great post. you have very good points. they clearly make sense to me.I see socializing as occurring to an extent in most, if not all, human interactions. To socialize effectively, the primary requirement is to have a decent connection to the group or hive mind through non-verbal communication (i.e., body-language etc.).
Some professionals use the internet as an analogy for this; most people are connected to the rest via broadband, whereas a few are connected via dial-up or not connected at all.
There are parts of the brain designed to effectively join up with other brains via non-verbal communication. Those who cannot join up miss out on many subtleties of human communication and find themselves unable, for example, to grasp the point of small-talk, to initiate and sustain interactions, to read the subtext present in all social communication, and to generalise implicit rules and apply them to different contexts.
Because almost every activity in society involves communicating with others, those with even subtle deficits in non-verbal communication can be disabled across multiple domains of functioning. They are effectively operating as single brains to varying extents in a society designed around how most brains are capable of interconnecting.
I think this is a good interesting description tooI see socializing as occurring to an extent in most, if not all, human interactions. To socialize effectively, the primary requirement is to have a decent connection to the group or hive mind through non-verbal communication (i.e., body-language etc.).
Some professionals use the internet as an analogy for this; most people are connected to the rest via broadband, whereas a few are connected via dial-up or not connected at all.
There are parts of the brain designed to effectively join up with other brains via non-verbal communication. Those who cannot join up miss out on many subtleties of human communication and find themselves unable, for example, to grasp the point of small-talk, to initiate and sustain interactions, to read the subtext present in all social communication, and to generalise implicit rules and apply them to different contexts.
Because almost every activity in society involves communicating with others, those with even subtle deficits in non-verbal communication can be disabled across multiple domains of functioning. They are effectively operating as single brains to varying extents in a society designed around how most brains are capable of interconnecting.
:dittoSocializing to me is a skill that should have been acquired in kindergarten, but was not for some reason(?). And now that I am an adult, I am unable to go back and learn how to be social because society won't allow for it. And also because I will never "learn" it well enough for it to become natural.
I think it's a skill that is as simple as: Being interested in someone because they are attractive, funny, strange. And then acting on that interest in some way through body language, conversation, humor, etc.
I have trouble determining what is a genuine interest because I don't know myself well enough to know what interests me, and also I cannot act on an interest because anxiety causes my brain to explode.