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well of course we're quiet and get anxious in social events or situations. But what else do you think we share that's in common?
Couldn't have put it better myself. You just described me. :susWell, I think it's likely we all have very low self-esteem, perhaps preoccupied with thoughts based on the need to control those insecurities, I've seen a lot of us harbor great empathy...as well as selfishness, and some engage in various activites or hobbies to occupy their time.
While we socially interact, I feel SA sufferers (myself included) may stick to conversation quality which is in their comfort zone, such as the weather or surface level activities that are happening in the lives of others. Not to say there's nothing wrong with small talk but in my experience it keeps you distant from everyone else. Everyone begins to wonder who you are which can result in negative outcomes that could have been avoided by revealing, if only a little, more of who you are.
I'm the opposite of this. I thrive in deep exploratory conversations and the passions of the other people. On the other hand, I am rubbish at small talk. I always feel really uncomfortable during it, and especially if I'm the one that started it. I've clearly made other people nervous in the past just by talking to them. Ex: person deleted me off her friends list after we hung out for the first and only time (ouch, burn!), person asked me "Uhh, why [do you ask]?" when I was making small talk at a party. Oh well, lesson learned there, don't make small talk about of complete desperation...people pick up on that.While we socially interact, I feel SA sufferers (myself included) may stick to conversation quality which is in their comfort zone, such as the weather or surface level activities that are happening in the lives of others. Not to say there's nothing wrong with small talk but in my experience it keeps you distant from everyone else. Everyone begins to wonder who you are which can result in negative outcomes that could have been avoided by revealing, if only a little, more of who you are.
I completely agree. Thoughts just run through my head at a hundred miles an hour and I just can't stop thinking about everything. Every time I leave a room or after I have a conversation with someone, I constantly overanalyse everything I said and make assumptions about what they think of me. It's pure tortureA brain that won't shut the **** up.
i'm the same way. my brain just doesn't comprehend what the point of small talk is. i mean, i know its social function, but I think it's stupid and i'm no good at it. You can always tell that the person doesn't care which classes you have. I tend to steer conversations towards personal or very specific things and that makes people very uncomfortable. But I mean, i'm interested in the person, no how spinach is slightly crunchy unless you freeze it. THings like that=kind of a waste of time.I'm the opposite of this. I thrive in deep exploratory conversations and the passions of the other people. On the other hand, I am rubbish at small talk. I always feel really uncomfortable during it, and especially if I'm the one that started it.