Who are you? What do you want? What do you like? What do you dislike?
We can't really answer these questions, yet we have beliefs about all of these things.
When we are born we know nothing and we have no opinions. We eventually figure out that we are the same species as the rest of the people in our environment and we assume we can learn about life by observing others. We think that we will learn who we are by figuring out who they are.
So we watch and we come to conclusions about what we want, like and dislike based on our observations of other people.
The most important thing to remember is that our wants are just a part of our beliefs. We really don't want anything, but we believe we want certain things. We can't explain what we are, so how would we be able to know what we want?
We have a belief of who we are based on who we believe others to be. These beliefs aren't justified, because we don't know. When we are young, we assume other people know what they are, because they act like they do, because they believe they do.
These beliefs are subconscious, for the most part, and don't get the questioning they deserve.
Unhappiness is usually best described as a feeling of incompleteness. This is not true though, because we are complete. We have been complete since we were born. Life itself is 100% complete.
Unhappiness is always due to an unfulfilled want. Of course we don't truly want something, we only believe we want something. We feel we're supposed to have something else, or things are supposed to be a different way. These are all beliefs--unjustified beliefs.
This is why we feel incomplete. We have a subconscious belief of what "complete" is. We have times when we have met our standards of completeness, and we feel fine, but if something changes, whether it be our idea of what complete is, or our perception of where we stand in relation to our idea of completeness, then we will once again feel incomplete.
Sometimes we lose our perception of ourselves by performing certain activities. These activities can become addictive, not because they make us feel especially good, but because they keep our mind occupied so that it cannot compare ourselves to our ideal selves.
Instead of distracting our minds, and instead of trying to work towards our unjustified, subconscious belief of what completeness is, it is a much better idea to remove the unnecessary beliefs.
These beliefs restrict us from being happy in certain situations, because we believe we are not supposed to be happy. All we feel is that we have a want that is unsatisfied and nothing should be enjoyed until that want is fulfilled. And just to reiterate, that want is not a true want, but a believed want, based on the belief of who you are.
All the things we believe we don't want, we can actually acquire an appreciation for those things. We are never missing out, what we're really doing is ALWAYS experiencing. As long as we are alive we are constantly experiencing something. If we remove our false wants, we can turn situations from negative to positive. Painful = a feeling of aliveness, boring = relaxing etc... The only reason these things are bad to us is we subconsciously believe things are supposed to be different; that we are supposed to be different.
Anyway, just some stuff I wanted to share. I hope it's helpful to some people.
We can't really answer these questions, yet we have beliefs about all of these things.
When we are born we know nothing and we have no opinions. We eventually figure out that we are the same species as the rest of the people in our environment and we assume we can learn about life by observing others. We think that we will learn who we are by figuring out who they are.
So we watch and we come to conclusions about what we want, like and dislike based on our observations of other people.
The most important thing to remember is that our wants are just a part of our beliefs. We really don't want anything, but we believe we want certain things. We can't explain what we are, so how would we be able to know what we want?
We have a belief of who we are based on who we believe others to be. These beliefs aren't justified, because we don't know. When we are young, we assume other people know what they are, because they act like they do, because they believe they do.
These beliefs are subconscious, for the most part, and don't get the questioning they deserve.
Unhappiness is usually best described as a feeling of incompleteness. This is not true though, because we are complete. We have been complete since we were born. Life itself is 100% complete.
Unhappiness is always due to an unfulfilled want. Of course we don't truly want something, we only believe we want something. We feel we're supposed to have something else, or things are supposed to be a different way. These are all beliefs--unjustified beliefs.
This is why we feel incomplete. We have a subconscious belief of what "complete" is. We have times when we have met our standards of completeness, and we feel fine, but if something changes, whether it be our idea of what complete is, or our perception of where we stand in relation to our idea of completeness, then we will once again feel incomplete.
Sometimes we lose our perception of ourselves by performing certain activities. These activities can become addictive, not because they make us feel especially good, but because they keep our mind occupied so that it cannot compare ourselves to our ideal selves.
Instead of distracting our minds, and instead of trying to work towards our unjustified, subconscious belief of what completeness is, it is a much better idea to remove the unnecessary beliefs.
These beliefs restrict us from being happy in certain situations, because we believe we are not supposed to be happy. All we feel is that we have a want that is unsatisfied and nothing should be enjoyed until that want is fulfilled. And just to reiterate, that want is not a true want, but a believed want, based on the belief of who you are.
All the things we believe we don't want, we can actually acquire an appreciation for those things. We are never missing out, what we're really doing is ALWAYS experiencing. As long as we are alive we are constantly experiencing something. If we remove our false wants, we can turn situations from negative to positive. Painful = a feeling of aliveness, boring = relaxing etc... The only reason these things are bad to us is we subconsciously believe things are supposed to be different; that we are supposed to be different.
Anyway, just some stuff I wanted to share. I hope it's helpful to some people.
