As the title goes. For me sometimes people with no confidence piss me off
I don't mind SOME self-deprecation (in fact if used right it can be an endearing quality), but those 100% negative, no-hope people just...ugh. P*ss me off in all the wrong ways. :no In fact I think they p*ss me off even more than egocentric people because I can identify with their negativity, so I know how they're feeling, but it's just too much.
My thoughts exactly. Egocentric people do not have their **** together either. Furthermore, they drag others down to make themselves feel better, which makes it the more intolerable option.Egocentric people by far. One of the root causes of both egocentrism and self-deprecation is often low self-esteem. From my experiences, egocentric people tend to mistreat others far more than those who openly belittle themselves. Many of them do this in order to compensate for their low self-esteem, it seems.
Self-deprecating people can also easily become egocentric people. I used to know a guy that would overwhelm everyone around him with negativity, and was never open to improvement. He never tried taking anyone's advice, and it seemed like he always wanted to be in a bad mood. His low-self esteem was primarily because he was bullied often. Later on, he ended up getting in with a crowd of bullies (turning into a bully himself), and started to give off an extremely egocentric attitude.
1)having or regarding the self or the individual as the center of all things: an egocentric philosophy that ignores social causes.
I agree w/ the bolded.As weird and counterintuitive as it sounds, since coming to this site I've seen some pretty self-deprecating people who go out of their way to take out their self-hate on others and drag those people down too...fortunately they're in the minority, but they do exist, and lately I'm seeing them more and more. I was surprised to realize this. :um I've never wanted to make my misery everybody else's misery, but I've seen some people who do.
I think even more than my earlier thoughts about such people reminding me of myself bothering me, this is what truly bothers me, when they use their self-loathing and bitterness as an excuse to treat others poorly. You'd expect people who hate themselves and have had a lousy lot in life to know how it feels to be hurt and to not want to inflict that on anyone. When they do so anyway, I lose all sympathy for them. :no (Whereas with an egocentric person, you just kind of expect them to act like jerks.)
Not trying to change anyone's mind :blush, just pointing this out.