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For those of us who remember what's its like to not live with the internet, do you think it has helped you with your SA or does it enable it? Does it help you establish connections or do you find yourself hiding behind it more and more?

I don't know if this has been asked before but I was just curious. Sometimes I wish I could get rid of it and sometimes its my only connection to the world.
 

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It's addictive but just makes you realise how many lonely people there are out there.
Virtual friends are like soulmates. You don't really need them to be physically present. The danger of course is to rely solely on the Internet for friendship. I prefer posting/emailing as a form of communication over face to face. I can edit my repsonses.So I guess the Internet was made for introverts like me.
 

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I don't remember much time before the internet, but I do remember when dial-up was so expensive we could connect, download email, browse for 10 minutes then log off - anything else was too expensive. The change when unlimited internet became mainstream was enormous.

If the internet didn't exist, or was as limited as it was in the past, I wonder what it would be like. I couldn't shop online, would I have to go to the Supermarket once a week? I couldn't download films, would I have to go the the video store? I'd have to spend a lot of time in the Photographers. I think there might be a lot more connections, or it could go the other way, and I'd be totally isolated, living on stockpiled tins of beans. Plus I'd not have a husband!
 

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Without the internet, I think I would've gone insane living on my own. Would've likely been stuck in awful jobs too.
 

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For those of us who remember what's its like to not live with the internet, do you think it has helped you with your SA or does it enable it? Does it help you establish connections or do you find yourself hiding behind it more and more?

I don't know if this has been asked before but I was just curious. Sometimes I wish I could get rid of it and sometimes its my only connection to the world.
I think it enables it. When I was first diagnosed with social anxiety disorder about 12 years ago, the internet was still in its infancy and was very limited in what it could offer me. Back then, the only thing I could do to find like-minded people was to get out and join a real life support group. Now it's just too easy to power up the computer (or phone) and "type" or cam to people. I think I'd be much better off socially without the internet by way of necessity. Sometimes one needs to feel a severe sense of lonliness before they feel motived enough to get off their butt and go outside and meet real people, but the net takes that edge off and satisfies the need before it gets to that point of desperation.
 

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I remember reading a report recently that said that social networking websites were making people more depressed and lonely because people were relying far too much on them for friendship and becoming isolated in real life.
I think some of that might apply to an extent to forums, too, though of course it all varies from person to person.
 

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Sounds accurate Virtual world, virtual friends.
I don't intend to stay on this forum for the rest of my life. But it's an opportunity here for me to communicate about things on a deeper level than I would in real life. it helps me reflect on my attitudes, opinions and prejudices. The female perspective here also helps me to understand the other half of the human race better.
 

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The internet has been nothing but a good thing for me (got it in 2004).

I like to think about how much dumber i could be without Google....:um

And SAS has been the best! :D
I agree :yes

I got my first laptop just this year. I'm an older newbie.
 

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I don't know about "we" but I'd probably in a better job, better read, less apathetic, possibly more well adjusted. Damn you internet!!!
 

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It has helped tremendously. Not only is it another social outlet for me, but a library at my fingertips. I've learned so much online -- how to sew, fix my car... Can't imagine my life without it!
 

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I might never have learned what SA is or what to do about it had it not been for the internet. The internet is an extremely valuable tool in getting information, sharing ideas, learning about virtually any topic, and communicating over long distances.

The efficiency of it has eliminated a lot of jobs, but it has created many jobs as well. I'm inclined to think there has been a net loss in the number of jobs due to the internet, though I'm not sure.

I think we are going through some growing pains in regards to the internet. While the internet has existed in some form since the 1950s, the world wide web has only been around for about 20 years and the internet has only really been popular for about 15 years. The internet isn't inherently good or bad. It is how we (both as individuals and as a society) choose to utilize this tool that makes it good or bad.
 

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well I've said this before somewhere but i think the internet is good in moderation. If you spend all day on here and don't do anything else it probably isn't good
 

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I honestly don't know if things would be better or worse. The Internet is a God-send for folks like us to communicate, but it certainly makes it too easy to hide away.
 

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Yea, I would say the internet has definitely enabled my SA somewhat. It's funny how all these new technologies such as the internet and mobile phones are meant to bring us closer together, but it's the opposite in my opinion. I'm also making a meager living working from home via the internet, which allows me to hide away and stay in my comfort zone. So yea, without the internet I would be definitely spending a lot less time in isolation.
 

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Society would probably be in a better place. We'd actually have to leave our house to meet people, go to a library, and do things. I think the Internet is actually exacerbating SA in people. I personally am not sure it's all good. I think it has also made porn way to available to children, giving them the wrong impression of sex and relationships. Ugh!
 

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Sounds accurate Virtual world, virtual friends.
I don't intend to stay on this forum for the rest of my life. But it's an opportunity here for me to communicate about things on a deeper level than I would in real life. it helps me reflect on my attitudes, opinions and prejudices. The female perspective here also helps me to understand the other half of the human race better.
I agree with you. I wish I could get off of it...But at the same time, I`ve met people I`d never have a chance to talk to and discuss things that I wouldn`t be able to in real life.

It has both positives and negatives. I learned lots of things and was able to access information I needed immediately that I would probably not have known. It also helps get my mind off many things and feeling lonely.

On the other side, I wish I have real friends instead of virtual ones. I don`t know if I could actually be able to cope without computer if I couldn`t have satisfying real life relationships.
 

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The internet opened my eyes up to how the rest of the world lives. Something tells me I would have settled long ago for much less than what I want from my life and yet I don't think my current situation is any better.
 
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