[Madison_Rose]

It's difficult to find women interested in skinny guys, though.

Me! Me! the guys I fancy always seem to be skinny! Not that I'd disregard a lovely man who happened to be chunkier...

Important to me: Must be intelligent. Must be mature and not jealous or controlling. Must be atheist/agnostic: I don't think I could have a serious relationship with someone who genuinely believed in god and an afterlife - we'd just have views that were too different about things that are too important.

Looks aren't important, but I do tend to fancy skinny, scruffy guys with long hair. Knowing more than me about maths, physics, or, at a push, computers is very attractive indeed! Maybe I'm a tad weird...

 

[Hot Chocolate]

1) Intelligence (Always turn me on! ALWAYS!)

2) Boyish mannerisms/appearance

3) Is at least talented in one area (e.g music, art, sports)

 

[alohomora]

Actually, like my personal traits, my preferences towards physical traits are just that....preferences. Actually, I'm attracted to a wide variety of women in terms of physical traits.

There was in fact a fellow member in this site that doesn't fulfill my preferences (especially in terms of the hair) but I was madly attracted to her (she hasn't post here recently).

By the way, I'm not really into goth girls in terms of their sub-culture, just that I like the look. It was just a joke because when I did describe what is my favorite look, a friend joked that he needed to get me a goth girl.

I totally understand what you're saying. I realize they're just preferences. I realized that when I first posted. I also realize that you made this post b/c not everyone realizes that. Everyone has preferences to a certain extent (including myself) and we all modify our preferences depending upon whether or not we like the person. Really, I don't see you as being narrow-minded at all. Just to be fair, here are my preferences for physical attributes:

1. athletic (soccer player type, not football type); but non-athletic is fine too...as long as he's not too overweight
2. Dancer's body would be great b/c I love to dance, but if not, he and I will have to work on that, lol- just kidding
3. He's got to have those deep and perceptive eyes that when he looks at me, it's like he can see into my soul. I want to lose myself in his stare.
4. He must have dark hair (or blonde, or red). It just can't be purple, except I saw a guy once who had green hair and he pulled it off pretty well.
5. Preferably looks like Ryan Phillippe

Remember, these are just PREFERENCES. For instance, if I met a guy with purple hair but he was a great dancer, I might still consider going out with him.

 

[yellowpaper]

He's got to be on my team, and someone that I'm just plain attracted to for whatever reasons.

 

[DeeperUnderstanding]

- Someone who's pretty and I'm attracted to
- Intelligent
- Has a great sense of humor
- Caring and compassionate
- Has some of my interests, so that we can share them/participate in them together
- Is a bit of a nerd/has nerd interests
- Loves music

Other than that, I don't know.

 

[Bredwh]

Since most of us have stated our preferences in terms of personal traits, I thought maybe we could also state our preference in terms of physical traits. Here is mine:

1) A girl with pure dark black hair that's straight and short.

2) Has a milky complexion.

3) And has dark black eyes.

As you can see, I'm attracted to goth girls. :b

Whoa me too, though I think I'd like long hair better maybe. Actually he hair length wouldn't matter. I'm not that interested in the goth sub-culture either, just the look. Example of what I'm looking for Anne Hathaway in this picture.
I also like bright blue eyes with this look like this girl.

I'm very attracted to singers, particularly singer-songwriters. In fact I think the majority of what I listen too are female singer-songwriters because I like the music but also am attracted to them because of the music and can imagine they are singing about me. Also like one's who aren't afraid to swear or get a bit dirty/naughty. Example of what I'm looking for-Kate Nash or Fiona Apple.

Someone who has a good sense of humor, and preferably a big, wide-ranging sense of humor. Particularly likes dirty humor. Example of what I'm looking for-Sarah Silverman.

Non-serious. This isn't the same as sense of humor because someone can be non-serious but not have a good sense of humor or vice versa. Example of what I'm looking for-Sarah Silverman again.

Probably Agnostic but could work with anything really if she wasn't pushy about it.

Vegetarian or vegan ideally who didn't hurt or kill animals and believed in animal rights.

Not too overweight, not too underweight, a nice healthy body.

Very liberal and Left leaning, a Socialist if possible.

Someone I find attractive. I can't help who I'm attracted to and I'm not going to try to force myself to be attracted to someone I'm not because it won't work.

These are all just preferences though and some are more important than others. Humor/non-serious and alright body and that I find attractive are most important, then Left leaning and Agnostic and vegetarian. I don't really care if they are a singer on not or really what they look like or what hair/eye/skin color as long as I find them attractive. I don't really have a preference with that, the goth look is just one of many, many I find attractive.

 

[Zeddicus]

Knowing more than me about maths, physics, or, at a push, computers is very attractive indeed! Maybe I'm a tad weird...

Nope, you're not weird, I feel the same way!

1) Intelligence (Always turn me on! ALWAYS!

Yep, same here.

Other than that, I'd have to say someone with a beautiful mind; I don't care who you are, what you do, or what you look like, but if you are someone who could truly inspire me by how selfless, forgiving, and loving you are, essentially, "good", despite any pains, setbacks, or troublesome situations or circumstances whatsoever, well, seeing such goodness in another person in a world full of bitterness and resentment is personally one of the most beautiful things in the world to me.

 

[Post_Punk_Proclivity]

I'm after two X chromosomes preferably.

 

[nubly]

pretty, long dark hair, not too overweight, sense of humor

 

[Hellosunshine]

Loving
Compassionate
Intelligent (but not cocky, belittling smart)
Street Smart (have none of that)
Free-Spirit
Funny (but doesn't always have to be funny ya know?)
Sweet
Optomisitc (needs to balance me)
Understanding
Someone I can 100000000% be myself around. Someone that let's me be me and loves me for it.
Someone that's willing to push my boundaries and challange me
Spontaneous (need some excitment in my life)
Can make choices (lord knows I can't)
Religious (I'm muslim but any religion would do)
Loves children and is a goof ball himself
Isn't embarassed to look dumb sometimes and is confident with himself
Someone that can support me through all my crazy endeavors and doesn't put me down IE My partner in crime.
and of course SEXY!!!!!

 

[citizen_erased]

Things i would look for in a guy:

- Doesn't take himself too seriously
- Great sense of humour/can make me laugh
- Kindness
- Intelligence
- Someone who can love me and accept me as i am
- Openess, someone who can be honest with me and vice versa and can express their feelings
- Eccentric (for some reason i always tend to fall for guys who are a bit eccentric)
- Shares some of my passions (music and films esp, and even better if we have similar tastes)
- Someone quite laid-back, i couldn't be with someone who's too short tempered
- Loyal/trustworthy
- Compassion/understanding
- Sweetness

 

[Mr. Frostie]

An attractive face

Body size falls within a healthy range

Does all those neat girl things like batting eyelashes, fixing hair, adjusting clothing, massaging herself, pigeon-toed stance and oh, I don't know. Its hard to explain.

Loyal

Doesn't care about money or expensive things

Isn't bothered by my lack of prospects or bad social skills

 

[ilikebooks]

Hm...if I had to, I suppose it would be:

- Someone who doesn't run away screaming when I approach them
- He would have to be atheist or--at the very least--agnostic. Nothing against you religious folk, it's just too much of a difference in beliefs for me.
- Intelligence! Whether it's in the sciences, literature, philosophy...I'd even consider dating someone who was a Muppets genius of some sort.
- I guess we'd have to have some of the same tastes in stuff. Preferably someone with an interest in classic rock and Star Trek. And, of course, the Muppets.
- I'd prefer someone kind of like me; shy and reserved around most people, and then completely nuts around a select few.
- And to be shallow, it'd be nice if he was taller than me.

Right, I don't think anyone masochistic enough to date me exists anyway, so I'll stop there.

 

[solasum]

Physically, I don't really have any preferences. I just want to be with someone who understands my point of view, or tries to, and accepts me the way I am. In return, I would do the same.

I guess he should have similar beliefs as I have, though if I wait for someone like that, I'll be alone forever.

I could not marry someone who's controlling, abusive, fiscally irresponsible, or sexist/racist/etc. This goes with what I first said. If someone understands my point of view, he wouldn't be any of these things.

 

[solasum]

lol, I see an ad at the top of this page that says, "join the goth scene. gothscene.com"

 

[person86]

- not too jealous - please don't get mad if i happen to talk to other females
- not too clingy - please be able to function reasonably well without me
- not too insecure - please don't make me tell you every five minutes that you're a good person, you're pretty and this relationship works... and please believe me when i do tell you
- somewhat emotionally stable - please, no crying all the time for no good reason
- not an extremist - please be able to see the good in different political, religious and philosophical positions... your beliefs are not the holy grail of correctness
- not into the oneness of "us" - please accept that we are different people with different interests who do not need to be mirror images of each other
- not stupid - please at least be curious about a wide range of things
- involved - please be involved with and good at something... anything
- not prone to boredom - something interesting is always happening, please be able to see that
- also, please be okay with drinking, smoking and drug use, in moderation, even if you don't do it yourself

And then there's the obvious - decent looking, sense of humor, accepting me for who i am, blah blah blah, typical stuff. But the above list are some things that I think people sometimes overlook.

 

[Amelia]

I agree. These are really good points, sadsurvivor. I'd also put a liking for animals high on the list as well as a sense of humour, especially an ability to laugh at themselves. No-one wants Mr Intense!

 

[yellowpaper]

- not too jealous - please don't get mad if i happen to talk to other females
- not too clingy - please be able to function reasonably well without me
- not too insecure - please don't make me tell you every five minutes that you're a good person, you're pretty and this relationship works... and please believe me when i do tell you
- somewhat emotionally stable - please, no crying all the time for no good reason
- not an extremist - please be able to see the good in different political, religious and philosophical positions... your beliefs are not the holy grail of correctness
- not into the oneness of "us" - please accept that we are different people with different interests who do not need to be mirror images of each other
- not stupid - please at least be curious about a wide range of things
- involved - please be involved with and good at something... anything
- not prone to boredom - something interesting is always happening, please be able to see that
- also, please be okay with drinking, smoking and drug use, in moderation, even if you don't do it yourself

And then there's the obvious - decent looking, sense of humor, accepting me for who i am, blah blah blah, typical stuff. But the above list are some things that I think people sometimes overlook.

Well not all of us want that. I'd rather have someone who won't label me all of these things if I'm merely being myself and having normal human reactions and emotions.

 

[seanybhoy]

I've always been a sucker for girls that are really forward, i dunno i guess at least with those kinda people you know where you stand .

 

[DepecheEyes]

Whoa me too, though I think I'd like long hair better maybe. Actually he hair length wouldn't matter. I'm not that interested in the goth sub-culture either, just the look. Example of what I'm looking for Anne Hathaway in this picture.
I also like bright blue eyes with this look like this girl.

Damn! That bright blue eyed girl is HOT! Sorry Anne Hathaway, you just don't light up my fire....then again, I don't think my looks would attract her either, so all is fair. :teeth