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I'm having a problem with a book....
It's "The Little Book of Calm"...
Only joking. I just got this book about changing thinking errors, I really like it, it's very good and all that, however I have a little problem with one of them:
Am I Placing a Value on Myself as a Whole Person on the Basis of One Event? Or Even a String of Events?
and then the author goes on to pose a series of questions meant to counter the erroneous thought/belief, one of which is this:
"Is it helpful and realistic to think that my value as a person is dependent on what I do, or fail to do?"
What if I'm Bernie Madoff? Ok, extreme example. What if I'm someone who has just till-tapped at my retail job? Even if it's just $20? What if I've made promises to my friends, only to let them down, let's say, 5 times? And then I deliver on, say, 3 promises, then fail to deliver on a subsequent 3 promises? What then? The best predictor of future behaviour is past behaviour, right? I think some of my value as a person certainly depends on some things I do, and some things I may fail to do. Right? Anyone?
It's "The Little Book of Calm"...
Only joking. I just got this book about changing thinking errors, I really like it, it's very good and all that, however I have a little problem with one of them:
Am I Placing a Value on Myself as a Whole Person on the Basis of One Event? Or Even a String of Events?
and then the author goes on to pose a series of questions meant to counter the erroneous thought/belief, one of which is this:
"Is it helpful and realistic to think that my value as a person is dependent on what I do, or fail to do?"
What if I'm Bernie Madoff? Ok, extreme example. What if I'm someone who has just till-tapped at my retail job? Even if it's just $20? What if I've made promises to my friends, only to let them down, let's say, 5 times? And then I deliver on, say, 3 promises, then fail to deliver on a subsequent 3 promises? What then? The best predictor of future behaviour is past behaviour, right? I think some of my value as a person certainly depends on some things I do, and some things I may fail to do. Right? Anyone?