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This is a question for those of you with friends. Almost all the friendships I've barely managed to make have died over time (especially after graduating college). I know that i need to move on badly. I'm always bored and lonely. So where do you find friends? Since I'm done with school, it's been impossible to meet people. Do friends just come by chance? I dunno...it's so frustrating.
 

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Just get a hobby, really it's not that hard. You'll befriend everyone pretty easily since you all share the same interest.

Sports,drinking/drugs,video games,gambling.. really the list goes on and on. Just don't do something because everyone else is, do something you enjoy.
 

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The friends that I still have were made in elementary and high school. I still see and keep in contact with the core group of friends I had...a couple I've lost contact with but oh well. I've sorta made friends/acquaintances through their friends as well. I didn't make any friends at university unfortunately...because of increasing sa and living of campus.

But I guess clubs are a good place to go or even online here I guess...but it takes time to build relationships.
 

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All my friends were/are in the same congregation as me (I used to be a Jehovah's Witness) and I had known almost all of them since I was a little kid. They were my friends by default. I'm still friends with two of them, the only friends I have left. I got my boyfriend because one of my friends gave him a note with my number when he was at his job. Yeah. Weird stuff.
 

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I met most of my friends while working at a grocery store when I was 17. Like more than a decade ago. I met two friends, one of whom is an ex-girlfriend, at college when I was 20. I'm starting to meet some new ones through this board, but it's slow going.

I have "hobby friends," but we really only talk about our hobbies when we get together. Otherwise we don't have anything in common really.
 

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All my friends were/are in the same congregation as me (I used to be a Jehovah's Witness) and I had known almost all of them since I was a little kid. They were my friends by default. I'm still friends with two of them, the only friends I have left. I got my boyfriend because one of my friends gave him a note with my number when he was at his job. Yeah. Weird stuff.
hey do you have a youtube video on sa by any chance??
 

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Nope, not me.
 

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I only have about 3 or 4 friends I speak to and see on a regular basis who I know will be friends for life, 1 I met in high school, 1 I met at the park as child but I lost touch with and became friends again when we went to the same high school together and the other I know because she's my mums friends daughter and theres another I used to be really close to as we went to primary, high school and college together who I only really speak to on facebook chat nowadays but shes more of a fair weather friend.
 

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lol, my best friend and I didn't even like each other initially.... i thought she was just some preppy jock, and she thought i was the weirdest kid on the planet... but for some unexplainable reason, we just grew to like each other, and now, she's the coolest person i've ever met... :D
 

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A few of my friends I made at college; but I'm never in college long enough, or any groups there to actually make more friends. The friends I had in high school, I stopped talking to them after high school or some were only friends a brief time during high school. I think some of them thought I was strange with emotional issues.

A part of my social anxiety had to do with being hit on when I was young, and after that I felt very guarded from people and didnt feel like getting closer to most people.

Some of my friends are friends of friends. One of my good friends, our parents are friends and I met her that way through hanging out. For some reason, I really connect well with the psych hosptial patients when I'm there; some of them are the sweetest people. But one of my friends that I made from the hospital, she was my friend for several years and the last time I saw her she stopped being my friend just cause the group home owners told her to stop hanging out with me. They didnt want her to go out one day, but she wanted to go, so we left without their permission. They got pissed at me and banned me from going to the group home and told my friend not hangout with me in front of my face. And they told her to tell me. Her reply to me was, "Crystal, I can't hangout with you anymore." Really weak-minded. She let them dictate what she does. My best friend, I made out of state while being in a group home. I made another good friend there too. And these friends I made out of state seem to be better than the ones that live near me now. And I'm going to be moving cause I like it there better. I think I should try to join some organizations, so I can hopefully make more friends. I hate feeling lonely a lot.
 

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When I had them, I really didn't do anything to get them.
I befriended these two girls and I didn't know they were 'popular'. They came into the friendship with a ton of friends and they all eventually became mine.
I also made friends with the two school outcasts and this guy who had a crush on me. How I became his friend is pretty obvious(he followed me around and wouldn't stop talking to me), but the two outcasts, well, one day were were in class and they just started talking to me. Pretty soon, we were hanging out practically everyday, at school, at least.
 

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I don't have any friends.

But there are about 3 people, period, that Im more comfortable with because I knew them before my SA became a problem. But we're not 'friends'; my guard is just down more than usual when I do see them. Understand?
 

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The one friend I've really kept through the years I met in 3rd grade. Somehow we've managed to stay friends this long, but it's tougher now that we're going to different colleges. I sort of had another friend or two in high school but it's like I passed a critical period or something for making friends. I just can't seem to do it, like no one is interested. Of course the one friend I have is so high maintenance I think I don't want anymore friends since they are so much work. I had more friends in elementary school but lost touch with them willingly since we were never that great of friends to begin with. I don't know why, I just seem to attract the kind of people who are lazy friends so that our friendships are one-sided with me doing all the work. No luck in college yet...no luck at work either, even though I've had the same job for three years...
 

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I've got a few friends I hardly ever see anymore from secondary school, most of them live miles away anyway. I'm friends with a girl I lived with last year. umm that's it.
I barely ever go out and socialise so I feel like I have no friends.
 

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All of the friendships I had faded the moment I graduated high school it seems. I haven't connected with anyone since then, and I'm currently a sophomore in college. The only friends I can speak of are the ones I've acquired online; and unfortunately they're not close enough to participate in that "hang out" thing I partook in once upon a time.
 
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