Your ego is how you see yourself, as if from another person's perspective. I've always believed the ego was the cause of S.A., and I thought eliminating the ego was the best way to eliminate S.A., and insecurity in general.
I thought emotions were bad, because they alter people's behavior, and when people change emotions, they might regret what they did when they were in a different emotional state.
I recently realized that emotions are the biggest part of life.
I want to he happy. Happiness is an emotion, and in my opinion, it's the only way to measure a person's quality of life. No matter what happens in your life, if you are happy, things are going well.
Anyway, back to the ego. I thought getting rid of the ego was the best solution to getting rid of people's insecurity. I've realized though, like emotions, the ego is a big part of life. Instead of allowing the ego to make us sad or angry, why not use it to make us happy?
The ego results in competition. That's what it does. People with S.A. are only sad because they compare themselves to others in ways that they shouldn't. People who you'd say have "big egos" do the same thing. They compare themselves to others, and feel proud because they've accomplished more. The thing is, they're value system is messed up, and so is yours.
People with big egos are happy for the wrong reason. Insecure people are sad/afraid for the wrong reasons as well.
But the ego is not completely bad! Like emotions, the ego is a big part of life. How can we use the ego in a different way, other than making ourselves feel better or worse than other people?
How people see you matters. People are the most important thing in life. The impact you leave on people is the impact you leave on the world.
Instead of trying to get people to respect, why not try to get them to think you're a nice person? Why not try to make them enjoy you?
That's what I'm talking about.
Think about it: The impact you leave on people is the impact you leave on the world, because people are all that matter.
You might think you don't like people, because they are hurtful, but who do they hurt?
If you are angry at people, you probably care about people. If you care about people, why not help them? Be nice to them because you want to see yourself as a nice person, and you care what they think.
Give people a good impression of yourself, and be egotistical about that, instead of feeling inadequate because of stupid reasons that mean nothing.
I thought emotions were bad, because they alter people's behavior, and when people change emotions, they might regret what they did when they were in a different emotional state.
I recently realized that emotions are the biggest part of life.
I want to he happy. Happiness is an emotion, and in my opinion, it's the only way to measure a person's quality of life. No matter what happens in your life, if you are happy, things are going well.
Anyway, back to the ego. I thought getting rid of the ego was the best solution to getting rid of people's insecurity. I've realized though, like emotions, the ego is a big part of life. Instead of allowing the ego to make us sad or angry, why not use it to make us happy?
The ego results in competition. That's what it does. People with S.A. are only sad because they compare themselves to others in ways that they shouldn't. People who you'd say have "big egos" do the same thing. They compare themselves to others, and feel proud because they've accomplished more. The thing is, they're value system is messed up, and so is yours.
People with big egos are happy for the wrong reason. Insecure people are sad/afraid for the wrong reasons as well.
But the ego is not completely bad! Like emotions, the ego is a big part of life. How can we use the ego in a different way, other than making ourselves feel better or worse than other people?
How people see you matters. People are the most important thing in life. The impact you leave on people is the impact you leave on the world.
Instead of trying to get people to respect, why not try to get them to think you're a nice person? Why not try to make them enjoy you?
That's what I'm talking about.
Think about it: The impact you leave on people is the impact you leave on the world, because people are all that matter.
You might think you don't like people, because they are hurtful, but who do they hurt?
If you are angry at people, you probably care about people. If you care about people, why not help them? Be nice to them because you want to see yourself as a nice person, and you care what they think.
Give people a good impression of yourself, and be egotistical about that, instead of feeling inadequate because of stupid reasons that mean nothing.