[spanky]

And we know it . It's a catch 22 i guess. We all say that we don't want people to stare at us and stuff, but it feels so nice when someone shows us some attantion. Maybe we should share some too.

Maybe we demand too much attention from other people, and when we don't get it we tend too get depressed and stuff. I know that was the case with me for the most part of my life. I wouldn't show up or hang out with my friends (when i had friends), unless i was invited.

The thing that i noticed on this forum is, when some person post a venting thread to discuss its problem, some people will just get there and say like: I'm sorry for you, you are overreacting..... and then start talking about own problem, or similar situation. While some people will immediately start talking about their problems.

Maybe we should start thinking how to help or make happy people that are close to us, instead of worrying about little things, and think only about our problems. And maybe we will forget about bad things and SA in the process. I know that helps me.

And living in the PRESENT, while not overanalysing the past, or fearing of future helps a LOT. I think this and not thinking only about our problems is the way to beat SA. If we think only about our problems, we are the same as those egocentric bullying people that we despise so much.

Do you see where i'm aiming at (first two parahraphs are just a brief intro )?? I don't want to offend some people, cause i'm not an english speaking person and i hardly choose words even in my native language. and as a guy with SA i know how easy is for us to get offended or feel attacked. I just want to share my thoughts how to beat SA and get better .

Jeez i guess i made a long post, but i think it's a worth read anyway, hehe.

 

[spanky]

Your english is great, you seriously could have fooled me if you said it was your native language =).

Thank you very much .

Well you all people are right. Ofcourse everyone has to think about themselves, it's in our nature. But it can help tremendously when you think about other people in a little more positive way. Not just in "offensive" way. I was bullied and ignored a lot my whole life, and so are the most of members here too i guess, so it's natural that we think that way.

And ofcourse it's perfectly okay to vent, i mean this is what this board is for . I wasn't judgemental or anything, i like to vent too. I think that it's important to find some balance and measure, in all things.

I was a bit down yesterday, so i posted some of my conclusions to cheer up myself i guess, instead of venting. And it helped, i kinda forced myself to think positive and it felt so good.

Only if i could bring that thoughts into actions. I haven't got out of my house for about a week now. You know, my SA is really, really bad, no matter how positive i try to be in my posts. And today i will avoid second birthday invite this month. And i really respect that person, but there will be a lot people that i don't like there. I didn't say definite NO as i thought that i could get myself to go, but i just don't have enough energy. I would feel sleepy after 30 minutes already, if i go to the party. I feel so sad and selfish, but that is better for sure, than suffering strong and exausting panic attacks at the party. I am just painfully shy (like all of you, again ), and some people that will go there called me evil, and demented. in a number ocasions, despite the fact that i'm usually helpful, and never gave them a reason to call me evil. But the person that has a party is such a great guy, and he is the reason i feel so bad. I will just have to find a way to redempt myself to him. I am so exausted with the state i am now, that my depression is well seen on my face. I look pale and sick all the time, with big black bags under my eyes...

I'm sorry for the last paragraph, but i couldn't help myself but vent a bit, and i could whine forever i guess.