Hey you're my opposite! lol Im a girl who gets along more with guys.
I don't think its weird because as you explained girls have been more understanding.
Girls would mostly prefer a guy who listens to them and can be a friend over Guys wanting a girl who is just a friend. I learned this.

as long as you don't feel like you're missing out on doing "guy things"...
as for me i definitely feel like im losing my girlyness, im getting a little sick of being one of the guys because im not a guy! sometimes i think like a guy X(.. and I haven't had allot of luck making female friends i guess they're not so understanding after all.
I was bullied by a guyish girl in junior high.. just throwing it out there but it didnt effect me allot my SA wasn't until high school.

Hey if you're okay with it and your girl friends ok with it, its not weird. Guys would envy you.

 

I took sociology class in college. The professor says that things that happen to you in your teenage years affects you the most personality wise. So I believe that traumatic event can explain why you are more comfortable with girls then guys.

Plus you were raised by women and your father wasn't around much right? That also explains why you are comfortable with women.

Well for me this happened when i was 16 yrs old. I was checking out this one girl in class like everyday. (give me a break, im a guy). So one day, that same girl comes up to me and asks me "how would you like it if i looked at you like this?" (she opens her eyes really big and stares at me). I guess she thought that i stared at her as if she looked like a monster or something i dont know. At the time i didnt think that would affect me that much. But then i realized I have a hard time making eye contact with girls and talking to them.

Well anyways seems to me that that guy that bullied you was just a jackass. You don't need that type of person around you. Sounds like you are gona end up like that guy in the "I love you, man" movie. haha im just kidding.

I would agree with the girl above me. I would be jealous that you have a lot of girl friends haha. Well in the future, if you ever want to make guy friends, just realize that nothing bad will happen to you because the worst already happened. It's not like they are gona stab you with a knife, unless you are in the wrong neighbor hood hahaha

 

Well anyways seems to me that that guy that bullied you was just a jackass.

You have no idea, that guy had problems. I did NOTHING to him, yet he hated my guts. Luckily he matured a little over the years.

 

My only interactions lately have been online. I find online I can talk to females much more easily. Like you said, they seem understanding.

I pretty much freeze up around girls though. Try my best to not bump into them or make any sort of physical contact because I don't want to bug them or them to see me as creepy or whatever. Just more of my mind freaking myself out.

 

Ha, the funny things is... I think I kinda am missing out on "guy things", it's a shame really. But nevertheless thanks for the advice/words of encouragement!

 

Meh, typical guy things are uninteresting to me. I was never one for sports and getting ****faced doesn't sound fun. Then there's the whole talking about sex. All. The. Damn. Time. Love having to hear that...

 

Then there's the whole talking about sex. All. The. Damn. Time. Love having to hear that...

Ha, that just reminded me of a guy friend I used to have, he was obsessed with getting a girlfriend. I remember I never seen him in a while and the first thing he asks me is "do you have a girlfriend yet?" he was a sex freak to say the least...

 

Not weird at all. My SA is nonexistent in the romantic area. Someone does not have to have SA in all areas of life. I would be a lot more comfortable going out on a date than I would be going out with a group of girls. I think your history with the same sex has a lot to do with this. Many people on this board can remember getting a lot more sh*t from the same sex growing up and it's made them distrustful.

 

I remember my psychiatrist back in 03 mentioned if I found myself relating to women alot better than guys. I said yes, he then maybe wondered if it was because they were more sympathetic than men were?

I do remember @ work I'd be much closer with girls and only the guys who I was cool with were similar to me. For some reason though, alot of these girls felt I was romantically interested in them.



This is quite true

 

It's not weird. Actually I feel just like you. I'd rather hanging out with girls instead of boys, mostly because when you hang out with boys they only talk about soccer! (I hate soccer.. Don't know how to play, Don't wanna learn, and just don't like it).
Girls talk about everything, of course sometimes I feel like I wasn't supposed to be in the crowd but I eventually end up sticking around anyway.. lol I see girls a lot more of understanding than guys are... (I actually think only gays are as understanding as girls )
I'm Bi BTW.

Hope you find this useful.

 

Well if you've never hd a bad experience with girls and you associate talking to girls with positive feelings and thoughts then you'll probably feel more comfortable around girls.

I've had negative experiences with both genders but more positive experiences with other men so I seem to feel a bit more at ease around men. I suppose it's also partly because around women feel like I need to prove myself to them in some way for them to accept me but I don't have that same type of feeling around men because I don't feel as though I have as much to prove.

 

I know exactly how you feel, i have a hard time talking to guys, even my own dad. Ladies on the other had i have no problem, i also lived with my mom and grandma and surrounded by women my whole life, and almost never see my dad.

 

So... With my SA I barely talk to anyone BUT, when I do I'm a LOT more comfortable with girls... Is this weird? (I'm a guy btw) Most guys with SA are terrified of girls, could it possibly be cause I've lived with my mom and sister my whole life? It seems whenever my dad comes over and we finally talk........ I've got absolutely NOTHING to say to him. And I remember in school when the extroverted girls tried to talk to me I actually made an effort to speak, but with the extroverted guys all I could do was nod "yes" or "no".

I think it might be because of bullying... I remember in 7th grade this one guy and me were the ONLY ones in the change room (we were in gym) and he turns to me and asks me. Why do you never talk? I mustered up my courage but the only thing that came out was a shoulder nugg, (or however you spell it) you know sorta saying "I don't know" and what he did next has probably scarred me for life.... He looks me in my eyes and calls me a p***y, then turns and walks out. I never felt more humiliated in my life, I literally just sat in the change room until gym was over....

In my opinion, girls are just more nice and understanding then guys. I don't think I've EVER had a REAL female bully, most girls just mind there business and if I don't talk to them.... They'll understand, cause they're understanding... Anyways, do you think it's possible that because of one traumatic event I could be a lot more comfortable with girls than guys? Are any of you like this? Share, please...

Hell yes brother, just treat them right and they'll treat you.

 

Thx for the replys! Real interesting reads!

 

I relate best to women. I make female friends more easily than male friends.

That being said, I don't relate to women on a sexual level, so my relationships are purely friendship based. I'm not always looking for something more, but...it gets frustrating sometimes.

 

I read somewhere that it can be easier to talk with the opposite sex because you don't see them as competition in the dating world.

You can view another person of the same sex as your opponent, therefore be intimidated or uncomfortable around them.

 

That definitely makes sense.

 

If its weird I wouldn't want to be normal.

 

im the same way..it could be because guys have to hide behind a "tough guy" barrier most of the time, or it could be because guys with anxiety are less intimidating. Girls approach me all the time and just talk to me...no guys ever do that.....i ****in hate playing sports because all the guys are these macho retarded jocks....dammit

 

I'm the opposite. Girls totally intimidate me. Lots of guys do as well, but not as much as pretty girls. Nerdy guys like me are the only people I can relate to, so I tend to cling to them.

 

i know man, i feel you

 

So... With my SA I barely talk to anyone BUT, when I do I'm a LOT more comfortable with girls... Is this weird? (I'm a guy btw) Most guys with SA are terrified of girls, could it possibly be cause I've lived with my mom and sister my whole life? It seems whenever my dad comes over and we finally talk........ I've got absolutely NOTHING to say to him. And I remember in school when the extroverted girls tried to talk to me I actually made an effort to speak, but with the extroverted guys all I could do was nod "yes" or "no".

I think it might be because of bullying... I remember in 7th grade this one guy and me were the ONLY ones in the change room (we were in gym) and he turns to me and asks me. Why do you never talk? I mustered up my courage but the only thing that came out was a shoulder nugg, (or however you spell it) you know sorta saying "I don't know" and what he did next has probably scarred me for life.... He looks me in my eyes and calls me a p***y, then turns and walks out. I never felt more humiliated in my life, I literally just sat in the change room until gym was over....

In my opinion, girls are just more nice and understanding then guys. I don't think I've EVER had a REAL female bully, most girls just mind there business and if I don't talk to them.... They'll understand, cause they're understanding... Anyways, do you think it's possible that because of one traumatic event I could be a lot more comfortable with girls than guys? Are any of you like this? Share, please...

I'm sorry to hear you had such a strange experience in the past. I myself have only had female friends, I'm not sure why but it's always been that way. I think you have it right about why it's easier to get along with girls over guys. The opposite sex is more often then not nicer, more understanding and a hell of a lot more beautiful.

So, going back to you're question "Is this weird?". I would say not at all, and there is nothing to be ashamed of either. I hope that was a helpful answer. You take care.

 

Man, I am really mad at that guy that said that to you. I seriously got worked up reading that. People like that are just...horrible human beings. I wish you could have a chance to punch him in the face. Not that it would fix anything (and violence doesn't solve anything, blah blah) but, man, it'd feel good.
That may be why. I kind of am the same way. I haven't really had a experience like that, though.

 

Man, I am really mad at that guy that said that to you. I seriously got worked up reading that. People like that are just...horrible human beings. I wish you could have a chance to punch him in the face.

Don't worry about it, that guy got what was coming to him let's just say...
It's turns out he was jealous, I was talking to his "girl" lol, those were his exact words.... He was so stupid...

 

I've never had any close female friends. They've mostly been the kind you just joke around with for a while, invite to your party, etc., i.e. fairly superficial friendships. I'd love to have some proper female friends.

Maybe they're just intimidated by my overwhelming masculinity. :b

 

ok

 

Before i had SA and if i didn't feel shy, i say i connected with girls much better then most guys so i can see how thats the case.You're in the clear dude

 

I don't think it is weird, I'm a guy and I'd rather talk to girls than guys, I actually do relate to them a little bit more, I'm not sure why, but anyways, there are some female bullies out there, so becareful, Good Luck!

 

i had a similar experience about the bullying thing. I alwayss shrug or say i dont know, i remember my dad used to get pissed off at me for saying that all the time and he still does.
I feel more comfortable with guys but also with girls who talk alot to me when i say a few words.

 

I wish that I could talk to girls easier than I can talk to guys, it's really crippling me socially.

 

Nha, it's not weird at all. Well, at least not in my opinion (and seemingly the opinion of many here). I've always been the same way myself. Never been interested in the typical guy stuff. Even as a kid, I was far more apt to play with Barbies and dress up as She-Ra than I was to pal around with G.I. Joes or terrorize the family dog with a squirt gun. Nowadays, I find far more enjoyment from romantic comedies than I do action flicks and would much rather spend a day holding a friend's purse while she shops for some new clothes than I would lounging in front of a football game with a beer in my hand. Cuold be a multitude of reasons for that, just as there could be a lot of reasons you seem to relate to and get along with women better than men. Don't worry none about it, just let it be as it shall be.