Social Anxiety Support Forum banner

GF says she loves me for first time and our first tongue kiss! :)

2.1K views 27 replies 23 participants last post by  gunner21  
#1 ·
Hey all,

The love of my life, a gorgeous 19yo woman, who I recently entered a relationship with, admitted that she was totally in love with me, and we had our first kiss, in which she went straight for the tongue, haha:D

She said this, and wants to be with me, even after knowing that I'm a bit of a mess, with no real friends, a virgin, overweight, no real previous relationships, depression, anxiety, not in a real career yet, etc, etc. If you visit the frustration forums of this site, all that would automatically sum up to being forever alone, and even I was thinking that for years.

So, I asked her straight out: "Why me?", and she said that I was a gentleman, who is kind, caring, gentle, sensitive, loving, and she said she even likes that I'm a bit needy, she even wants to help me fight my problems:yes So much for nice guys finishing last, hey? I think women get fed up with being treated like rubbish from so-called "Alphas". Just another reason to not doom and gloom over the frustration forum.

I'm still a mess, but I'm not alone now, and it's another step forward.:D

PS: This woman came after me for the most part, all it took for me to find someone like her was to put myself out there by getting a job and being around other people. So don't stress too much if going out and finding women in clubs and what have you is not your thing, hell, I still have never gone to a nightclub, and been to a bar only once, five years ago.
 
#4 ·
I'm happy for you man. Let her know what she means to you, if ya catch my drift.

So in what setting did she come after you?

Alphas are ****ed in the head. They think they're gods gift to woman but really they just lack any substance and probably repel a lot of women. And the girls they do attract are not the ones you want to develop a long term relationship with.
 
#5 ·
So in what setting did she come after you?
We both work at a Woolworths supermarket, and she works on the self serve, while I work in grocery(Long Life department), and basically her job is to stand there watching/greeting customers, helping them with the self serve registers. I walk past the self serve worker on my way in and out of work, and give a casual hello to whoever is on there usually.

So to me, we first noticed each other on my way past self serve, but she recently admitted that she noticed me walking around the supermarket earlier than that, and the thing she noticed about me was that I was quiet, reserved, and looked like a nice person. So it went on for a little while as just casual greetings, but one day, she came up to me and introduced herself, and we started having conversations from time to time, when I saw her on the self serve. I probably could of taken things further, but I was too shy, and was actually dating another woman.(which was a disaster and nothing came out of it)

Anyway, conversation after conversation passes, and out of the blue she told me she had a dream about me, lol, I wasn't sure what to think. The next thing was her nagging me to get facebook and to add her, that was also her Christmas wish to me, lol. At the time I never did anything, as I was still chasing after the toxic dating game with the other woman.

Some time passed, I asked her to be my gym buddie, she accepted. The other woman ended things with a text me message, so I asked the 19yo if she wanted to be more than gym buddies, and she said yes, and we went from there.

PS: I still don't use Facebook.
 
#8 ·
It's not a brag post as much as it is a: "If it can happen to a mess like me, it can happen to you guys, so don't lose hope", thread.

I know it's hard, but don't let age define you,
 
#11 ·
You may be fortuitous enough to have eventually found someone, yet I'm still skeptical of my own situation, so I'll continue to strive to improve my macho facade. Hopefully if I pretend I'm awesome enough, even I might eventually get tricked into thinking so.

Kudos though.
 
#19 ·
She has an 18yo sister, but she has a boyfriend, hahah.

Thanks for the comments all:yes
 
#26 ·
she said she even likes that I'm a bit needy, she even wants to help me fight my problems:yes
Damnit, I need to find me someone like that :teeth.

Sometimes it's all just too much for me and I wish I had somebody to bring me up or just stop me from getting quite so dark and hopeless.

Gratz on the whole thing, chap :clap.
 
#27 ·
Just an update, things have been going great, we had this fun roadtrip together on Sunday. I took her to see the 12 apostles(http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Twelve_Apostles,_Victoria), and other sights such as the Loch ard Gorge(http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Loch_Ard_Gorge). Was a great day, despite the fact I got zero sleep the night before, due to anxiety over being invited to dinner at her house by her parents on that same day, lol. Dinner turned out well, all the worry was for nothing as per usual.

Things are going from strength to strength between us*touches wood*, it's very clear our love is mutual, and she even told me the other day that she sees me as long term relationship material, as in marriage etc. Shes also ready to take that next step, as in sex, as in LonelyDuckling finally losing his virginity, and to someone he loves, yay. Due to us both living at home, we're booking a hotel room for Friday, and again next week for my birthday. She even suggested getting a room with a spa, haha. I'm neeeeeeeeerrrrrrvvvvouuus as hell, so insecure about my body, so scared of messing up, but you have to start somewhere, and I know she cares, and will guide me on my path to a.. ah.. sex god, or at least a caring unselfish sexual partner, lol.

Not to become all negative all of a sudden, but I'm not sure if it's the anxiety, depression, or the fact my life has been without hope for so long, but a part of me is always expecting something to go wrong, or that do I deserve it, etc, etc, but yeah, I love this woman.

PS: Promise not to make one of those silly "I got LAID yah yah yah" threads, lol.
 
#28 ·
Congrats man, I got happy after reading your story.

I think there's still some insecurity there because of you expecting something to go wrong or not being deserving, BUT you better believe you are deserving of her. Who better to judge that than her?

I'll be cheering for you.