I know exactly what you're talking about. i never talk about what i like. music, hobbies, movies etc. it's all very personal to me and talking about it feels emberrasing. sometimes you just have to talk about it and then i either just say something mainstream everybody likes or i try to ask what they like.
kinda dislike talking about anything personal really

 

Definitely with you both on this. Even if I'm with people I"m mostly comfortable with, as soon as this sort of question arises I just withdraw entirely.

Worst is the people who won't take a vague answer and press you on it to get something out of you. 'Okay if you don't have a favourite, what was the last one that you liked?' or such. I mean it may be poor social skills to not be able to answer simple questions about what you like, but it's even worse to be pressuring someone who clearly doesn't want to talk about something.

 

Not into the latest pop music. I find most modern art and entertainment to be absolute garbage. TV shows, movies, mostly trash. Not into sports. So I really don't have much to talk about with most people. And what interests me (jazz, space science, recreational drugs), mostly bores others.

 

yeah been having the same issues before hated to tell people what type of music i liked or movies or whatever cuz i was scared of being judged i guess! :/

 

Did you ever try to figure out why you're afraid of other people finding out what you like? Is it possible that you're afraid of being ridiculed for your taste?

It's very unlikely that this would happen especially among "grown ups". High school can be different because everyone is full of hormones and people want to appear "cool"... sometimes at an expense of others. But if you consider that this is because their self-esteem is low and needs external validation, then it gets easier and you stop caring what they think.

Hope this helps.

 

I'd say it's because the people asking are friends with people who share similar tastes. Therefore, if I give a taste that's different, even regarded as dumb or silly or uninteresting, then I have no shot with them because what really then will there be to talk about?
Either way, I'm done.

A lot of times people tend to want to know more, especially with some of my nerdier interests, which has slowly helped.

Because of this fear, I've actually dropped or scaled down a lot of my nerdier interests sadly.

 

Yes! I love anime, trance music, basketball, video games. But I'm hesitant to bring that up with others for fear they will dislike me because of it? I wish I could find a girl that loved a few of those things as much as I did and we could enjoy it together.

 

...trance music...

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I never talk about the music I like... because no one else likes it. It's extremely rare to meet someone that knows of that genre's existence, let alone like it. So I just refuse to answer to people when they ask me about music.

You can't just not tell us! How are we supposed to judge you now?!

 

yeah, too personal things for me to share

 

I never talk about the music I like... because no one else likes it. It's extremely rare to meet someone that knows of that genre's existence, let alone like it. So I just refuse to answer to people when they ask me about music.

 

What is this mysterious genre?

 

I actually love talking about the stuff I'm into. But I know someone who is the same way as you, OP.

 

I feel the same way.. I don't mention it because usually I can never find a person who likes the same stuff as I do and even if they did like it, I'm really not sure how to talk about it.

Is there a reason why you don't like having them know? Just.. having similarities or anxious about having to explain why you like it to them?

 

Here's something I don't care about anymore that used to bother me. Now it all revolves around you don't work so you can't develop any interests that you have and can't develop new ones that cost money. But the job website won't email me my password at this moment.

 

I feel I kill conversation

when I bring up my topic favourites.

actually the double entendre

of spewing all my thoughts onto people

same as any interview. I don't like inane, bland questions. I want to say shut up & listen to me; although I know it's not productive, I like my opinions. I like anyone who thinks different to sheep.

 

I don't really have a problem talking to people about stuff like this, I actually like it as a topic of conversation. But wierdly, I do feel super self conscious watching stuff or listening to music around people if I don't know whether they'd like it or think they might not like it.

I can relate to not wanting people to know stuff about you - for me I hate telling people what I did on the weekend or in the evenings - because its usually nothing! But just in general I don't like the idea of people knowing how I spend my time.

 

But wierdly, I do feel super self conscious watching stuff or listening to music around people if I don't know whether they'd like it or think they might not like it.

I can relate to not wanting people to know stuff about you - for me I hate telling people what I did on the weekend or in the evenings - because its usually nothing! But just in general I don't like the idea of people knowing how I spend my time.

Pretty much that. Anything I really like, if I'm watching it/listening to it with someone else or describing it to someone else, suddenly strikes me as very very lame and I feel bad for subjecting them to it or whatever I do for fun just seems really inadequate. It's embarrassing to share it, like, "yes, this is apparently all it takes to amuse me. This is actually how I chose to spend my time." :|

 

I'm exactly the same. In school I tried to reveal as little as possible about myself answering "I don't know" or "It doesn't matter" when asked questions about my life. I felt ashamed to reveal anything about my hobbies.

When someone asked me what I watched on TV, I just said "Anything that's on", I was too embarrassed to talk about the TV programmes I liked watching.

 

Yup. This is by far my worst problem when trying to meet people. I HATE talking about myself and always feel so insecure. Even though most of the things I like are mainstream, I still can't let it out.

 

I get this feeling a lot too. I've gotten better about talking about my interests (such as not hiding what I'm doing when I go on vacations at work) but a lot of times I still worry that either people will think I'm weird or that they just will do whatever they can to disengage with me since they really aren't interested. A lot of times people tend to want to know more, especially with some of my nerdier interests, which has slowly helped.

 

I don't talk about interests because i don't know much about anything. I'll look like a poser in anything i try to talk about

 

I've met some people that have the same problem as you

 

Ooh I have this. I hate telling people about my interests because I feel like they will judge me based on my interests. That's another reason why I suck at making friends/getting to know people. I am just afraid to show others my personality/who I am in fear that they won't like me. :blank

 

I dont either.

 

Thanks guys. I never thought there would be this many people with the same problem as me. ^-^

 

Yep.

I'm the same way. I think there are two things that happen for me: a.) my mind just goes blank and I can't think of even a "safe" answer (i.e. an interest that I know I share with many others); and b.) I have been so isolated and absorbed in other issues that I have not exposed myself to enough to really have interests or hobbies. Also I just get really self-conscious around peers especially. I'm 25 but I feel like I'm such a child and out of touch with my age group.

 

Yes, especially music and the fact that I'm into gaming. I have been exactly the same but have learnt now to just start embracing all the things I like and being open about them to new people I meet. Most of the music I listen to most people haven't heard of. The thing is that a lot of my close friends don't know this stuff about me because it's too late to tell them now! Haha. They just think I'm a bit backward and that I'm not so into music and accept it. I've recently talked about a lot of book series and tv shows that I'm into and my best friend actually said to me "I never knew that, there's so much I don't know about you" made me feel kinda bad.

 

Like a lot in here this can be a problem especially if you are the first to do it because I fear I may be the last and that I am the only one putting myself out there and it gives me the spotlight that triggers anxiety. I can't help but to be concerned about is that what you say it is just used for ridicule and conversation becomes of disagreement which I know will lead to no where but possibly anger, anxiety, and shame because at the end of day interests are purely subjective anyway.

 

I will answer my favorites here, because my interests makes me Me, and somewhere out there, other people share the same interests. One of my best friends shares the same favorite song & TV show as I do, other friends share my favorite band & collect the same things, etc... among other things.

Favorites...
Song: Stop & Goodbye by Spice Girls
TV Show: Golden Girls, Ghost Whisperer
Website: Don't really have one, but I check Amazon every day
Movie: Friday the 13th, Halloween, Child's Play, The Little Mermaid
Book: The Story of Edgar Sawtelle, Room, I Know This Much Is True

If I was afraid to say what I like, and what I don't, I wouldn't have the great people I've surrounded myself with today. If someone doesn't like what I like, we probably don't have much in common and that's one person I don't need to pretend to impress or waste my time around.