Hi! I just wanted to respond to all the what seems like zillions of posts about this subject. What I and all of my friends always talk about is how we wish guys would express their interest by simply being nice, and act interested in getting to know us as friends first. Like: interested in "us" for ourselves. In return, we want to know guys as "people" before we even consider thinking about them sexually. If a guy projects anything sexual when approaching us, (aside from just casual attraction that would make him approach us in the first place) we are immediately turned off. And no, for us it's truly not just about looks, power, strength, etc. It's just about really getting to "know" someone before getting so serious. And we can tell if it's faking interest for just sex. Like "wink wink" would be a turn off. But catching my eye and smiling would be great. Then if I looked back and smiled back, you could come over and say "hi, I'm Joe Doe" and put your hand out to shake it in introduction, and start some silly small talk. If I don't look back, I'm either not interested or shy. If I'm shy, I might look at you a little later to see if you are looking at me. If so, you might come over and do the introduction thing. Otherwise I would just go on and assume you really weren't interested. Asking someone to dance is also an awesome and direct way to approach without having to do the catch the eye thing. Then we could chat casually on the dance floor to get to know each other. Or "hi, I noticed you from across the room, and I'd love to buy you a drink". But just chit-chat, don't spill your guts about all your insecurities until you have slowly gotten to know someone, or they start spilling their guts first and you have the same feelings about things. Just be a person wanting to get to know another person. We don't like having guys assume sex too fast any more than guys like us assuming marriage too fast. How would a guy like it if a girl came up to him and immediately projected she wanted to get married? Maybe the same thing a lot of girls feel when men project sex immediately. Obviously we might want those things at some point, but relationships take time. I actually prefer somewhat shy guys, because guys who are too cocky scare me. Pushy is scary. Genuine, but casual interest is comfortable. Sounds like hard work, but girls have to work hard to in order to project interest back. I don't look at it as so much of a game as I see it as finding ways to really get to know somebody in a genuine way without projecting "strings attached". If both people think there are strings attached to everything they do, then somebody's feelings are gonna get hurt.