I used to stay home all the time too. I think you should start with something small, like maybe going for a short walk tomorrow, see how that goes, and build it up from there.

 

why are you sitting home doing NOTHING? what about interests and passions?

 

That is my usual day at home

Spending my time finding work

This week has been nuts

Two interviews in a day was regular in the last decade. Now it's two this week

Now, getting any interview is maybe once a month. Negotiating documents, getting paperwork ready. A big gym session before each interview. Running into friends randomly around town on my bike or on foot, getting a haircut or picking my regular meditation.

Makes all the difference when any event occurs. Saw others getting agitated with each other at home shouting about money when I thought the cash returned to her after she put some into a deal. I like these people. They're interesting. They're good to me. It's rare to see 'em get riled. I most speak to the man and woman individually and hear about the arguments...

Looking forward to winter. Being at home I feel sticky - most when keyboard & mouse get dirty and I get obsessive washing hands

 

Volunteer. Use your lack of a life for good.

 

Are the steps too big? Maybe you need to start smaller.

 

I'm the same.

1 thing I try and do is talk a walk to the local shop 1 day a week.

Apart from that, for at least 6 day's a week i'm stuck in, smoking, eating, watching tv and on the computer

 

I do take walks every day. But I've never gone anywhere unless my parents forced me to.

 

I'm the same way. Baby steps. I still hardly do anything, yet I'm still miles away from where I was 2 years ago. Just make a point to keep pushing further outside of your box. It takes a while!

 

try to learn something new even in house,try walking or running in nearby woods alone.

 

It doesn't seem like you can't get out of your house. You just don't want to because you have no reason to go or afraid to go to these place alone. You should call your friends to see if they want to tag along with you.

 

Umm... there are no friends. That's why I'm on this forum.

 

This sounds like me lately. I leave the house less and less. Sometimes I want to go to the store or mall and get something but I usually put it off unless it is something I really need like groceries.

I only leave to go to work and maybe get something to eat from a drive through etc.

 

Same here.

When you are younger you could never imagine that life could turn out to be this isolating as an adult. What a mess.

Just last week, there was an attempted murder at the corner of my street even though I live in a decent area. There was a police helicopter overhead for about 15-20 minutes and three police cars on the street corner. It's not safe out there either.

 

I work in a hospital, my job involve alot of talking but when I am not working during the weekends. I just want to shut off my system, stay in my room n watch movies on my tab. The only time I walk out of the house is to get my toiletries.. my colleagues n friends said that I am anti social n boring. I can see the weird look in their face when i hanged out with them....sometimes once a year..i dont like to attend weddings or any friends gathering either.. now my colleagues n even patients around me kept bombarding me when I was going to get married with this kinda weird character. ( well I m from an asia background so people always pop this kinda question from time to time). I am so frustrated

 

Me too. There is no place to go. It's terrible to see that one can spent a whole life just looking time passing...

 

Why don't you get off your lazy *** and do something then?

 

She can't get off her "lazy ***" and do something because she has SA.

 

This was me, until about 3 years ago. I started going for walks either in the morning or in the day or even a library. Now, hate being at home. During the time i was home i gained alot of weight and once i started going out a little bit i dropped weight real quick.

I used to be a guy who had friends and went out but due to my depression and things that went on i stayed by myself alone and rarely went out. That's kind of when the SA developed. Was always shy, but i was a "regular kid" until a few years ago.

Go somewhere at least. Take a walk, go to a library go somewhere at least you'll move around a little. I mean i've totally lost my social skill and i feel so uncomfortable around people nowadays. Feel so out of touch with peopel too. That's the result of being at home and doing nothing.

 

This is my life right now. I went overseas back in 2011 and last year, but since coming home a year ago, I haven't really done anything. I have applied for maybe two dozen jobs but haven't got any of them. All I do now is go for drives, ride my bike or just errands like shopping. 90% of my time I am at home on the computer, watching TV or reading something.

I just wish I could find some way to get out of this rut but I can't. I am just paralysed with anxiety and so can't get a job or join any activities. I haven't worked in a bit over two years now, and it seems like I can't find anything in my field. So now I'm looking at minimum wage retail jobs. It sucks. Sorry I can't offer any advice.

 

sounds like what I have been doing for the last 3 years. I just took some vacation time from work 10 days, and did absolutely nothing but watch tv/movies some video games and internet, heck I don't even know if my car will start Tuesday morning when I go back into work. However I have nothing to offer to fix it

 

Ive been laying around the house for the past seven years

 

Wow. If it was as easy as simply getting off your ***, none of us
would be struggling! How ignorant of a comment to make.. If you
don't struggle at all, then why are you even on a social anxiety forum?
This is for people with SA. If you don't have it then get out of this forum. Maybe
go find an anger management forum, Seems more up your alley . .

Anyways , I know how you feel OP.
Basically what happened to me is I've
had SA my whole life.. I went through college, graduated,
then I started having physical probs, combined with sa,
one thing led to another and now I'm in your same situation.
It's a rut. I wish I had a career that I loved but now I am
just stuck. I think taking small steps to doing things may help.
Start small with things you enjoy at home . Think of what you
love and just do it to occupy time so you don't get further into
a rut. I think in alleviating SA
it helps a lot to try to improve your mood

 

I, like many others, used to go out with friends and be social. But for the past 3 years I have basically stuck around the house. Luckily I have an awesome dog.

Use this time to sharpen a skill. I am a guitar player and have become much better as a result of being home so much. Also, I have lost weight as a result of two things: 1) I run out of food and don't feel like leaving to get more and 2) Most of my meals are made by me, so they are healthier than restaurant food.

 

I find it very hard to go outside, even in my yard my anxiety rises. I wished I could go outside and make friends easy but my social skills aren't that great.
My psychiatrist did give me assignment to go for a walk each day. I did a few and missed a few. Also it was raining for a few days and I have no rain jacket.
So I mostly stay in but I'm joining a program for mental disorders so hopefully that helps me.

 

Ive been doing the same, but i decided i want to fight back and go to college. Fight back and do something know before its too late.

 

Sometimes I feel like doing nothing all day too, I just go on the computer and browse or watch youtube videos all day... I feel like maybe it has something to do with depression? I'm kind of depressed right now and it's difficult finding motivation to do things outside of my house. Not leaving the house just gradually becomes a habit and it gets hard to break out of that cycle.

 

I have spent the last 11 years since the end of high school sitting in seclusion in my room. I had a few jobs but was ultimately bullied and harassed out of all of them. I've never had friends, but it's impossible now being that my life is so horribly boring that I have nothing to talk about or share with anyone.

I have no hobbies or passions either besides mindlessly channel surfing or browsing forums. The rest of the time I'm laying in bed sleeping or staring at the celling thinking of what went wrong in my life.

This is what it must be like to be an elderly person living alone waiting to die.