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I've noticed I have this "problem" that I talk to different people in markedly different voices and tones. Of course you always adopt different registers with different people, but this is more about not being able to communicate on a desired level. Just to give you an example, with my best friend and when I'm alone I can talk in a fairly wide and expressive range, but if I'm talking to a female acquaintance from the university, my voice goes really flat, a bit hoarse and I've noticed I tend to use slightly effeminate vocal inflections.

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lol yes I'm a pro. Sometimes when I talk to really preppy people, my voice register goes all over the place like they do just so I can match their style. For emo folk it's the opposite. For guys my voice goes pretty low and smooth (to lure them in? lol not sure why). Strange things we do because of S.A.
 

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I've noticed I have this "problem" that I talk to different people in markedly different voices and tones. Of course you always adopt different registers with different people, but this is more about not being able to communicate on a desired level. Just to give you an example, with my best friend and when I'm alone I can talk in a fairly wide and expressive range, but if I'm talking to a female acquaintance from the university, my voice goes really flat, a bit hoarse and I've noticed I tend to use slightly effeminate vocal inflections.

Any other "masters of disguise" in here?
I tend to take on the tone, even the accent, of whoever I'm talking to.
I think it comes from having a weak self-image, and being more a reflection of other people than having my own strong, distinct personality.
 

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As a kid I noticed that if I said things as if I was very certain of them it tended to set my mother off, so I learned to act like I was unsure, use a lot of I dunnos, you knows, umms, and maybes. Act like I wasn't sure if what I said was right. This would keep her calmer, I think she had some sort of affective disorder. When I grew up I had to constantly hear her complain that all her children mumble. On the inside I was like, why do you think we do that, you crazy b**ch?

Anyway, if I really trust a person I talk like a normal person but most of the time I fall into the habit of acting like I barely believe in the things I'm saying.
 

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As a kid I noticed that if I said things as if I was very certain of them it tended to set my mother off, so I learned to act like I was unsure, use a lot of I dunnos, you knows, umms, and maybes. Act like I wasn't sure if what I said was right. This would keep her calmer, I think she had some sort of affective disorder. When I grew up I had to constantly hear her complain that all her children mumble. On the inside I was like, why do you think we do that, you crazy b**ch?

Anyway, if I really trust a person I talk like a normal person but most of the time I fall into the habit of acting like I barely believe in the things I'm saying.
 

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I do that too. If I'm uncomfortable around somebody my voice will get flat and real quiet and I hate not being able to make it sound normal as if I'm talking to a family member or someone I'm close with. It really sucks.
 

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At work (cashier in a dept store): annoying and perky if I've had good sleep or scraggly, low man voice when my energy gets drained and the customer is pissing me off.

I've been told at times that I have a nice voice, but I don't even know how I really sound like. I imagine its not good, because I've been drinking quite a bit lately and my throat feels constricted. I think I have an overall weak voice.

Also, its so weird: when I speak one on one, my voice is stronger.....but when I'm speaking in a group, my nerves manifest in my throat and my voice just fades away.
 

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Yeah when im confident I can manage a deep, expressive voice, but must of the time it's barely audible, strained, monotonous, low, stammering, it feels like I have to shout to get it out, but it still comes out so soft like im talking through my nose, which makes me look/feel like some sort of psycho. Making me even more anxious.

Lately I've noticed dark coloured veins at the back of my throat, and blisters as well. It always feels sore, like there's something there, especially if i've just had an anxious episode. I'm not sure if it's some sort of physical illness, the SA or a combination of both. If I were a betting man, I'd say combo of both. I really need to see a ENT specialist soon...
 

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Yeah Same Exact Thing

I noticed I do the same thing. The thing about myself that tends to annoy me is my voice. Its not high pitched or anything, but I am black and people think I'm trying to sound "white". So now i become very self-conscious when speaking, especially to other black people.... towards black people: hip hop twang, towards white people: suburban white boy, towards adults: deeper serious.....its so annoying not being able to speak comfortably in your own voice.
 
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