Because people are idiots who don't understand shyness/introversion. For whatever stupid reason someone who doesn't ramble on about pointless **** all day drives them nuts.

 

That's another thing i just don't get how people can ramble about pointless stuff all day...I find it interesting though, Not so much annoying, As long as they don't show off or too loud/nosy.

I sorta understand why some people are skeptical about us in a way though, I mean...we're more likely to just act without any warning or plan to kill a mother****er lol. But i don't understand why we're annoying.

 

People just lack empathy generally. Some people will find it confusing that you're quiet, a virgin, don't like sports, have an accent, whatever the hell else. They deal with this as seeing you as an outsider to be mocked or poked at. Even more so if you're alone. A group of people being different is much more intimidating, group dynamics play a big part in this.

Sometimes it's like someone being annoyed at you for saying sorry too much. Then you end up saying sorry about that and they get more annoyed. They're trying to get you to change and be with everyone else. Your inability to stop being anxious and meek is something they see as bad for you, they want you to do better, but you disappoint them and they can't help but be annoyed by that.

Other times it's like seeing a bug and just wanting to step on it. Just the part of people that want to see that bug try to survive against you, and if it doesn't then it didn't deserve to. Of course you don't always want to step on the whole group of bugs, you want that 1 stray ant. You want to see it go back into the herd or watch it slowly curl up and die.

Depends on who's doing it, but that's pretty much the mindset. It's human being human. Good thing we aren't ants.

 

People just lack empathy generally. Some people will find it confusing that you're quiet, a virgin, don't like sports, have an accent, whatever the hell else. They deal with this as seeing you as an outsider to be mocked or poked at. Even more so if you're alone. A group of people being different is much more intimidating, group dynamics play a big part in this.

Sometimes it's like someone being annoyed at you for saying sorry too much. Then you end up saying sorry about that and they get more annoyed. They're trying to get you to change and be with everyone else. Your inability to stop being anxious and meek is something they see as bad for you, they want you to do better, but you disappoint them and they can't help but be annoyed by that.

Other times it's like seeing a bug and just wanting to step on it. Just the part of people that want to see that bug try to survive against you, and if it doesn't then it didn't deserve to. Of course you don't always want to step on the whole group of bugs, you want that 1 stray ant. You want to see it go back into the herd or watch it slowly curl up and die.

Depends on who's doing it, but that's pretty much the mindset. It's human being human. Good thing we aren't ants.

Nah, most people are just pricks.

 

This is one thing i never understood. I personally don't care about other quiet people so i don't understand why its a issue. Surely its just one less person to steal the limelight away from people who love being the centre of attention? I enjoy going into work, getting my head down in the office and completing all my tasks without boring people with my life story.

 

People suck

 

They just don't know. **** em

 

A lot of them take offense if someone is quiet because they interpret it as being stuck up or that the quiet person dislikes them. The rest of the time they see quietness and awkwardness as a weakness that is pathetic, frustrating or cowardly and deserves derision. I'd agree it's related to a lack of empathy.

 

i guess person above is right, but personally i also find it weird that it could be annoying. not like you are forcing yourself on anyone with..being quite? how is that even possible :/ so least you can be is being unnoticable. weird :T

 

Why do some people think Quiet People Annoying?
Today i witnessed 3 people talking bad about another person for 4-5 minutes just because they we're quiet....

It was pretty damn uncomfortable because im quiet myself... I don't get it, Why would a quiet person be so annoying if they stayed to themselves? :blank

extroverts need constant stimuli to exist. it's their drug and they're addicted to it. you put them in a room alone for a day and they'll get berserk. they put you in a room alone for a day and in the end you walk out like Clint Eastwood after a saloon shootout

extroverts hate you for that so they'll call you "annoying" and "asocial"

 

Well didn't you gather their reasons from their extended moaning?

 

Loud people are poor listeners and can't even listen to the garbage they spew out of their mouths. For them, silent is unbearable, so they have to fill the void with their obnoxiously loud voices. Ever find it funny how the loudest people tend to have the most unbearable, worse sounding voices? That has been my experience. I actually get a headache listening to them.

In any case, they talk **** about quiet people because they know quiet people don't care to listen to them, so they have to deal with their insecurity by tearing that person down for not being loud and obnoxious like they are. People in high school were scared of me too and used to think I would turn into a serial killer. Please, if I was going to go on a killing spree, I'd have way more worthwhile targets than a bunch of dopey high school kids.

What else can I say, some people are incredibly selfish and don't understand that the differences in our world make us all unique. I don't mind someone that likes to talk a lot as long as they aren't obnoxiously loud like some people I've met.

 

Loud people are poor listeners

Excellent point. Which is why loud and boisterous people tend to be drawn to salesmanship and politics. Listening?? haha.

But this is just human nature. Why do people tend to stare at someone in a wheelchair? It's clear that they arent in that chair by choice. Or a blind person? I don't think loud people are deliberately trying to belittle the un-loud. It's just human nature to "wonder", but they'll never understand. Not really.

Just like if I blindfolded myself for a day. Would that be enough to truly "feel" and understand what it's like to be blind? Hardly.

 

I hate people who just don't know when to shut up, and I don't care if they think I'm weird because I'm not constantly blabbering about things that no one even cares about.

 

Some people are just miserable and love to talk negatively about everyone, you talk too much they talk trash, you don't talk enough they talk trash. Just can't win.

 

quiet people annoying? i think loud people are annoying,so there.

 

it's simple, they're f*cking morons that think being loud is the answer to everything. Only when they get their jaw broken is when they shut up!

 

Why do some people think Quiet People Annoying?
Today i witnessed 3 people talking bad about another person for 4-5 minutes just because they we're quiet....

It was pretty damn uncomfortable because im quiet myself... I don't get it, Why would a quiet person be so annoying if they stayed to themselves? :blank

People who are more extroverted tend to view quietness as arrogance, pride, or unsocial. It can be offensive to them because they do not understand why someone is less talkative. If they were gossiping about them for that long then the person must have remained silent for the duration of their conversation whether or not it was intentional.

 

I personally find it quite funny that people here can't understand why someone would condemn quiet people, and then go to great lenghts to condemn the extroverts and call them pricks and morons and the like. By insulting the extroverts like that, you're just confirming the stereotypes that exist about us introverts.

Am I the only one who sees the raging irony here? You're doing the exact same thing as those people who were talking crap about some quiet person.

Being quiet doesn't define someone's personality. Neither does being loud.

 

I find loud people annoying. On a busride recently there was this group of people who either thought the entire bus needed to hear what they were talking about or else they HAD NO ABILITY TO MODULATE THEIR VOICES!! :mum

I cringed and grimaced and scowled the entire time. I wanted so badly to throw all courtesy to the wind and scream at them to KEEP IT DOWN!! Seriously, it was like sensory overload, like nails on a blackboard to me. I don't see how people can BE like that, much less put up with it. I'm okay with noisy crowds, just fine. But with people who just seem to be going out of their way to be loud, it really grates on me.

Compared to that, quiet people are a Godsend. Maybe we're like nails on a blackboard to the loud people...? :stu

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I personally find it quite funny that people here can't understand why someone would condemn quiet people, and then go to great lenghts to condemn the extroverts and call them pricks and morons and the like. By insulting the extroverts like that, you're just confirming the stereotypes that exist about us introverts.

Am I the only one who sees the raging irony here? You're doing the exact same thing as those people who were talking crap about some quiet person.

Being quiet doesn't define someone's personality. Neither does being loud.

...Though I admit, I must agree to an extent with this. I don't view louder people or extroverts as jacka**es or anything, they're just not the sort I can tolerate being around. The ones I can't stand are the ones who seem to be doing it with total disregard for everyone around them; they deserve disdain, IMO, because when somebody is quiet they usually can't be viewed as being quiet in total disregard for everyone around them. Dunno, I'm starting to blither now. ops

 

I dislike so much how society thinks being quiet is a bad thing. I prefer being quiet and it makes me no different then a person who is more talkative. I overheard my roommate saying how her roommate (me) was antisocial and doesn't like going out. And it was clearly meant in a bad sense.

Well first, it's not antisocial, it's asocial. Second, I like going out, just not getting drunk and partying like most people.

So there.

 

Why do some people think Quiet People Annoying?
Today i witnessed 3 people talking bad about another person for 4-5 minutes just because they we're quiet....

It was pretty damn uncomfortable because im quiet myself... I don't get it, Why would a quiet person be so annoying if they stayed to themselves? :blank

Some people have no lives. These people are just mad at the quiet person because he possess something those other loudmouths don't, maturity. Unlike those loudmouths, the quiet person doesn't feel the need to fill the silence with meaningless blabber. If those loudmouths were alone they would probably blab off to a wall. Loudmouths have poor impulse control. they get drunk and s*** their pants in public.

Does the quiet person do all that?

Those loud mouths always talk about shallow subjects anyway. Football and cars. That's it.

If someone gets in my s*** and try to tell me how it's bad that I am quiet, I'll just tell them, "At least I don't s*** my pants! [rant hat off]

[looks at post] ops :um

Okay, I don't really mean all of that up there. Other than the s*** their pants part. Loudmouths are more likely to s*** themselves than quiet people. :um

Okay I'll go now.

 

I have been called "Awkward". But never annoying.

 

sorry to say but i can see why people dislike how quiet we are. i was working with a guy who was even more shy and quiet than me and i was actually pretty damn annoyed at times. this could lead to problems because he wouldn't communicate when it was needed. also, it's not just about how much you talk but if you show some emotions too. I don't talk much but I do try to show I'm just another human being.

if you never talk AND never show any emotions..come on now. you gotta atleast try sometimes.

 

sorry to say but i can see why people dislike how quiet we are. i was working with a guy who was even more shy and quiet than me and i was actually pretty damn annoyed at times. this could lead to problems because he wouldn't communicate when it was needed. also, it's not just about how much you talk but if you show some emotions too. I don't talk much but I do try to show I'm just another human being.

if you never talk AND never show any emotions..come on now. you gotta atleast try sometimes.

That's pretty much the only acceptable reason for hating someone due to quietness.

 

loud, talkative people are way more annoying than quiet people. they never know when to shut up.

 

amen, god people are annoying.

it's happening right now at my work, the boss is gone, and everyone is just talking and talking and talking

 

Yeah I don't get it either. Someone mentioned that I was weird the one day, and I asked how I was weird. They explained it was because I was quiet. I told them it was because I was shy. And they said it was still really weird and not normal. The one guy I work with hates my guts for being quiet. He told me to my face he does.

 

In my experience they find it annoying because they never remember I am around and they tend to say things that they didn't mean to, I have seen and heard things about people that the majority wouldn't believe because of a front they have put out to the general public.

 

It's because they find their quietness to be weird, they assume their quietness means their weak, they might also assume that their quietness means their crazy, they could be hurt that the quiet person doesn't want to be their friend, and etc.

 

A lot of talking is making the other person feel interesting and admirable. I guess it could be annoying if someone is not participating in this. I don't want to participate because I take it all too seriously. Seems like others aren't really serious about it and are fake and duplicitous. It makes me so uncomfortable knowing it's all a charade. I'd just rather keep my mouth closed. It's scrarewy.

Though they are fake they do seem to form bonds thru this fakeness?? I think they just grow on each other and appreciate the trying even if it's fake? Or maybe they have big egos and it's easy to buy the false compliments, etc. Or it's just a common courtesy thing. Too bad.

Yep, socially clueless.

Oh yeah, these two girls at work (A and B) seemed so close. But then A told everyone that someone told her that they used to call B an unfortunate name in college. Everybody laughed, except me and another chick. Anyhoo, A started cooling off from B and B goes to her and says openly, I miss my friend (all sweet/cutesy like). At hearing this, A quickly looks shamefully around at people who she knows heard her spread that rumor but keeps up the conversation like yeah we should do things. At least the ***** had SOME shame.

Ugh, these are the scenes that keep me a quiet loner type person.