk to a girl.