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I was just wondering. There is a bridal shower next weekend and I am in the bridal party, so I think I have to go. I'm dreading it: I don't have money for a gift, I'm not close to anyone who will be there, I hate being in front of crowds ....why did I even agree to be a bridesmaid in the first place? I get sick just thinking about it. I actually wish I would come down with a little something. If I do go, I will HAVE TO BE DRUNK.

In the past, I've been a no-show for presentations in school, and even got so nervous one night that I got violently ill and ended up going to the ER two days in a row. I felt like crap, but all I could think about was how happy I was to miss my group presentation.
 

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Lied and said my car was broken down. Mostly I will fake sick though, especially when I was in school. I skipped school so much that I was in danger of failing school and not being able to graduate this year.
 

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I definately know how you feel. I have a wedding coming up soon and im not looking forward to it. The after party is going to be even more nerve wracking for me cuz im going to be asked to dance the whole night and the combination of SA and lack of dance skills makes it a tough situation lol. I've never done anything to extreme to get out of a situation but I typically just do the whole "I dont feel good" or "I have other plans already" excuse. I'd like to be able to just come out and say "I have SA and while I would love to go out with you, I wouldnt feel very comfortable doing it". But I just dont feel comfortable explaining to other people bcuz im afraid they just wont understand. I hope it works out for you bunnie.
 

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* eating lunch in a washroom stall
* walking up and down stairs at lunch pretending like I'm going somewhere because eating lunch in the washroom stall was making me paranoid people would recognize my feet...
* walking really slowly behind people, trying to avoid them
* crying on my way to work in hopes my mom would drive me back home
* hiding in washroom stall at work
* killing myself because I am so awkward would also be pretty extreme..
 

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Once when I was a little boy in cub scouts, my group was scheduled to appear on a local television kids morning show complete with bright lights and tv cameras. I dreaded it for weeks and weeks. I actually got the chicken pox a few days before the show appearance. I was so over joyed that I wouldn't be on the show that I was actually thankful for having chicken pox. I guess that would be considered a 'happy accident'. I watched the other cub scouts in my group on tv from the comfort of my bed.
 

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I once poured a whole cup of boiling hot water (fresh from kettle) over my hand to avoid a day at school due to burns.

Another time I walked about 10-20 miles in a day to avoid school. Went to a nearby town and just drifted around for the whole day. Got pretty severe blisters, but repeated several times more.
 

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I definately know how you feel. I have a wedding coming up soon and im not looking forward to it. The after party is going to be even more nerve wracking for me cuz im going to be asked to dance the whole night and the combination of SA and lack of dance skills makes it a tough situation lol. I've never done anything to extreme to get out of a situation but I typically just do the whole "I dont feel good" or "I have other plans already" excuse. I'd like to be able to just come out and say "I have SA and while I would love to go out with you, I wouldnt feel very comfortable doing it". But I just dont feel comfortable explaining to other people bcuz im afraid they just wont understand. I hope it works out for you bunnie.
Oh I know, my dance skills are not up to par at all !!! LOL* I am so mad that I have to go. I know my boyfriend knows that I'm not excited, but it's like I have to go. It's his nephew that is getting married, and to tell you the truth, I have some not so nice feelings towards him (he is always making me the butt of a joke). Plus its like him and my boyfriend expect me to be all bff w/ the fiance, like we're some type of clique. I hate cliques and I have nothing in common w/ them. When we all get together, it's painfully awkward for me.
 

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One summer when I was 12, my parents were sending me to summer camp and I was dreading it so much. The day before I was supposed to leave, I sat with my head against a corner between two walls and banged it as hard as I could over and over all day trying to give myself a concussion. It didn't work, though. And I ended up at summer camp after all.
 

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Once I was at a house party for my cousins graduation. I was stuck without my sister and I started to get nervous! I was having a breakdown I convinced my DAD to tell everyone he was really sick so I would be able to take him to the hotel and it wouldn't make me look weird. He sometimes supports me when I am having these nervous breakdowns!

I love my Dad!!!
 

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the old standby - I'm sick - so useful.

i hate to lie though, but I usually get so worked up over the situation that I make myself sick anyway, so technically it's never a lie.
 

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what do you do if you have to go to the wedding because your in the wedding party? im so screwed.
 

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All through 8th-11th grade, I slept through class and pretended like I was high so people wouldn't talk to me. I've never really done anything extreme to get out of something, though. I always dread any presentation and try to fool myself into feeling comfortable on the day of, until my name is called.. then I'm scared to death and suffer through minutes of misery. When I can, I take non-talking parts and let everyone else volunteer.
 

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I am laughing at all the "fake sick" responses, because this is exactly how I operate. Usually, I use the sick card during holidays/events that are celebrated culture-wide. On New Year's Eve, I felt just great but laid around the house all day because I just "felt so horrible!" That allows me to a)have an excuse for my siblings/parents about why I'm not out on New Year's and b)tell people at school the next week that I was sick and couldn't go out.

The most drastic thing I've ever done to get out of a social event was telling people I was out of town during summer break. They were desperately trying to get me to go to a party with them. "I'd love to, but I'm out of town right now." Of course, this totally backfired on me when my younger brother was spotted somewhere the next day. I could have made another lie and said he was joining our family later, but I decided to come clean and fess up. I felt like a huge pansy.
 

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I didn't show up to a work Christmas party when I was 19, they had a place at a table for me and everything. On monday at work I told them I had to look after my brother, but the guys I worked with called me antisocial and lost any respect they may have had for me, or that's how I perceived it.. Since then I discovered alcohol which is how I've tolerate socialising till now. I was even worse with SA back then, I barely spoke most of the time, at least I've improved since. It's funny, I only was diagonosed this year with SAD, but it's been a long time coming.
 

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I never officially dropped out of school, I just stopped going one day halfway through 10th grade. My mom called the police on me and when they came I was still in bed so the officer said to me, "Get dressed, I'm driving you to school." :lol After I flat out refused (I was actually prepared several days ahead for this and expected to be taken to jail) he told my mom there was nothing he could do because I could just walk out the back door whenever he dropped me off. Thinking back on it, my anxiety must have been pretty extreme if I would have rather been locked up behind bars than sit through 7 hours of being around hundreds of other kids every day.

I also had two jobs. I didn't quit either one because I was too afraid to call my boss and tell them so I just didn't show up the next day for work.

Hopefully I don't do this when I go to college. :/
 
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