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I've had an awful week dealing with work colleagues. I know I'm new but I shouldn't be treated with disrespect just for asking questions or passing work back to a colleague..........................................I feel really quite inadequate, colleagues who speak to me are at times rude (I've dealt with rudeness before but this is different - it feels as though I'm an outsider trying to break in). When I've tried to pass work back I get verbal rudeness and rejection that I shoudn't be doing this cos I'm new and don't know what I'm doing and managers can see whats going on and do nothing. I was asked to write a polite email about the situation, which has made me look the bad guy because I've had to name a colleague and I didn't explain myself properly - the office manager doesn't really say much to me and at times when I've arrived and said good morning I'm blanked. I get the impression that I'm being setup for a fall. You can better your bottom dollar that if I behaved in a similiar way, I would have a compliant made against me. It seems as though my colleagues know what I'm about (weak and not mentally strong), just because I'm not necessarily looking for confrontation and feel they can treat me this way. Damn this condition.................................wish I could stand up for myself properly
 

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Right it is rough.......................................I think I do like the work it's just the people. I mean if I stand up for myself (which I have done in part by defending myself), I'm an unreasonable person AND MADE TO FEEL THE BAD GUYT but IF I just don't do anything, I'm weak. I just feel unsupported by other colleagues or managers, who on the surface are fine but there is certainly an unpleasant vibe.........................maybe it's me I don't know - worried that I'm going to be exposed, worried that colleagues are potting against me and be forced out - silly I know but now getting angry because I can't stop thinkting about it and has spoiled my Easter weekend.

I know there are certain things I can do but just want to void any kind of confrontation or hassle. Wish I could just go to work (which is hard enough in its self), do what I need to do, get on with people and go home.

I notice the way colleagues look at me with such contempt, if I could just explain why I'm the way I am maybe it would be better - I worry about every possible situation at work and when colleagues make it difficult it's even worst to cope and deal with.

Dreading going back over Easter but I try to keep saying that its just a job (which I need) and I will get through it - but I'm not the strong type and think I'm gonna fail to cope over what most people consider minor issues.
 
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