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Can't figure out why no one has ever liked me.

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#1 ·
It's been this way all my life. In elementary I was teased, picked on, and had no friends. I never had slumber partys, or was invited to birthday partys. I never had a birthday party for myself because I knew no one would come. I never did any of things little girls do with their friends.

In middle and high school I had a group of friends who turned out spread awful rumors about me, gossiped and laughed at me behind my back, never seem interested in my presence. I was hardly invited to do anything out side of school. I was never invited to major events in my "friends" lives. Guys never seemed interested in me at all. If I did get close to someone the rumors about me ,and all negativity associated with me was quick to send them away. I was never the person that anyone was ever excited to see. I was never even the person that was missed when I wasn't around. I really don't think anyone cared if I was around or not. I finally quit hanging out with that group of friends and made new friends. Even though this new group never spread rumors about me, they never seemed to care if I was around or not either. I was never invited to do anything with them. I felt worthless like I didn't matter to anyone. I thought by the time I graduated and moved on with my life things would change.

After highschool, I moved to another city and started working at a restaurant. I never felt like I fit in there. It was a Mexican restaurant, and the majority of the crew was Hispanic. They all spoke Spanish, and never tried to include me in in any conversation. I tried to engage many of them, and get closer but it never seemed to matter. Any of the guys I found interesting never were interested in me. No one seemed interested in even being my friend. The same thing happened at other restaurants I worked at.

I finally met a guy that seemed really into me, and we eventually married. I feel like a big reason I married him was because he was interested in me and I craved a connection so deeply. We didn't have a wedding because I didn't have any friends to be brides maids or really know anyone to even invite to wedding. I felt like such a loser. His confessed to me recently that his friends don't like me, they just act kind around me because of my husband.

I can't figure out why no one likes me. I'm a kind person. I don't gossip or spread rumors. I keep secrets. I try to find the good in everyone. I'm good natured, and am usually in a good humorous mood. I'm kind of attractive. I don't weigh a lot. I have great hygiene. I just can't figure out why nobody likes me. I can't think of anything wrong I could be doing. Even my family doesn't seem to like me that much. I'm not close with any of the my cousins, aunts, uncles, grand parents, siblings, my father, and I'm close with my mother but she has always perfected my brother. Sometimes I feel like my husband doesn't like me. He's very well liked, and people adore him. It's so humilating not having friends or any one ever wantin anything to do with me, while he has so many. He has even quit hanging out with his friends so much because he feels bad knowing I don't have anyone who wants to hang out with me.

I have always wished I had a group of girl friends that are there for each other. It makes me so envious seeing groups of girls having fun together. I want that so bad, but nobody seems to like me. Why? What am I doing so wrong that the whole world hates me???
 
#2 ·
I identify with this very much. I wish I had an answer for you. Sometimes I wonder if there is just an "aura", "force", or some plain ole universal energy that puts people against me.

I wouldn't say I'm ever hated...but despite what I see are all positive efforts, ultimately I seem to turn people off to accepting me as a close contact, friend, etc.

I just keep telling myself the same thing I repeat on SAS for many things.... I know I can't control whatever someone thinks, feels, or does. I do my best to influence positive feelings towards me, but ultimately it's out of my hands.
 
#3 ·
I've heard so many stories similar to yours, so you're not alone.

As to why people don't like you -- have people ever insulted you or said something unkind to you? What did they say? That might give you some insight as to why people might dislike you.

Ultimately though, it all boils down to how you make people feel. If you make them feel uncomfortable, if they can't connect with you, if they sense there is something off, then naturally people are going to not like you and want to avoid you.
 
#4 ·
I just attribute it now to the *******ness of the world instead of us. There's nothing I can do about it, if the world treats me like ****. I'll just give them what they want by becoming colder. It's unavoidable.

Sometimes I'd like to believe that there is indeed some aura about us, some kick-me sign pasted on our backs. Somehow something painted us in some pheromone that indicates to everyone else our only purpose is to be abused.
 
#6 ·
It's all done by hybrid quantum supercomputers, they did that to me in school, and turned my family against me with false deception, getting a job is extremely hard, and they change their perspective to make you look troublesome. These things managed to screw me up in school, getting me suspended and left back twice, and lectured for the wrong reason to actually make the person see it as realistic, no matter what evidence you provide even scientific evidence, you will be poorly judged by their deluded perception, and they have a false belief thinking that's how everything works which is programmed by this system to make them have authorization to label you to keep you mentally isolated. You'll be treated by what currently applied to the system, and how the machines dictate your consciousness, plus your environment.

< That's my proof, I should of use gadgets last time in Summer 2011 with my cousin calling the cops saying I have a knife using my iPod Touch.

Trying to make me look like OJ and 2Pac.