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Am 23...Well I saw a couple of 21 year olds on this forum,to them I say please try harder : don't settle with just being fine, seek discomfort , allow yourself to live ,bond and love ,Say YES to all social invites , don't always use academics as an excuse not to be social, socializing is not wasting time. This forum is full of depressing things and thoughts but don't just look to relate to us or the posts seek to avoid what we are going through. There can be a better ,healthier path if you try now.
 

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I meant "what advice do you have for someone younger than you with SA"
 

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I didn't have any answers when I was younger and I dont have any answers now. happiness is a mirage.
 

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Don't give in to peer pressure just to get approval from your friends/acquaintances if you are about to do something which goes against your own common sense, I find that people afflicted with anxiety problems are doubly susceptible to this as our incessant self-criticism keeps on casting doubts and problems with every decision we make, and how they could possibly affect others' perception of us, that was the case with younger me anyway.



Also, if they can't respect your decision, then they're no friends of yours.
 

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Don't quit before you try. Most of life was nonexistent because I was too scared to even try. If you fail you fail but don't quit on yourself...take a leap.
 

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1. Happiness is a state of mind

2. Think long-term or you will probably live to regret it. What I mean by that is if your main goal in life wherever you are now is to acquire friends, you should probably be asking yourself what they will mean to you 30 years from now. Most of the friendships people forge as young people are superficial and don't last much past the age when everyone starts getting married. The plain truth is (at least where I live) you can live without friends if you have a decent job and good financial sense. It generally does not work out the other way around. When you get older, people see you as a liability if you are needy (financially or socially). Especially since most of your acquaintances will have moved on and have a lot to lose by associating with people who have nothing.

There are some cases where making friends will get you places so there's nothing wrong with experimenting with that if you haven't. Just don't count on it. And remember. These people have somewhere in mind that they want to go while they're doing college or whatever it is. Their goal in life is not to hang out with you. And if it is, you should probably think twice about hanging out with them.
 

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Don't take my advice too seriously.. ;p What works for me, is not likely to work for others.. wish it would, then I would be some amazing guru..well no, scratch that, I don't want to be an amazing guru, then I would have to live on a mountain, and that would be kind of cool, but people would keep coming to my door asking all sorts of questions about the meaning of life, or what they should be doing.



As such there is no advice to be given. Other than, don't take advice from strangers. I wish you well in your endeavors oh young ones :)
 

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Don't quit before you try. Most of life was nonexistent because I was too scared to even try. If you fail you fail but don't quit on yourself...take a leap.
Agreed. Don't be afraid of failure. Chances are it's going to happen a lot - people won't like you, companies will reject your job applications, your partner may cheat on you or leave you.

Some of us get a smoother ride than others, but it's all part of living and we just make do with the hand we're dealt. Gotta roll with the punches (and kicks)!
 

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Don't be too hard on yourself when things don't go according to plan. You got out there and gave it a shot, and that's awesome. In fact, it might have gone better than you think. Just take it easy on yourself, take a deep breath, and give yourself time to regroup if you need it. There's no shame in trying and failing, in fact it's a noble thing to do.
 

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Agreed. Don't be afraid of failure. Chances are it's going to happen a lot - people won't like you, companies will reject your job applications, your partner may cheat on you or leave you.

Some of us get a smoother ride than others, but it's all part of living and we just make do with the hand we're dealt. Gotta roll with the punches (and kicks)!
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Have some grounding. Know what you can definitely do, so that when something doesn't go right, you don't go off on a tangent thinking that you can't do anything. :)
 

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Don't hide.
 

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Am 23...Well I saw a couple of 21 year olds on this forum,to them I say please try harder : don't settle with just being fine, seek discomfort , allow yourself to live ,bond and love ,Say YES to all social invites , don't always use academics as an excuse not to be social, socializing is not wasting time. This forum is full of depressing things and thoughts but don't just look to relate to us or the posts seek to avoid what we are going through. There can be a better ,healthier path if you try now.
I am 25 so my advice trumps your advice. I say only say yes to social invites if you think they are going to be fun. DO only what you think you are going to enjoy. You should not feel bad about not doing things you don't enjoy. If you'd rather sit home and read a book, than going to a social event, do that. Do not let other people control what you should do.
 

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Change is a scary thing but a necessity in order to learn and build your skills, don't let your fear and anxiety stop you from pursuing your goals/dreams because if you never give yourself the chance you will only live within a comfortable misery, wondering with regret what could have happened. Take things slow, start with a small goal and build upon it towards the complete project.
 

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Yes valium is a good idea, I need drugs asap :yes
 

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Don't give in to the sirens' call of avoidance.
That's what I was basically going to come here to say but you worded it a lot better lol.
 
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