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Going to the movies by oneself

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#1 ·
I went to the movies by myself once and found it no less enjoyable than going accompanied by someone else. I can't remember which movie it was because it was many years ago. To this day, nobody knows I went to the movies by myself because I think it's very obvious that if I ever told anyone, I would be seen as an alien who just landed on Earth from another planet, or as a person in need of checking into a mental institution.

Have you been to the movies by yourself? How was your experience? Were you paranoid about running into a group and having to explain (possibly lie about) why you were there and who was with you?
 
#4 ·
My type of social anxiety differs from yours in that I feel more anxiety about people I know than about strangers.

Example: If my cousin invites me and 3 of their friends to go to the movies, I would be nervous about what these friends think about me. Other people in the movie theater would no make me anxious because they would be minding their own business and their focus on me would be minimal to non-existent in a darkly-lit theater.

I will add that it is a turn-off when I am enjoying a movie and the person next to me (Let's say a relative) makes a remark about how boring the movie is, looks at his/her watch as if hoping the movie is over, etc.

I also often laugh about a joke and my wife talks about how corny the joke was. That stops my laugh short.

For some reason, I enjoy a wide range of movies, not only the action-packed ones that many extraverts like. These movies I enjoy don't seem to entertain these outgoing people at all, and that's why I enjoy watching a movie by myself more than in the presence of someone else.
 
#9 ·
I've been to the cinema by myself 3 times so far. The first and second times, I didn't mind it too much because it was fairly quiet, which I think was because it was on the day the film was released. The third time was a little different because the film had been out for a couple of weeks, so it was more busy and felt slightly awkward, but I didn't mind too much in the end. I still enjoyed the film! I probably wouldn't recommend going to see a kids' film by yourself, though.
 
#10 ·
To this day, nobody knows I went to the movies by myself because I think it's very obvious that if I ever told anyone, I would be seen as an alien who just landed on Earth from another planet, or as a person in need of checking into a mental institution.
No they wouldn't. That's just SA talking.
I prefer to see movies alone and I've done so many times. I've often seen other people sitting alone too, and no they don't look crazy or dirty or anxious. Just ordinary people. Going to the theater alone isn't as uncommon as you may believe.
 
#14 ·
Yeah, I'd say that's true too.

It's probably mostly just that we associate going to see a movie with the things that are wrong in our lives and what we don't have, namely friends to do stuff with. It reminds us of this... but people with friends don't necessarily have to always go to the movies with other people, though they mostly probably do. Then there are people who really really like movies who probably wouldn't be able to always find people to go with anyway.
 
#12 ·
I've seen two movies by myself. It was last year on Thanksgiving day and I didn't want to be around my family so I decided to go and see a couple movies to pass the time. The theater was packed. Not only with families catching movies together, but with people just like me who were avoiding family or didn't have any to spend the holiday with. Either way, it wasn't as anxiety inducing as I thought once I got out of my car and walked in. No one looked at me strangely, or made me feel odd. There were two other women by themselves in the first movie along with me, and one other in the second. So this made me feel a little better about being alone.
 
#13 ·
I will probably go to a movie by myself soon. Found out that there is a movie theater within walking distance of campus so next semester I plan on seeing some movies on my own instead of waiting months for them to come out on disc. I don't see anything wrong with it as the whole point of seeing a movie is watching it and not talking...