Social Anxiety Support Forum banner

1 - 10 of 10 Posts

·
Registered
Joined
·
33 Posts
Discussion Starter · #1 ·
I've always been really quiet and not good in social situations but over the last 5 years it's been really bad on and off. In about 2008 it was the worse as I was in a job I hated and really dreaded going every day and towards the end I often had panic attacks before or after work. I finally got a new job and it seemed to calm down a bit (although I still had problems such as looking people in the eyes, talking to people I don't know, avoiding socialising even with friends etc but it was managable).

Now I have a new job which is similar to the job before and I've started dreading going, shaking when I first get there, going light headed (only while at work). I know it's daft because the job actually isn't that bad and the thing I dread most is going in and having to say hello to people and leaving and saying bye to people, I normally try and sneak in and out without having to talk to anyone but then worry people think I'm weird or rude. I'm getting to the point where I feel I need to do something before it gets worse as this is pretty much how I started with the last job but never did anything and it just got worse and worse until I left.

I've kinda been talked into going to the doctors by my sister and a close friend but I hate having to tell the doctor whats wrong and I tend to lie to them to make the problem seem as though it's not as bad as it is. I'm obviously going to try not to do this but I have no idea what to say to them or how to start? Has anyone got any advice on exactly what to say to start the conversation with the doctor?
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
3,091 Posts
Just do it. Tell the doctor what your problem is. Love yourself enough to override your fear. The doctor might be able to help you or put you on some meds that could make all the difference in your functionality.
 

·
Banned
Joined
·
3,564 Posts
You should be completely honest with your doctor. Keep in mind that he/she is there to help you, not judge you. Say you think you might have SA, tell them the specifics of your situation in full honesty and see what they suggest. I know it's hard but it has to be done so that you can get out of feeling this way. Good Luck :)
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
33 Posts
Discussion Starter · #4 ·
Thanks for replying guys. I finally went but I'm so angry at myself and the doctor. I went in and he never asked me what was a matter or why I was there he just stared at me waiting for me to tell him what was wrong which freaked me out a bit and I just babbled about being anxious about work but never told him any of my symptoms or what sets me off or what I'm actually anxious about (and he never asked) , I told him I'd been anxious before in my old job and he asked me how it got better last time and I said I left that job. Then he told me he thought I should see this other person (who I have no idea who she is, why I should see her or what she is going to do etc. I know I should have asked him but at this point all I wanted to do was get out so I was just agreeing to get it over with).

He then looked for an appointment and said the next one available is the 5th January! I'm now wondering whether I should ring the surgery and ask who this person is I'll be seeing and what she does or just wait until the appointment and see what happens :s I just don't feel I explained well enough and I assumed he would at least ask me something or give me some advice rather than just come back in over a month to see someone else.
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
21 Posts
Since it doesn't sound like the doctor told you what type of doctor the other one is, you should definitely call the doctor's office where you just went and ask them what kind of doctor this 2nd doctor is.
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
10 Posts
I finally went but I'm so angry at myself and the doctor. I went in and he never asked me what was a matter or why I was there he just stared at me waiting for me to tell him what was wrong which freaked me out a bit...
Yeah, that's unprofessional. I think the doctors should always know what to ask to diagnose a patient's problems and find the solution, because that's what they do. I can relate to that from some of my experiences when I go a store and no one asks me "may I help you?" It's very unprofessional.
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
33 Posts
Discussion Starter · #7 ·
Since it doesn't sound like the doctor told you what type of doctor the other one is, you should definitely call the doctor's office where you just went and ask them what kind of doctor this 2nd doctor is.
Yeah he just told me he thought I'd be better seeing this other person but he gave me her name but never said what she did so I don't even know if she is a doctor or not. I'll ring when I can force myself too.

Yeah, that's unprofessional. I think the doctors should always know what to ask to diagnose a patient's problems and find the solution, because that's what they do. I can relate to that from some of my experiences when I go a store and no one asks me "may I help you?" It's very unprofessional.
See I'm the opposite I hate when people in shops come over and ask if they can help because I feel they're watching me. However I did think the doctor would at least ask me more, he seemed to just want to wash his hands with me straight away.
 

·
Reposed in awesomeness...
Joined
·
2,278 Posts
Thanks for replying guys. I finally went but I'm so angry at myself and the doctor. I went in and he never asked me what was a matter or why I was there he just stared at me waiting for me to tell him what was wrong which freaked me out a bit and I just babbled about being anxious about work but never told him any of my symptoms or what sets me off or what I'm actually anxious about (and he never asked) , I told him I'd been anxious before in my old job and he asked me how it got better last time and I said I left that job. Then he told me he thought I should see this other person (who I have no idea who she is, why I should see her or what she is going to do etc. I know I should have asked him but at this point all I wanted to do was get out so I was just agreeing to get it over with).

He then looked for an appointment and said the next one available is the 5th January! I'm now wondering whether I should ring the surgery and ask who this person is I'll be seeing and what she does or just wait until the appointment and see what happens :s I just don't feel I explained well enough and I assumed he would at least ask me something or give me some advice rather than just come back in over a month to see someone else.
Try buying some meds online if you are not getting anywhere with your doc. Some docs are good but some not so. Etizolam is quite cheap. It is legal here in the UK, I don't know about anywhere else. 1mg is equivelant to 10mg of diazepam and it doesn't last too long. It may make all the difference just now until you get something sorted out...
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
33 Posts
Discussion Starter · #9 ·
Try buying some meds online if you are not getting anywhere with your doc. Some docs are good but some not so. Etizolam is quite cheap. It is legal here in the UK, I don't know about anywhere else. 1mg is equivelant to 10mg of diazepam and it doesn't last too long. It may make all the difference just now until you get something sorted out...
Thank you I may give these a try until I go see this other person:)
 

·
MEAT POPSICLE
Joined
·
857 Posts
Yes

:afr I know it is scary to think about telling someone the way you really and truly feel, but you must! I know, it took me 7 years of suffering before I talked to my doctor, and once I did I felt alot of relief, I too used to say I was "fine" "nothings wrong" and the like, but it is only making it worse for you, your symptoms will only worsen as you go if you dont grab it now and deal with it. :yes So I urge you to be honest, make a list so you dont forget anything, write down symptoms, feelings, questions!!! And tell the doctor everything! It is time to seize your life back and get better! You CAN do it! And if the doctor you have now doesnt seem to listen or want to help, then find a new one, it took me 5 doctors to find the one I have now, and she is AWESOME! She listens and has had alot of suggestions, one of which was therapy, I have gone 3 times now , and I am learning all kinds of new ways of dealing with my issues....very helpful.
So dont forget to let us know how it went....lol I am nosy and I love updates! :D


I've always been really quiet and not good in social situations but over the last 5 years it's been really bad on and off. In about 2008 it was the worse as I was in a job I hated and really dreaded going every day and towards the end I often had panic attacks before or after work. I finally got a new job and it seemed to calm down a bit (although I still had problems such as looking people in the eyes, talking to people I don't know, avoiding socialising even with friends etc but it was managable).

Now I have a new job which is similar to the job before and I've started dreading going, shaking when I first get there, going light headed (only while at work). I know it's daft because the job actually isn't that bad and the thing I dread most is going in and having to say hello to people and leaving and saying bye to people, I normally try and sneak in and out without having to talk to anyone but then worry people think I'm weird or rude. I'm getting to the point where I feel I need to do something before it gets worse as this is pretty much how I started with the last job but never did anything and it just got worse and worse until I left.

I've kinda been talked into going to the doctors by my sister and a close friend but I hate having to tell the doctor whats wrong and I tend to lie to them to make the problem seem as though it's not as bad as it is. I'm obviously going to try not to do this but I have no idea what to say to them or how to start? Has anyone got any advice on exactly what to say to start the conversation with the doctor?
 
1 - 10 of 10 Posts
Top