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So here's problem (or one of my many): I have a lot of trouble relaxing and being myself around just about everyone, but I find the more I dislike the person the easier it is, I guess because I don't really care what they think about me. All the people I really like I get really nervous around because I really, really, really, care what they think about me. I know it doesn't make sense because no one likes a super awkward, shy, difficult to talk to, person either, but that's just how it is. I've got a lot better at relaxing now, however I have accumulated a couple of friends who I really don't like. They're good friends, but they either get on my nerves, or are really bossy, or talk so much I can never get a word in (which I think is really bad for developing social skills because I still can't start a conversation to save my life). Now I've started to make some friends that I do actually like and the friends I don't like are starting to bother me more and more.
I'm not sure what the right thing is to do here. If I start avoiding or rejecting the friends I don't like, then I'll be doing to them exactly what so many other people have done to me, and I don't want to do that- especially since they are some of the few people who haven't rejected me. I also have so few friends, I don't know if I can afford to lose any. On the other hand, sometimes hanging out with them makes me feel more depressed then I feel spending the weekend at home- and you're supposed to love your friends, not secretly hate them.
Anyone have similar experiences they want to share, or any advice? Any input at all would be very appreciated.
I'm not sure what the right thing is to do here. If I start avoiding or rejecting the friends I don't like, then I'll be doing to them exactly what so many other people have done to me, and I don't want to do that- especially since they are some of the few people who haven't rejected me. I also have so few friends, I don't know if I can afford to lose any. On the other hand, sometimes hanging out with them makes me feel more depressed then I feel spending the weekend at home- and you're supposed to love your friends, not secretly hate them.
Anyone have similar experiences they want to share, or any advice? Any input at all would be very appreciated.