we have social anxiety and there is a reason, STOP blaimimg yourself and don't try to change into something you're not.
some people and some situations gives us anxiety because they're are acting irational and violent. i consider persons with social anxiety to be nonviolent people and i don't see any problem in that.
mental disorders are caused by this ****ed up society, in special the monetary economic system that we are living.
if you consider yourself different from others is because you are, you understand life how it should be. the others are living like sheeps doing everything they are told.
watch this documentary and try to understand the first part of it so you will live a less stressfull life. like all human beings we want to be accepted by others and be loved and that is true but if the society is mean, greedy, irational, ignorant why the **** do you wanna "fit in", "be cool" , "confident" when in the world they are 1 bilion people living in poverty.
try to criticize, ask yourself if your world is like you believe it is.