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Smile (not too much though), act bubbly, friendly and like you're relaxed and in your element. From my experience it you act like you're awkward, trying really hard, etc people will just feel uncomfortable. Give people random compliments also (I made a friend by talking about how nice her handwriting was, weird but worked).
I have made good friends at uni acting a certain way, but I feel like a fake version of myself around a lot of them.
Try talking to other quiet people, chances are they will be incredibly happy someone is approaching and talking to them. Also show them you're genuinely interested in them when you talk to them.
Don't stress about immediately making friends, my closest friend I made two thirds of the way into my first year.
My uni also has clubs for everything you can imagine, joining one or two is a good is a good idea.
I actually just realised you never actually said you're a first year, if not though most or what I said still applies.
 

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Yeah, I totally get what you're saying. I'm pretty tired of people asking me how great university is, how many parties do I go to, and how jealous of me because they miss it so much - honestly, when I hear this, I now just assume people want to not deal with their careers because being a student is just easier for some people.

Anyway, I too have had almost no socializing in class - I don't even know how people connect, but I figure it's through living on residence and going to parties.

Sooo, I actually just joined a bunch of clubs, and already it's upped my social life in a way. It's nice to have things to do, and you meet tons of different people, plus you already have something in common, so conversation just feels easier and less awkward. So I would suggest that - join clubs that you're interested in and try to volunteer on campus.

I also "single out" the other students I notice who sit by themselves or seem more quiet and talk to them. This doesn't always work, but then again, sometimes it does. Just try and take advantage of every small opportunity you have.
 

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I'm at university right now and I feel regret every day that I'm wasting the 'best years of my life'.

I have had no experiences ever and I have no friends. I feel miserable and on the verge of crying every day.
 

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Sometimes I wish all of us could unite and have some epic times. It sucks that in real life this isn't a happening thing.
 

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Sometimes I wish all of us could unite and have some epic times. It sucks that in real life this isn't a happening thing.
It's a nice thought, but I've met people with SA in the past and nothing really happened. We socialised like normal people but there was no connection despite the things we had in common. In general I think it is very difficult to meet someone and form a genuine bond.
 

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Uni is for rich intelligent people who are spoilt and stuck up posh twats, if you don't fit into that category then it will be hard to make friends.

You don't go uni to make friends anyway.
 
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