Does anyone have a sort of "defense mechanism" for coping with SA? For me, it's spending hours going over all the "what ifs" in my head and finding a solution to every possible outcome of a situation.
This is a big one that I am struggling with too; I figure that I won't be anxious if I know what to do in every single possible situation. Now, I am learning to let go of that and instead focus on relaxing instead of attempting to control the situation via that mechanism. It seems that something happens that always surprises me even if I try to think of every possible outcome, and it only tends to increase my anxiety about the situation, so I am working on just dropping it.Does anyone have a sort of "defense mechanism" for coping with SA? For me, it's spending hours going over all the "what ifs" in my head and finding a solution to every possible outcome of a situation.
If I indulge my SA and think about all the what-ifs, I can talk myself out of doing anything and everything. While it's nice to have a healthy amount of thought prior to engaging in an activity, I've found that I need to act before all those what-ifs run through my head and hinder me. Just do it is a good motto for me.
I also use self-depracating humor to deal with my self-esteem issues and awkwardness. I rather laugh at myself than get depressed and let the world see me as superserious and miserable like I am.
That's interesting because in the book Feeling Good Handbook by David D Burns MD, there's a chapter on social anxiety that describes the "What if?" technique. It deals with both negative predictions and our catastrophizing of them.going through all the what-ifs is my specialty.
provides hours and hours of fun really.. :rain