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For those who have had relationships, and broken up, why did it fail?


For me, I was because i didnt really have a life outside of work and spending time with her. Otherwords, when I wasnt at work, or with her, i didnt have anything to do. She said she wanted to be with someone who had a real life. so yeah...how did yours fail?
 

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Two reasons, first was SA. I was fine during the dating period but as soon as it became serious I simply could not handle it, I felt inadequate and useless and also had major anxiety about the fact that I would be expected to go out a lot with her and her friends etc.

Second was that she was a staunch Cristian which simply would not have worked in the long run, but anyway.

i did learn a lot from the experience though and am thankful for that.
 

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She realized she still loved her ex, but I think my SA had something to do with it.
 

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Lets see.. My last real relationship, I had teenage jealousy issues. I cheated. I lost the best thing to ever happen to me.

The next relationship. I had no more capacity to feel love. It was more of a rebound. :(

To this day, I have not dated. Sad, sad me. Oh well.
 

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We were too different and she felt strange about my SA or whatever she thought it was that caused me to behave the way i did at the time.

It was a very poisonous relationship for me because it was the first time in a long time i had become majorly depressed again while repeating senior year at high school. She was definately very pretty but she was also very rigid and formal.
 

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she was a hypocritical ***** with a massive complex around other women. it was ok for her to have all male friends but not ok for me to talk to a buddies girlfriend about the weather. not that id listen to her or she had that kind of control over me but thats how things were. she was ****ing crazy. but in the end it was my sa that split us up.
 

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My last one was online only and it ended because he was a jerk who cared more about his female friends (online and off) then me.
 

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Mine was long-distance, she was 4 years younger than me (which while I hate to be stereotypical but she was very immature and naive) I also was more fascinated that she had a crush on me than being with her. I learned from that realtionship that I need a life outside of a girlfriend, which I am working towards.
 

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Because i was too afraid to go anywhere with him, i'd tense up and become extremely quiet if we were in public together. The same around his family. So because of this he said he didn't think i was 'ready' for a relationship. So basically we broke up because of my SA.
 

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I broke up with my last bf because I felt no spiritual connection. I wasn't infatuated with him. The last relationship where I was head over heals ended because I was the only one who felt it was a relationship, and he liked using the excuse that we had no distinct label, and thus no boundaries. Ended up having another girlfriend, lying to me about it, and thus cheating on me in my eyes. I'm pretty sure he would deny this story, but I know how it went. We were very connected, and we still consider one another friends because I am still young and all forgiving, though I can't imagine I will stay that way forever.

A lot of that blindness/one sidedness I think came simply from my inexperience with emotional relationships.
 

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well, he was the most extroverted person i've ever met (which would've been a disaster for us in the long run) but in the end we broke up because i let my abandonment issues control my actions.
 

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wow shygirl, I can sure relate to that.

After my first husband died suddenly, I rebounded into just what you described... someone who seemed wonderful and was lying about everything he was and what he wanted in life and what he were able to give.

It was a hard 4 years but I got out with my son and most of my sanity.
 

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So many reasons, so little time lol. I think mainly it was because we both had a lot of problems that neither one of us could get past at the time to make a relationship work.
 

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Mine was long-distance, she was 4 years younger than me (which while I hate to be stereotypical but she was very immature and naive) I also was more fascinated that she had a crush on me than being with her. I learned from that realtionship that I need a life outside of a girlfriend, which I am working towards.
Basically this, only mine was two years younger than I was.
 

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The first relationship ended cause he was a narcisstic jerk who was emotionally abusive. Secondly, it ended cause I was too dependent, self-conscious and my SA was horrible. I was very depressed cause of my eczema.

My second relationship ended cause I was allergic to him. I could not even kiss my boyfriend without breaking out in eczema. I was very depressed because of my eczema. I think it also ended since we didn't do alot of fun things together. We mostly spent time in bed. Though, I worked I was also too dependent on him, self-conscious and my SA was bad. It's a pattern.

Both of these relationships lasted the same time period as well.
 

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She had a dozen or so friends, and she wanted to have parties, and do all these social things, and I just wanted to stay in bed and read, or watch a movie. It only lasted a few months.
 
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