Is it just me, but I feel lonely even though I like to be alone.

For example, friends could be asking me if I wanna join them, but I decline because I want to spend time alone instead. But, later on, I get this empty feeling in my stomach filled with sadness about myself.

Does anyone else go through this? I also have SA, though it's not as 'visible' with my introvertness. ://

Would love to hear anyone else's thoughts or experiences!

I do.

I realised that my friends, even though they are good people, does not give me what I really need. Maybe they don't understand me completely, maybe I am not able to explain myself to them, or maybe I'm interested in different things that I just don't want to make compromise of.

I like to be alone. But sometimes it's a battle. Because society tells you that you shouldn't be alone. Movies you like gives you the same message. Books you read, even the music you listen, most of the time, gives you the feeling that being alone is a bad thing. That might cause the feeling you have.

Or maybe you need something else, like me, but you don't know what it is yet. We must go onto a journey, discover who we really are, what we really want, discover our purpose and then, maybe only then we can fill that emptiness that we feel inside. The urge that telling us something is not right, maybe will go away afterwards.

Thats what I feel. I don't know if this will help, but thats what I feel about myself. Even though it doesn't help me.

Good luck.

 

I think its a comfortable thing. Maybe try hanging out with them for short periods of time.

 

I want to be more verbose, but I'm malnourished to the point of stupidity, so I'll just second what you said.

 

Yes, I have felt this way many times so you are not alone in feeling this way. I think it's just the way our minds are hardwired so to speak. We prefer to be alone (which is quite alright), and yet some part of us wants to reach out to others. It's very perplexing if you ask me. Sometimes I can't figure it out. Can you be around your family without any problem? That helps me feel like I'm not alone or lonely. A little bit of socialization is very good for you, even if it's just your family. Do you have any brothers or sisters? Talk to them and tell them how you feel. It will help.

 

No i was this way for a long time. I had friends who would invite me and would tell em no and these were good friends and I blew em off cause I wanted to be by myself. As much as I enjoy my alone time, if these friends are good friends who appreciate you, then you must make the effort to spend time with them. I wish I could go back and made the effort to go out with my friends back then but they must of felt like I didn't like them cause I wanted to be by myself.

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Now you are just showing off.

 

Yes and it sucks.

 

The tension between these two forces can be really acute sometimes.

For me, I think part of it is just working myself up to be social when I wasn't planning on it. I can get good with it but it just takes a little time to get used to the idea.

 

Sometimes I get this, yeah. Like, going out and socializing doesn't sound appealing but at the same time I wish I did it.

 

Is it just me, but I feel lonely even though I like to be alone.

For example, friends could be asking me if I wanna join them, but I decline because I want to spend time alone instead. But, later on, I get this empty feeling in my stomach filled with sadness about myself.

Does anyone else go through this? I also have SA, though it's not as 'visible' with my introvertness. ://

Would love to hear anyone else's thoughts or experiences!

I'm an introvert, and I love my alone time a lot. Whenever I'm alone by myself, I rarely find myself feeling lonely. The only time I feel lonely is when I'm surrounded by people who doesn't understand me. To me, loneliness isn't about having how many people around me, but loneliness is about being misunderstood by people and having the people around me not accepting me as who I am.

 

Is it just me, but I feel lonely even though I like to be alone.

For example, friends could be asking me if I wanna join them, but I decline because I want to spend time alone instead. But, later on, I get this empty feeling in my stomach filled with sadness about myself.

Does anyone else go through this? I also have SA, though it's not as 'visible' with my introvertness. ://

Would love to hear anyone else's thoughts or experiences!

Hi men,

I can totally relate to it.
When i had friends they would ask me if i want to go out, but i often declined because i rather be alone but afterwards end up with a empty feeling. I gues the body is trying to tell you something. In the early days it meant a certain dead when you did not have a tribe to stay in. So my guess this could be some remaining part of that which is hardwired in the brain. However, it is still important to socialize. But i find it difficult myself as well.

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Thank you so much to everyone who has responded so far! It really helps and makes me warm that I'm not alone on this.

But, I think it's kinda dumb? how some people take your need to be alone so personally. Sometimes, I want to be alone because I just do. It isn't really because of them, but just for myself. I get easily drained with my energy. For a whole month this summer, I rarely spent time with anyone, declining invitations. Because of that, a 'friend' stopped contacting me at all on social media and etc. Which is fine since I was starting to realise she's not really a good friend to me in general. (lol).

Besides that, I actually find being an introvert a struggle in friend groups? By this, I mean keeping in close contact with each other and maintaining that 'closeness.' But, you really shouldn't have to put so much effort into keeping a friendship if that makes sense. I feel people who understand how us introverts work will know and still be close despite the preferences made. It makes me lonely that I can't maintain a lot of friends in the past because of this.

I don't know. It's just all really weird.

 

I feel people who understand how us introverts work will know and still be close despite the preferences made. It makes me lonely that I can't maintain a lot of friends in the past because of this.

I don't know. It's just all really weird.

I don't like people in general. They are self absorbed and usually understand little regarding how other people work and don't give two craps if they hurt others or act inconsiderate. Even my "friend" who is also an introvert, has often become angry if I dont want to socialise.
Even my parents who I have had regular contact with all my life, still struggle with understanding why I want to be alone so often.

For us introverts, we need to find: an introvert who knows how their own introversion works and is ready to be friends with an introvert, using introvert mindframe. Self-awareness and compassion and patience and all that junk. Someone who understands their own as well as their friend's needs and understands what "give and take" means. Emotionally mature people.

 

Is it just me, but I feel lonely even though I like to be alone.

For example, friends could be asking me if I wanna join them, but I decline because I want to spend time alone instead. But, later on, I get this empty feeling in my stomach filled with sadness about myself.

Does anyone else go through this? I also have SA, though it's not as 'visible' with my introvertness. ://

Would love to hear anyone else's thoughts or experiences!

Yeah, I've felt like this, there's a difference between being alone and being lonely.

I'd guess most people who feel like that are introverts like me, I join in if I feel up to it and slip out or take a break when it's too much for me.

Maybe you could try that, sometimes you surprise yourself and make it all the way to the end.