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Forget about SA, finances, or any other encumbrance. If you could have any life you wanted, what would it be?

For me, I'd want to live on a farmstead. I'd want a simple two story house. I'd want to live very simply, like at a 1900 level of technology. I'd have running water and flush toilets/toilet paper (all three are an absolute must for me), but no electricity. No phone, no computer (hard to live without, I know XD), no car. It'd be simple. I'd have a wife who I love very much and who loved me very much. She'd be able to see the good in anyone, and would calm me down whenever I get too negative or angry (happens a lot with SA). I'd want a huge family, 5-7 kids XD I'd live off the land, growing crops and raising livestock.

My farmstead would be in a valley amidst rolling hills, like those in far eastern Iowa or Wisconsin. There'd be land spreading out to the horizon, and the horizon would be defined by the rolling hills. The entire valley would be covered in mist early in the morning, like in Ireland. The land would be filled with streams and woods and prairies. It would be a little ways away from a small town, one of those places where everybody knows your name. A nice cozy place. It's a place I would go to regularly to hang out in the local pub and chat with the locals, talk about life.

That's what my ideal life would be. What's yours?
 

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I don't really know what it would be, right now. I can't think of anything. But I used to dream of living a simple life like that!
 

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I love music.. i play guitar and write lyrics and sing... accept for i don't do it in public... i just have a music myspace and post my music i write and record there. i've been asked to play shows.. but i could never do that ( don't like the center of attention stuff)

A perfect life for me would be... to be able to live that dream of being in a band. not some crazy band... or some band life where i go drink all the time or anything... but just where... i live out in california or just somewhere... anywhere nice... have a big house... have a wife... and write music.. play shows and do what i love... get my message across... but also be able to live a simple life... have a few close friends... and like you said just be able to go to a local bar.. once in a while and socialize with people from time to time. talk about life.. just relax. and just be... happy.
 

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i'd live in a forest in japan. but not modern japan. an old japan. back in the day where things were simple and without the complexities of modern life. the best image i can conjour up is living in a cave with a martial art grandmaster, and being his disciple. forest and trees all around with the sound of a waterfall nearby that we use in training for conditioning etc. living with nature. perfect :)
 

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I would do all kind of things...this also is not taking into account lack of motivation, courage, luck, genetics, or intelligence...

first, I would be great looking, with genetics that allow me to workout and easily get totally ripped, and I would like to explore the world a lot. I would like to do burning man and see the cannabis cup (interestingly, I don't use marijuana). I would be charming, obviously unsocially challenged, and would seduce women and have lots of dancing and no strings attached sex (because girls would sleep with me just because of my looks, but I'm charming and smart too!). I would climb mountains, row across the ocean, run marathons, act in a few porn movies (for fun, I wouldn't need the money). Probably owning a yacht and island like Johnny Depp would be on the list. I would like to go from experience to experience successfully. Like, act in some independent films and be praised for that, be part of a huge band like RHCP or sumblime, deep sea scuba dive, explore underwater caves, interview famous people, have a talk show, visit countries all of the world, and have spontaneous nights of dancing and sex wherever I go, and really care about people and have them care about me, but not on a long term basis, ride a motorcycle (that may be the first thing I listed that might actually happen some day), be a somewhat successful stand up comedian, be a successful MMA fighter, have spontaneous, crazy life-experiences, too many to count. Start a family late in life and live old enough to see their kid's kids, and share with them the memories of my crazy awesome life and have them be successful. And have a sweet mansion in the country. With hopes like these, how could I be disappointed? haha.
 

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Hmm, this is a hard question. I'd live in a beautiful, well-organized (is that the term?) country with a moderate climate. I'd have a job that I love and that pays well. I'd have my own apartment, with a cat or two. And a wonderful group of friends that I can call up any time I feel like it. I'd have some horseback riding buddies with whom I could go trail riding on the weekends :yes I'd travel frequently, both for work and for pleasure. That's all I can think of for now...
 

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One story house. 3 Bedroom. (I have two kids). 1 office. Finished basement for a rec. room. Fenced in backyard. 2 bathrooms, well.. 1.5 bathrooms.

A decent sized SUV, not huge.

Not cold climate, not too hot either.

Not rich, but comfortable, and able to put money into savings. (Not a ton out of each paycheck but something.)

My children to be happy, content & nothing like me with SA/OCD.

That's it :)
 

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I <3 that picture :D

As for my ideal life, I actually would love the chance to stay in the city I'm already living in--except I would obviously like a nicer place to stay. Not necessarily a mansion, just a quiet apartment or small house somewhere with a great view. I'd like to be comfortable financially, and have at least a part time job nearby to keep me busy. But I'd have the funds to go out and eat often--not at really fancy places, just local restaurants and bars and tea shops. Ideally, I'd like to be an established writer. No kids in my ideal life, just somebody special who loves me (and maybe a few cats).
 

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I'd want a little rundown-looking house with an overgrown garden. There's one I walk past on my way to the shops that I wish I could own one day. Its walls are wooden, covered in white and dark green paint that's flaking off; you can see some of it trodden into the dirt underneath the windows. The steps leading up to the front door sag in the middle like they've been there for too long and have grown tired. I imagine they creak rather badly. The garden is nothing more than a few untended shrubs and tufts of coarse grass growing on an otherwise naked hill. If it wasn't just around the corner from a busy street and big shopping centre it would be like something out of a fairytale. Something you would find elves and pixies living inside.

I don't want to live alone, but I have no particular desire for a partner. I'd like to adopt some children, older ones that nobody else will take in because they're not blond, blue-eyed, caucasian newborns. Two, I think. It's the perfect number. They'd each have a playmate, and I could make enough spare time to share it with each of them individually.

Aside from that, I want to study clinical psychology. I want to work hard at that and earn a "Dr" in front of my name. And I want to publish a book one day, if I ever have the time to write one.
 

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Technology, lots of it. I'm majoring in a field with computers, so ideally I'd live in a nice, medium-sized house (or large apartment) with a wife who is equally socially anxious and as much of a nerd as I am. I'd want to live with her in a... suburb-type area. A somewhat isolated area with some neighbors that's not far from a city.

I want to live very close to a gas station or convenience store that I'd be a regular at. I would be great friends with the people who work there and I'd walk by every once in a while and we'd all have a few laughs.

My wife and I would have hardcore computers capable of playing games at the highest quality. Also, we'd have cats. I love cats. I want a small family, maybe one kid (preferably a boy).
 

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Honestly, I have worked hard enough and been lucky enough to be heading down my perfect life path. Sure SA is a hump in the road but I am getting there and making progress through it. I have worked in my passion (motor racing) and have a very good chance of starting a career in the aerospace industry (another passion of mine). I have the perfect family, very loving and great friends who I hope I can hold on to for many years to come.

I suppose if I could wish for my true perfect (unrealistic) life it would be to have a career as a racing driving in a top series and make a living out of it. Traveling the world to drive cars really fast and get paid millions for the privilege? yes please.
 

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I'd have a big sprawling house with tall glass windows furnished in a very airy but classic style, lots of views and space, overlooking a small lake, amidst lots of evergreen trees. I'd have a guard dog or two, a garden in which I'd grow my own fruit and vegetables. The house would have windowseats, a fireplace, a breakfast nook, several bedrooms, library, den, all modern amenities, the works...don't really care for a pool but a jacuzzi would be all right. Of course this would be in a country I'd find suitable to live in, preferably within easy driving distance of at least a sizable town or city. I'd get myself a little roadster, nothing too pretentious but something comfortable and fun to drive.

I'd then live there and attempt to write and paint, maybe publish a few novels that would make it to the bestseller list so I could pay for my living expenses. I'd travel every holiday if possible, travel some parts of the Silk Road, visit as many historical and ancient cities as I can and keep an illustrated chronicle of my journeys. I'd be free to go where I please, spend a sunny, peaceful weekend in one city and explore another the next. Maybe somewhere along the way I'd meet someone intriguing with whom I'd be comfortable with for the rest of my life.
 

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Ideally I would travel all over the world and live in all sorts of different places. Right now I would be out and about taking photographs. Or I would be enjoying the weather with my loved ones.
 

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I would live in the time of Vikings or Knights. I love medieval history and have always had this deep seated honor for knights. I also like vikings because 50% of my heritage is swedish and traced back to viking descendants. Although both time periods could be seen as harsh, I think that the time period we live in is much worse. The psychological warfare that we go through each and every day is much more debilitating than physical warfare. And the people of these time periods had much courage not knowing what might happen in the next split second.

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Lol i'm a nerd.

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I've always been fascinated with the culture of the early plains indians. Give me a tipi and a peace pipe and I'd be golden. I'd see the extinction of modern technology as a good thing. Ironic since I'm posting on an internet forum. My theory though is that SA is a relatively modern affliction caused in part by the culture of modern society.
 

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I would LOVE to be a veterinary exchange student in Australia & Hawaii, work at the Best Friends Animal Society in Utah (but Utah? really?), start my own animal sanctuary... & marry someone with a huge heart & wicked smile. :mushy LOL :)
 
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