I think the median age here is somewhere in the early twenties. I'll never venture into the chat room for the reasons you mention. I feel it just isn't the right place for me.

On the other hand, i do own a hoodie, and am proud of it.

 

I think the median age here is somewhere in the early twenties. I'll never venture into the chat room for the reasons you mention. I feel it just isn't the right place for me.

On the other hand, i do own a hoodie, and am proud of it.

I wouldn't go in the chat room either -- it'd be like their mother walking in.

I wear a hoodie almost every day. There's no age limit on those, is there???

 

I'm older as well and the chat room is of no use. I may run across a few threads that apply but most of them are concerning students or teens getting along at home or in school. Alot of the older people with sa go to support groups rather than online I guess. You could try the support groups in your area through the local Nami organization. http://www.nami.org/Template.cfm?Section=Your_Local_NAMI&Template=/CustomSource/AffiliateFinder.cfm

 

Thanks NicoShy that Nami thing is only for around the states though unfortunately.
I am seeking local help but it's proving hard to find, as is trying to get a job right now!

I've just been on SAUK the UK site for social anxiety and will look to spending more time on there. I prefer it here though as it's easier to navigate and it feels more welcoming.
Oh well I'm determined to make some changes for 2010, there will be less talk and more action.

 

There is one meetup.com group in Malvern and one in Birmingham. Not sure if they are reachable for you:
http://www.meetup.com/cities/gb/l6/abcott/groups/health/?radius=50.0

Note: I seem to post a lot of links to meetup.com. I am not endorsing them in any way. Just suggestions as it happens to be the only central place I know to look for meetup groups.

 

Yeah I feel a little out of place on this site too. though I've kinda gotten use to that feeling.

But I didn't have this place for back up when I was in my late teens and early twenties, so I'm making up for lost time.


Yeah, and I'll wear hoodies till the day I die!

 

Yeah I feel a little out of place on this site too. though I've kinda gotten use to that feeling.

But I didn't have this place for back up when I was in my late teens and early twenties so I'm making up for lost time.

Yeah, and I'll wear hoodies till the day I die!

I was thinking that, about not having the internet and stuff when I was in my teens and early twenties. Though I did get it when I was 24 - 25, e.g 9 years ago when it was just becoming affordable for the masses here.

Never looked for any support until now because I didn't know about SA and that I had it.

 

No!! there is no "age limit" for hoodies!! Mature hoodie wearers unite! the time is NOW.

I expect to see some pictures of hoodies here. don't let me down!

 

No!! there is no "age limit" for hoodies!!

When I was a teenager I had a hoodie, but it was attached to my anorakie and at that time it wasn't "cool" to put the hoodie over your headie even when it was rainie. :roll

I've never ventured into chat, but that's more because of general live-interaction anxiety than the age difference. I avoid paying compliments to younger people in the Photos thread in case my age makes it come across as being paedo-pervy. When it appears that someone's photo has been ignored, I'll often spend ages writing something complimentary... but I always delete it.

 

great. now my hoodie is bugging me to show it off.....

 

Yep, you better put another picture of yourself on the photo thread
+ hoodie! :teeth

 

What color is it?

 

The age issue has always been quite uncomfortable for me as well. I've often wished there was a site just for us. You do tend to feel a little like a leering,creep at times when reading so many posts from the younger ones. I tend to seek out the older members and engage in many more conversations with them.
I don't come here to be "cured" in any way,as I don't think that's a possibility for me. I'm here more for friendship and interaction as I have very little of that in real life. If I pick up a little helpful advice here or there,that's great and I consider it a bonus! Many of us have rather empty lives,at least in certain ways-years of being unable to form and/or maintain relationships tends to make for a hollow life. Sometimes I just come here to remind myself I'm not alone with this and to have my "voice" and personality exposed a little. Just a sort of acknowledgement that I'm here and I'm not invisible - I really do exist.

 

Sometimes I just come here to remind myself I'm not alone with this and to have my "voice" and personality exposed a little. Just a sort of acknowledgement that I'm here and I'm not invisible - I really do exist.

I always enjoy reading your posts and the threads you start. I also find it easier to voice certain aspects of my personality here, and I feel like I need to do it. Perhaps one day the online and the offline will merge a bit.

 

What Shall We Do?

Yeah I feel a little "dated" on this site too. Yet even though there's a forum (Crickets) for the last hoorah gang, not many people seem to post there.

which leaves this guy :con scratching his head...and this guy:stu confused, but this guy here:hahajust thinks it's funny as hell.
And me, well I just think :dial

 

Yeah I feel a little "dated" on this site too. Yet even though there's a forum (Crickets) for the last hoorah gang, not many people seem to post there.

which leaves this guy :con scratching his head...and this guy:stu confused, but this guy here:hahajust thinks it's funny as hell.
And me, well I just think :dial

Lol!

 

Hoodie Hoo!!

Hey, I got a hoodie too!...it's pink:kma

 

It does throw off for a second. I just try to ignore and push through though.

Seeing so many youngsters here makes me both sad I couldn't find help earlier and happy for the youngsters that hopefully they won't have to suffer as long as I have; or are at least trying to do something about it.

 

Seeing so many youngsters here makes me both sad I couldn't find help earlier and happy for the youngsters that hopefully they won't have to suffer as long as I have; or are at least trying to do something about it.

Yes it's good the younger ones on here have realised what is wrong with them. I wouldn't wish anyone to end up in their 30's and older in the same situation in life.

 

Anyone feel too old to take part?

Yes.

I think, I only keep visiting out of habit because years ago this site and certain people were very, very supportive to me and I like reading the opinions of an international community to current affairs

 

Yes, I know what you mean, Jigirk. I tend not to visit the SA-specific parts of the board any more, not because I've overcome SA, but because I feel too old to be there. Where the discussion is more general, I feel less out of place.

 

I have noticed that most active users either posting, or in the chat room are aged 16 - 22-3-4 ish.

I'm feeling if you've still got SA issues 25+ you are a bit of a lost cause, especially if you are male. I feel embarrassed trying to take part now.

Also because I have no real friends I added lots off this forum on to my facebook and some on skype. Most adds are the younger members I've noticed, which feels wrong.
I haven't chatted or talked to anyone really either yet through these applications. I'd like more older females on my lists especially as those are the ones I'd be looking for romantically, though I'm just really looking for friends.

Do any others 25+ get what I mean and feel the same?

You can develop SA at any age. I think it's only natural for more younger people to use these forums because they've been raised on the computer. I find some young people I can relate to as far as common interests, values, personalities, etc. Some I don't relate to much except that they have SA. I'm so glad whenever I see someone older post. Then I don't feel like such a butinsky.

 

You can develop SA at any age. I think it's only natural for more younger people to use these forums because they've been raised on the computer. I find some young people I can relate to as far as common interests, values, personalities, etc. Some I don't relate to much except that they have SA. I'm so glad whenever I see someone older post. Then I don't feel like such a butinsky.

I feel exactly the same. When I first joined most of the posters seemed to be on average 17 or 18, I thought OMG, this feels weird.
Anywho, I just barged in regardless, so glad the young ones have an outlet though, wish I had at their age. :teeth

 

I'm so glad that i'm not the only one feeling this way!!!

I've just recently come back to this site after a few months away (been really depressed lately with the thought of spending Christmas and NYE alone), and just feel so out of place with so many younger people here. I'm 31 and still feel young usually, but here I feel too old and out of place. Thanks you guys for being here...I may have to start hanging out in the crickets forum more often!

Where did the last ten years go???!!! One thing, i'm glad the younger people on the site have realised why they are the way they are at a younger age, and hopefully they'll find a solution while they are still young. I didn't realise what was wrong with me until I hit 30, and now it seems too late to make up for my complete lack of life experience. I know its never really too late, but its so embarrassing whenever anyone finds out the things i've yet to do.

I hope I can fit in here, I just feel like a complete outsider on the other forums here.

 

I didn't realise what was wrong with me until I hit 30, and now it seems too late to make up for my complete lack of life experience. I know its never really too late, but its so embarrassing whenever anyone finds out the things i've yet to do.

Oh Jesus, this goes through my head every waking second.

 

Glad to see everybody here!

:b:b:banana:banana
YEH,
CRICKETS !!! :banana:banana :clap:clap:clap:yes

 

I'm so glad I am one!

 

Hey what the hell is wrong with hoodies? They are cool. If there's an age limit then I'll just keep violating it.

And yes, I definitely know what you guys mean. So much time has passed me by and I haven't experienced most things normal people do in their teens and twenties. I don't let the thought bother me so much on message boards but it's a major concern "in real life".

 

What about a Snuggie? I prefer those to hoodies!

Seriously, I've got the same level of SA years ago as I do now, so posting out there is still trying to solve the same old problem everyone else has. Though those social security checks should pay for my new hoodie. Or a Snuggie..

 

What about a Snuggie? I prefer those to hoodies!

Seriously, I've got the same level of SA years ago as I do now, so posting out there is still trying to solve the same old problem everyone else has. Though those social security checks should pay for my new hoodie. Or a Snuggie..

as long as you don't need a Huggie, i guess you're all right....

 

^lol

 

okay, here we are the day I took my hoodie out for a walk (before I fell on my ***)

 

You don't look 45. I think it's great that more people are not feeling bound by age.

 

^ hey...a 19-year-old hottie in a hoodie :yes

 

I say - participate.....show some of these people on this site that we still got it AND THEN SOME! :lol

I can't believe college-aged kids have asked me what happened with the first Gulf War in 1991 already? :eyes I was only in high school at the time. :fall

 

I can't believe [...]

Face it, you're almost 40k posts. It takes its toll. :teeth

 

I dread the day some kid calls me pops. I'm about as mature as your average teenager though. That's gotta count for something. Really. I was chatting with a woman on a dating site and she told me I acted like her teenage son. I took it as a compliment. Whay don't older people take the threat of a zombie apocolypse seriously??????????

 

It hasn't started to bother me yet. That's only because I just got here, and because I generally don't act my age anyway. Although I should, because trying to be youthful has its disadvantages in some ways.