Well yeah, I feel awkward around everyone. I'm accustomed to being around females, because growing up I was around mostly females (friends, relatives, etc.). There are a few things I have a hard time with, however, and they are:

- Girly-talk. I understand some of it, because I am female, but some of it is foreign to me. I can fake it, though. (hmmmm...did I say that I don't lie on here somewhere. ??? I do chameleon a little)

- Cattiness behind someone's back, and then being nice to their face. :roll Or, false compliments. Seriously, why bother.

- The things that seem to upset a lot of them and the way they show that they are upset. I don't know what to do with them when they are like that. Half the time, it just makes me annoyed. I think I'm being played. (If you watch, there's a pattern).

Anyway, I am MORE comfortable around women, because I'm used to it. It's not like I'm a tomboy or anything, but MAN they are weird!

 

With some girls my age yes.
That is mostly because of what they have done so far with their lives (its awkward for me because I cant seem to relate to them).

^ This.
And girls are so catty and there's always so much drama. And I can't/don't like to deal with that. I feel like they're always judging me. (Appearance, "coolness"/popularity, etc.)
I don't care if guys think about any of that stuff regarding me, unless it's a guy I have a crush on. Therefore, all of my good friends are guys.
And work is awesome too. I work in the kitchen with all guys. (I recently found out that only 7% of line cooks in the US are females. Fine with me!)

 

I'm not a girl but I do feel awkward sometimes around them.

 

I'm usually more uncomfortable around girls... I know were you're coming from. I think I feel more pressure to be "friendly" and it provokes alot more anxiety for me, which leads to discomfort, fear and avoidance (awkwardness).
I'm usually better one-on-one with a person no matter what gender but I find that I don't know how to relate to girls in conversations. I get uncomfortable if I get compliments on my clothes, hair, etc.. ya know? Like our compliments to each other are some way to bond. I just think in response to a compliment... "Whatta ya mean by that?" or "So, you don't like my shirt, and you are just saying that to be snide?" or "So what if you like my shirt? I don't care".

 

I'm usually more uncomfortable around girls... I know were you're coming from. I think I feel more pressure to be "friendly" and it provokes alot more anxiety for me, which leads to discomfort, fear and avoidance (awkwardness).

Yeah, I feel like if I'm around women my age we're supposed to get along and like each other. And most of the time I do like people, but I may not like them so much I want to be friends with them.

And I do feel awkward because I don't do anything that most women my age do, like be with their friends or go on dates. A girl was talking to me about her shoes a few days ago, and I was trying to say anything interesting, but the fact is I don't care about things like that, so I always seem strange to them.

 

Yes, but it's because I assume that they don't like me for whatever reason. I think past experiences with women pretending to like me when they really didn't has made me feel that way. Also, I seem to lack the ability to relate since I'm not into or only partially into girly activities and sometimes I feel like I'm treated like an alien because of that.

 

I don't get the compliments either, especially if I'm wearing something I don't like. Thats awkward to reply to.
And should I compliment something of theirs afterward?

 

No, that would sound way too contrived and fake,
girl 1: I like your sweater it's cute
girl 2: Thanks, I like your top too.

Girls know when it's not sincere and if you were to give her a compliment immediately after, it's just a sign of politeness and won't be seen as a real compliment.

Which is why you should always take the initiative to compliment your friend or a girl you're trying to be friends with on your own terms. (Even if you don't really find what she has on very appealing, it doesn't even matter, find something nice to say to her when you first see her). You can just see it in their eyes, how happy they get.

If you get a compliment from a girl, and you don't even agree with it, it doesn't matter. It might even be just their indirect way of letting you know they like you, and want to be friends. Just say "thanks, yea I got i from ____" or "thanks, I wanted to change my hair, it was getting boring". Just add a little comment after the thanks part. To the girls who are talking about "fakeness", most of us are NOT dealing with this 'Mean girl Situation', do not over-think it!!!!!!!!

I have a lot of girlfriends, but one of my close friends has NEVER given me a compliment in her life. I am pretty sure she has some form of SA, but our connection definitely doesn't seem as strong as some other friends I have who are so open about telling you what they like about you.

 

I tend to feel awkward around women around my age but it can branch out to women of any age too. It's been the worst with people (men or women) in my age group. I guess because there is a "standard" at which we are expected to act, etc at that age, and our "shortcomings" are more apparent next to people who are the of the same age as us. However when I've been around young people who seem way more confident than I am, I still feel pretty uncomfortable :um

 

yes, i definitely do. it's either because i'm attracted to them or because of my shortcomings. also i always feel out of place in the looks department. i make sure to dress nice and sometimes the clothes i wear helps a bit but i'd still feel insecure. i feel so nervous that i hardly say anything.

even at the grocery store or any other store i'd always try to go to the check out with an older person or a guy working.

 

This might sound retarded but I've always found it strange how women view themselves as a different group of people than men, as though they have something in common with other women just because they are women. Men never identify with other men because they are men, not beyond 'guy's rules' and 'guy's code' jokes. It's not bad, just interesting.

 

Yeah...although I've befriended more girls in my life than boys, but usually it's with other girls who feel the same way. Like,

Girl: "I hate other girls."
Me: "I hate other girls too."
Girl: "Wow we have so much in common!"
Me: "Let's be friends!"

 

I'm a preschool teacher and so pretty much all of my co-workers/classmates are women. I've found that even when one of them says "I don't get involved in work drama" the next thing they'll do is start badmouthing someone. I don't know if tends to be like this in other work environments, but I almost feel like I'm stuck in high school in terms of the gossip and behind-the-back teasing. I find that it's usually easier for me to talk to the women who are older and seem to have risen above the catiness. I suppose the hardest thing about this kind of environment is knowing that if people are talking about whoever is not in the room at the time, they are bound to be talking about me when I'm not there. I'm working on trying to rise above this, but it seems like some really awful part of how most women relate to each other. If this is part of being socially well-adjusted, count me out!

 

I've found that even when one of them says "I don't get involved in work drama" the next thing they'll do is start badmouthing someone. I don't know if tends to be like this in other work environments, but I almost feel like I'm stuck in high school in terms of the gossip and behind-the-back teasing. I find that it's usually easier for me to talk to the women who are older and seem to have risen above the catiness. I suppose the hardest thing about this kind of environment is knowing that if people are talking about whoever is not in the room at the time, they are bound to be talking about me when I'm not there. I'm working on trying to rise above this, but it seems like some really awful part of how most women relate to each other. If this is part of being socially well-adjusted, count me out!

The ones who advertise that they don't like drama are always, always the ones who get involved in it. This doesn't always go away with age, judging from some of my coworkers. It's hard to pretend to get along with drama queens.

 

I feel awkward around girls and guys in any social situation whether it's one on one or in a group. I've always felt like a loner, but girls tend to be more intimidating than guys for some reason.

 

Most Often - YES!

 

It depends on what girls I am around but a lot of the time yes.

 

Oh yes! They seem to tune in so quickly to each other,within minutes of being strangers they pair off or form little groups.

 

Argh YES! My SA is at its worst around women of the same or a similar age to myself. I think it's because I was badly bullied by girls for most of high school and so I have trouble trusting them. Also, I feel like I'm totally different to most women (in the things I like, and my nature/character) and I find it extremely hard to relate to them. I definitely get on better with guys.

 

Yeah, I feel ackward around women/girls who are more fashionable than myself or are loud

 

Yeah. My anxiety shoots up high whenever i'm with women that are very very confident, very very loud or very very pretty. Especially so, around my age, 23 years. Man, they not only look more mature but even lead very mature lives like moving out with their partners, having kids and even holding down a full-time job.

But ironically, I feel most comfortable with woman, especially for friendship unlike men. I don't really have real life male friends because I feel very uncomfortable with them.

I honestly think it's not about gender issues. It's just that my self-esteem went hay-wire whenever I meet people that fits into the extremely extroverted mould.

 

I'm the same way. At work i become this angry looking, anxious girl that cranks her headphones when someone around my age comes in. I cannot talk to girls, especially pretty, talkative ones. I usually talk to the older people, and avoid teenagers/twenty-somethings altogether. I can be fun and happy around the older people because i'm less insecure.

 

Yes, Definitely

Yes, I feel awkward around females many times. At work, the job seems to bring alot of competition. I don't like that and I try to get along with everyone but because I am such a thorough and hard working person, some coworkers tend to take advantage of me. After some time passes, I feel I need to stand up for myself and say "Hey, I need you to help do your part too". Well, they don't like that and there's alot of resentment towards me and gossip about me. The sad thing is....these women talk about each other behind their backs and I recognized early on that if they are gossiping about other people, YEAH...they gossiping about me too! It really made me feel highly uncomfortable at my employment. I use to make friends pretty easily but it's been harder in the past decade to find other women to hang out with that DO NOT PARTICIPATE IN " the cattiness". It's been hard to trust other women and I also was bullied in school mentally and physically by other girls.

 

Totally

I joined this site in the first place because my SA stems from anxiety around other women. I have been badly bullied ostracized and excluded about all my life. I feel very awkward. I feel totally insignificant, like somebody not worth befriending. I dont blame them. I dont think I know how to have close relationships, least of all, with women. :blank Sometimes I feel flat out hated. Women can get hostile toward other women. But maybe I am no better than they. I do feel threatened sometimes by them.

 

No, with a few exceptions.

I feel awkward around guys.

 

I'm scared of girls, uncomfortable around guys

 

Girls freak me out. Their meaner than guys. I feel very awkward around them and don't have much of them as friends. Ppl find that wierd with me being bi and all but even then I never dated a girl and don't know if I really will. I think its just a physical attraction I have to them? Girls my age are just so cruel and irritating. Their bullies =/

 

Yes, very.

I only feel comfortable around females who are quite a bit older or younger than I am. Otherwise, I don't know what to talk about and I take every compliment as a thinly veiled insult.

My boyfriend's friend came over the other day and marvelled at how clean my place was. Instead of saying, "Thanks, I try," or something normal like that, I became very anxious and muttered something about being an unemployed loser with too much time on my hands. She must have thought, "Wtf is wrong with her?"