Hey guys.
I just wanted to share some stuff I've recently thought of about unhappiness.
I've said in a few other posts that I think living in the moment is the solution to ridding ourselves of unhappiness, but it's not that easy to live in the moment.
Not judging anything, including yourself, was another thing I've said would make people truly happy. I had the feeling that not judging would also help people to be in the moment.
I asked myself today, "What stops us from living in the moment?" Why do we think about other things instead of just appreciating the moment?
The answer, I'm almost sure, is wanting. When we want something that we don't already have, we think about that thing we want. This takes us out of the moment. Not only that, but because we put this want on a pedestal, we think of our current situation in a negative light.
Ask yourself what you want. When you come up with a good answer, ask yourself why you want it. If you can answer the question, then ask yourself why again. Eventually you'll have to say, "I don't know." It's like a small child asking a simple question to an adult, then asking why repeatedly until the adult can't answer anymore. This is life.
As a child we don't think we know anything, and that's why kids are so happy. The older we get the more we think we know, and the more we think we know, the more we judge and the more we want. Then with maturity comes humility, and we slowly realize how little we know. This is why old people don't really care as much, probably also because times change and they feel more and more out of the loop.
But am I telling you not to want anything?
Not exactly. I think if you look deep inside yourself, you will find that there isn't much you actually want. If you play out all your wants in your head, and keep asking yourself why, you will realize that most of these wants come from the way you understand the world, which comes from years of conditioning.
Then you will realize your understanding isn't based on anything real, and you will want less and less.
When there are no wants present in your mind, you will be in the moment, and all your negative emotions should be gone.
Nothing I've said so far would be very effecting in an anxious situation, but it should make you feel better once you are alone afterward and feeling bad about yourself.
I'm going to try different things out in social situations and see how quickly I can snap out of any negative mindset. I'll probably say something like, "Why should I want?" and come up with other things if that doesn't work. Edit: Now I'm thinking it might have to do with accepting that our understandings are false instead of telling ourselves how silly it is to want, but still working at it.
I hope this clicks with some people and makes them feel better.
I just wanted to share some stuff I've recently thought of about unhappiness.
I've said in a few other posts that I think living in the moment is the solution to ridding ourselves of unhappiness, but it's not that easy to live in the moment.
Not judging anything, including yourself, was another thing I've said would make people truly happy. I had the feeling that not judging would also help people to be in the moment.
I asked myself today, "What stops us from living in the moment?" Why do we think about other things instead of just appreciating the moment?
The answer, I'm almost sure, is wanting. When we want something that we don't already have, we think about that thing we want. This takes us out of the moment. Not only that, but because we put this want on a pedestal, we think of our current situation in a negative light.
Ask yourself what you want. When you come up with a good answer, ask yourself why you want it. If you can answer the question, then ask yourself why again. Eventually you'll have to say, "I don't know." It's like a small child asking a simple question to an adult, then asking why repeatedly until the adult can't answer anymore. This is life.
As a child we don't think we know anything, and that's why kids are so happy. The older we get the more we think we know, and the more we think we know, the more we judge and the more we want. Then with maturity comes humility, and we slowly realize how little we know. This is why old people don't really care as much, probably also because times change and they feel more and more out of the loop.
But am I telling you not to want anything?
Not exactly. I think if you look deep inside yourself, you will find that there isn't much you actually want. If you play out all your wants in your head, and keep asking yourself why, you will realize that most of these wants come from the way you understand the world, which comes from years of conditioning.
Then you will realize your understanding isn't based on anything real, and you will want less and less.
When there are no wants present in your mind, you will be in the moment, and all your negative emotions should be gone.
Nothing I've said so far would be very effecting in an anxious situation, but it should make you feel better once you are alone afterward and feeling bad about yourself.
I'm going to try different things out in social situations and see how quickly I can snap out of any negative mindset. I'll probably say something like, "Why should I want?" and come up with other things if that doesn't work. Edit: Now I'm thinking it might have to do with accepting that our understandings are false instead of telling ourselves how silly it is to want, but still working at it.
I hope this clicks with some people and makes them feel better.
