[david90]

From past experiences, not being yourself is a lose lose situation. Even when you completely change the way you act, dress and talk, a group/person might still not accept you. Even if they do accept you, you still lose. For example you change the way you act, dress and talk to fit in with a group. The group sees similarity in you so they accept you. Although it might seem like a good thing that the group accepts you, it is not because you are reinforcing the belief that you're real self is not good enough. This is very damaging to your self esteem on a subconscious level. In addition you have to constantly keep up the fake persona to continue to fit in.

The best thing to do socially is to be yourself. If somebody likes you for the REAL you, then this will reinforce the belief that your real self is lovable and is wonderful. If you put up an act, all you're doing is telling yourself "I'm not good enough so I have to change myself."

Anybody agrees?

 

[david90]

I don't think I'll ever have any friends. If I don't talk, people don't like it and when I do, they don't like what they hear since I can get pretty bizar.

I'm willing to bet that you saw people who you think is more bizarre than you but somehow people like them. Have you seen people like like that? In my opinion dennis rodman is pretty bizarre people but a lot of people like him. Trying watching celebrity apprentice.

Trust me when I say that even if you're a bizarre guy, there are people that will like you for you. Weird people with a normal self esteem and confidence will brush off people that don't like them like ants. They don't think about it much. They will just move on to other people and eventually find somebody that likes them for them.
It's a numbers game.

I read that whatever decision a president makes, there will always be about 25% of people who are against the decision.

 

[david90]

Exactly, what if you try to improve yourself, is that lying?
Is it not being yourself?

Improving yourself should mean learning to be comfortable with yourself.