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I'm wondering if anyone else has this problem, I can't watch tv at all when someone else is in the room. I also cannot listen to music out without headphones on or browse the internet with people in the room. I feel like people will judge me for what im watching or what music I listen too. Does anyone else have this problem?
 

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I sure do. That's why someone else will always choose what to watch. Of course, a lot of the stuff I watch/listen to/read is a bit off anyway, so I can't really blame them.
 

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No one ever comes into my apartment, but if they did, it would be a problem. As it is, I keep the windows closed when I listen to music or watch anything.

I used to always, always minimize whatever I was doing on the computer, no matter what it was, when someone came into the room. My dad got pissed off about it and made it a rule that I wouldn't be allowed to use the computer again if I ever minimized, closed, or changed windows when he entered. I felt uncomfortable even using computers in labs, though.
 

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No one ever comes into my home for this to be an issue, but if they did, it would be a problem. As it is, I keep the windows closed when I listen to music or watch anything.

I used to always, always minimize whatever I was doing on the computer, no matter what it was, when someone came into the room. My dad got pissed off about it and made it a rule that I wouldn't be allowed to use the computer again if I ever minimized, closed, or changed windows when he entered.
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I don't worry about being judged for WHAT i'm watching, rather for feeling scrutinized by others in the room.... if for example im watching a tv show and someone walks in the room and starts looking at me, i'll have a difficult time concentrating and then i'm worried that because of that they'll think i'm dumb.
 

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ya bro i feel ya. I got this same problem too. I think its because my Dad is so judgemental to begin with. If i was watching a hip-hop song he would complain about it saying " that isnt music" or something like that. lol.
 

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I don't know if I have that problem because of fear of being judged, but I do not like watching tv/movies with people and I always like to use headphones (plus it's just easier to hear with them on)

I was listening to music before when my sister came in my room and I had to turn it off...not sure why. I guess it's just somehow awkward. (had a vague thought "what if its weird that Im listening to this music")

I guess I worry a little about how I will react to what's on tv, I mean, I'd react in a weird/different way to something if someone else was in there with me, than if I were just watching something by myself.

Not sure if this relates but when I was in school, and had to watch a movie or something with everyone I'd be so tense and nervous, I would be worried about people noticing how much I was like that. I'd worry about making sudden movements too because I'd nearly jump if anything in the movie etc was excited or violent or loud.
 

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It doesn't bother me what people think of what I'm watching but I just find it hard to focus between people who are there with me & the shows/films which is why I usually watch by myself, it allows me to concentrate on what's happening in the program
 

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I definitely have a hard time doing things when other people are in the room, but it doesn't really have anything to do with people judging my taste in tv shows, books, music, websites, or anything like that. All I know is that I feel terribly awkward and self-conscious and have a much harder time concentrating on whatever it is I'm doing--and given my ADD issues, concentrating is something I have a hard enough time doing to begin with. Feeling like I'm being observed by someone else makes it even harder.

But as uncomfortable as it is for me to be observed doing something passive (reading, watching tv, etc.), it's even worse if someone else is in the room when I'm performing some kind of action, no matter how simple or commonplace (e.g., washing my hands, sweeping the floor, making a sandwich, washing the dishes). That's when I get really self-conscious.
 

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My computer is in my parents living room so i don't have much privacy even though my parents never use the room. I hate having my parents come in when i am on this site because i feel they would judge me. I feel as if they are watching me over my shoulder to see what i am doing.

The only thing i hate about watching tv with my parents is when a sex scene comes on, that's so embarassing! I say thing like ''that's disgusting!'' when in reality in privacy i enjoy sex scenes!
 

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I'm wondering if anyone else has this problem, I can't watch tv at all when someone else is in the room. I also cannot listen to music out without headphones on or browse the internet with people in the room. I feel like people will judge me for what im watching or what music I listen too. Does anyone else have this problem?
Yes, I have a problem with this.

I'm more relaxed if it's a comedy show. But if it's a drama series, or something like that, then I'm more anxious.

A lot of my anxiety is dependent upon where I'm sitting.
 

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I've had a problem with this all my life actually, but I never could do anything about it since my sister always chose what we would watch or listen to. I much better now though, I can play music without headphones but I still don't turn on the tv or let anyone see what I'm doing on the internet. I also close all the doors and blinds when I'm watching hentai, I don't want someone to look in and think I'm a pervert lol. And now I'm blushing, wonderful.
 

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Some people like their privacy more than others. Most people are pretty discrete with their porn as though it's some kind of guilty secret. Strangely it's the other way around where I live, the fellas generally open their doors, turn the volume up and draw a bit of a crowd. ;)

Never really had a problem with the TV myself. A positive side effect of having to fight over what we'd watch tooth and nail with an older brother and sister.
 

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The computer I use w/ internet is located...in the kitchen near the doorway. Privacy is limited, and if I find myself browsing a particular forum (such as this one) or chatting, I would constantly minimize the window.
And yes, I've been known to watch TV alone and listen to music with headphones. I'm a music lover, but I'm so used to headphones that I seldom consider buying a stereo system. Besides, whenever I play my type of music, someone judges my tastes.
 

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I'm wondering if anyone else has this problem, I can't watch tv at all when someone else is in the room. I also cannot listen to music out without headphones on or browse the internet with people in the room. I feel like people will judge me for what im watching or what music I listen too. Does anyone else have this problem?
Exactly. I can't watch tv if someone else is in the room... If I do, then I feel really awkward. It's the same with listening to, and playing, music. Also browsing the web... I have to be alone.

I hate being judged, just can't take it. :|
 

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Exactly. I can't watch tv if someone else is in the room... If I do, then I feel really awkward. It's the same with listening to, and playing, music. Also browsing the web... I have to be alone.

I hate being judged, just can't take it. :|
Yeah, I have that problem-I feel the most intense self consciousness, I turn red, I can't focus on what I'm doing if I listen to a certain song(esp. rap/hiphop songs like Salt Shaker, or Ms. New Booty, or Bojangles) and I'm afraid someone will overhear and judge me and laugh at me, so I'm always taking my headphones on and off to make sure no one can hear what I'm listening to or if i look at a certain website I'm self conscious, and watching tv is not the biggest problem unless an explicit scene comes up
 

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I'm not too bad about the tv watching (mainly because the people I know watch more or less the same things)
but the music and internet stuff I understand fully
even when I am reading books it bothers me a little
but the music bothers me the most
prolly because ppl my age that I am around are quite "indie"...so I feel like I have to try and meet their indie standards, and if I don't i will be like, shunned or something
I know it prolly wouldn't happen....but it still bothers me:roll
 

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I also feel like I cannot watch tv with someone else like my mom or my brother in the room, but it depends on what show it is. If it's something we watch together it's okay, but if it's any kind of anime/cartoon like Bleach, Gundam or Avatar or something I feel uncomfortable watching it. I'm afraid they'll either judge me or say something to me about it like "What are you doing watching this crap. Get a life and stop watching cartoons. You're 20 years old dammit." My brother already told me that he thought it was "disgusting" that I watch Avatar.
 
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