That sounds an awful lot like me at 23. Though I'd graduated college by then I didn't have a job, little reason to leave the house and hadn't had a friend since my sophomore year of high school. I didn't start dating until I was 25.

Yeah. I know what you're going through.

Consider yourself welcome here.

 

That sounds an awful lot like me at 23. Though I'd graduated college by then I didn't have a job, little reason to leave the house and hadn't had a friend since my sophomore year of high school. I didn't start dating until I was 25.

Yeah. I know what you're going through.

Consider yourself welcome here.

Ye, I graduated from college not so long ago. Finished with a 3rd class. Never really had any friends whilst I was there. Used to just spend most of the time in the library. Strange thing is, I kind of enjoyed it, being around all those people. I would give anything to be in that situation now. I miss it so much. I miss the library. How sad is that? Used to just watch people in groups in friends having a laugh and just wished I could have been part of a group like that.

 

Yeah I am your age and have a lot of the same going on. I do have a small social life but the no girlfriend/job thing is something I can definitely relate to.

 

Hey mikesmith welcome. :hyper

 

Welcome, MikeSmith!

 

that's me (19 though)

 

Hey, welcome to the forums!

 

Hi yep I can relate, though I had a boyfriend for a while (it's not as great as people make it out to be)..

 

That's me at 37! Lol. It's so great to be able to say that and be understood.

Well, that was totally me at 19...and 23...and 27. I didn't get any semblance of a social life until 28. Since then...it's been online affairs off and on, nothing of permanence. I have made some improvements, but not enough. I've had four girlfriends.

I say find a reason to chance.

I'd rather not be an old man and look back and feel I wasted my life with "what if"s.

 

Well, I'm 23, I have no job, no boyfriend, but I do have some semblance of a social life and some friends. I only leave the house when I have school or am hanging out with my sister and I do spend an inordinate amt of time on the computer. Btw, welcome to SAS! :wel

 

welcome to sas mike i have similar problems and im 12 years older than you at 35.We are all socially shy here and hope to support you the best we can:wels

 

That's pretty much my life. I have a few friends, but none that live nearby.

 

at least you have the internet. welcome

 

Thats me right now. I had one girlfriend for 1 year ending about 1 year ago, no friends, on social assistance, living with parents. I don't even want to do anything though. I dislike, or am disinterested in nearly everyone I've ever met, but still get lonely. Have any of you read Generation A? I want that drug Solon.

 

I'm around there. Although I always still feel like I'm 16. I kid you not - whenever I'm asked my age on applications, my first instinct tells me to put down 16...

Oh yeah and I'm pretty much in the same neighbourhood. Forever alone lol.

 

On a plus I like your name, Mike Smith. Also like reading too, and the computer.
Feel free to p.m. if you ever want/need a chat.

 

Welcome to SAS.

 

You think that's bad!

I'm 17 years old, never been kissed, never had a boyfriend!

How you doin'? Lmao jk.

 

I'm on a similar boat. I'm 20 and never had a boyfriend or dated. I currently don't have a job so I rarely get out of the house anymore, but I'm looking. I hardly ever see my friends since they always seem to be busy. I just graduated from a community college and didn't get involved too much. It's hard for me to make new friends. Although I am working on getting out of shell, putting myself out there, and am seeing a good therapist now. Hopefully things will soon change for me.

 

Im 19, no job,no social life, guys make me feel worse about myself. Being single is better than getting hurt and all of the drama , well im a drama queen I guess. I wish you luck, and never lose hope, because one day you'll get all those things

 

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When I first turned 23 I was unemployed and without a girlfriend. In practice I didn't have friends. I had let myself lose touch and am pretty uncomfortable with making random calls to catch up, in case they no longer care.

Don't currently have a girlfriend but I found a job and hang out with some people now and again, so it can get better. Not happy with the specifics of my situation, but I'm moving in the right direction. I'm sure you will too.

And you know, this stuff is all linked together. It's tough to find a job right now. A lot of us are probably weak interviewees and it makes it harder. And it's tough to have a social life without money. When things start looking up for you, I think there's going to be a real sudden difference.

 

BE optimistic,oneday you can get it
i hope bright tomorrow for you

 

I'm on the same boat as you friend. I'm 22, I quit my job about a year and a half ago, I've never had a girl friend. I live with my parents and very rarely leave my parents house. At least you graduated from college. I have not been doing so well in school ever since I quit my job. I thought quitting would give me more time to focus on school, instead it made me lavy, board, and very depressed. In the past year and a half I've signed up for 13 classes and have only passed 4 of them. I've wasted a lot of time and money. If I hadn't drop those classes I would have been done with community college.

I'm very thankful you posted this a couple of years ago because if you hadn't I may have never found this web site. Maybe now I can chat with more people who are in similar situations as mine.

 

I'm on the same boat as you friend. I'm 22, I quit my job about a year and a half ago, I've never had a girl friend. I live with my parents and very rarely leave my parents house. At least you graduated from college. I have not been doing so well in school ever since I quit my job. I thought quitting would give me more time to focus on school, instead it made me lazy, bored, and very depressed. In the past year and a half I've signed up for 13 classes and have only passed 4 of them. I've wasted a lot of time and money. If I hadn't drop those classes I would have been done with community college.

I can relate to this. I've done this. Now, I'm just trying to deal with the amount of college work that I can handle best. Just 2-3 classes per semester for me.

 

We are sailing in the same boat my friend. Welcome

 

I'm 30, dealing with a health condition that robs me of the ability to swallow solid foods, don't date, don't have a girlfriend, don't have much of a social life (well, I've got a few people that I see now and then, but for the most part it's just me, and I'm alright with it most of the time), uh... don't have a job because of the health condition (gets in the way), and going to school and learning a lot and hoping to find out what it is God put me on the earth to do. All in all, things look like they should be alright, but there are these problems of self-esteem.

Whoa, I should have put all of this into my introductory thread. Oh, well, someone'll read it.