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So I was trying to make the garage a little more roomy the other day (you'd be surprised just how much space gets wasted when you cram A REFRIGERATOR!!!! into a small one car garage).

So I'm shuffling all these ridiculous junky things around in there. Just random useless items like the toys my sister's kids used to ride on ten years ago that my mother won't get rid of because of the sentimentality of it (even though my mother stayed in her room with the door closed the whole time they were here because they were screaming and screeching like kids do).

Anyway, I took this almost six foot wooden ladder and thought I was being clever by moving it from a side wall to the back wall (it was in the way of opening the car door on the side wall). Well, I leaned it against the back wall at a bad angle (I don't know what you'd call it because I'm just that dumb but it was too straight up and down) and as I was walking away, it tipped and hit the floor with a super loud bang that left my ears ringing for like two hours.

Now my mother has started resisting the idea of having the junk people come and take the useless refrigerator away because she wants to use it as a storage cabinet. I'm like "The thing weighs 300 pounds and you could buy a cheapo storage cabinet anywhere! Just...why? It's a 300 pound piece of junk and it needs to go while we can still get rid of it without paying a thousand dollars to dispose of it".

My dad has big rolls or paper towels and toilet paper stashed all over the place out there in big plastic bags. We'll probably never see them again because he keeps buying more without rotating the ones that are out there into the house so they get used. I am going to end up having walls of paper towels and toilet paper collapsing around me whenever I go out there.

I really want to sneak out there one day and throw at least most of the small stuff in the trash. My dad has probably 300 pounds of papers he has amassed from a lifetime of hoarding paperwork. I tried to gently coax him into shredding these papers a bundle at a time but he wouldn't do it. I brought a bundle in a year or so ago and he said he'd look at them. He put them on the floor in one of the few remaining empty spots by the wall in the dining room and threw a towel over them. And there they sat for months. Eventually I got tired of looking at them and fighting with them whenever I needed a temporary clear spot to sit something and had to pile it on top of them.

So all of those papers are still out there and I am convinced he will never get rid of them. I really should just start sneaking and depositing small batches of them in the dumpster from time to time so he doesn't notice. Then again that would take ten years I bet as many as there are out there.

Now there are two used up airbeds out there (misshapen and holes in them) that he refuses to throw away. So he stuffed them awkwardly in trash bags and just sat them on the floor out there for whatever reason.
 

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Had vaccine an hour or so ago, no symptoms so far hopefully it doesn't get bad.

There was this cool graffiti'd area I didn't notice before in town, it was sort of video game themed the building next to it was just a casino though which is disappointing. Should have been a cool indie arcade.
 

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What I suspected all along was all but confirmed to me. I probably should be upset but I really don’t care much. I could and probably should use it as some kind of motivation though.
 

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It's weird I saw this tweet today because I think the same thing pretty much every morning when I wake up. I feel like my default state is dead and through some strange cosmic accident I'm alive somehow. It's like the universe's incompetent bureaucrats got their paperwork all mis-shuffled and forgot I'm not supposed to exist. Like how do I even exist? Me? How? Shouldn't be possible.

Also I need to stop scrolling through twitter all day every day.

 

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It's weird I saw this tweet today because I think the same thing pretty much every morning when I wake up. I feel like my default state is dead and through some strange cosmic accident I'm alive somehow. It's like the universe's incompetent bureaucrats got their paperwork all mis-shuffled and forgot I'm not supposed to exist. Like how do I even exist? Me? How? Shouldn't be possible.
Sounds like the next Umbrella Academy plotline.


I'm getting increasingly worried that SAS may be in terminal decline, now. So few and very spaced apart posts throughout the forum, recently!
Aside from the redesign migration, I think the lost of blogs likely is speeding this up too unfortunately.
 

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Having that fridge out there is likely to just end up being a mold factory. The condensation on the inside, as well as all of the water that never seems to get out entirely from the evaporator. Your mom might reconsider if you tell her that anything stored in that fridge is likely to eventually get moldy.

My mother in law used to hoard things, it was really bad. She had a hard time throwing a lot of things away, and when I would try to convince her to she would get agitated. After she passed away, I remember attempting to clean out her home, it was really bad. Eventually I had to give up, there was too much stuff and it is and hour and a half drive one way, it would have taken weeks to clear it out, and to have it professionally done would have cost at least $5000, for the disposal and also for pest control.. the thing needed to be tented.

Strangely, toward the end of her life she had started to try to clear out some stuff, I think she finally snapped out of it and started to make progress. On her deathbed, I remember her telling us to burn the place, which was surprising because she always seemed so attached to it and her stuff. For years my wife and I often tried to convince her to move out of it, but she would just get upset as she had really grown attached to that house. She purchased it years ago, and it was a thing of pride for her. It was really surprising to hear her say that on her deathbed.

Needless to say, the trailer park got her trailer. I was worried they would come after us to force us to have it removed, but thankfully we held no legal responsibility for that trailer. I see it on google earth, and some poor soul bought it, that thing was chewed apart by insects and needed to be condemned.. I mean, I could literally push my finger through the exterior walls due to termite damage. The roof collapsed after she passed away, I imagine someone fell through it while inspecting the place.

Anyway, I'm sorry you have to put up with that kind of nonsense.
 

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My mother in law used to hoard things, it was really bad. She had a hard time throwing a lot of things away, and when I would try to convince her to she would get agitated. After she passed away, I remember attempting to clean out her home, it was really bad. Eventually I had to give up, there was too much stuff and it is and hour and a half drive one way, it would have taken weeks to clear it out, and to have it professionally done would have cost at least $5000..

Needless to say, the trailer park got her trailer. I was worried they would come after us to force us to have it removed, but thankfully we held no legal responsibility for that trailer. I see it on google earth, and some poor soul bought it, that thing was chewed apart by insects and needed to be condemned.. I mean, I could literally push my finger through the exterior walls due to termite damage. The roof collapsed after she passed away, I imagine someone fell through it while inspecting the place.

Anyway, I'm sorry you have to put up with that kind of nonsense.
Oh man. I hate those things! (trailers). I grew up partially in a trailer. It was new when they moved into it (though a new one is pretty much as crappy as an old one but just smells better). They build them cheap and light (to facilitate moving and weight limits I guess). And then once they have been parked for a certain number of years, it's hard to get them moved again. I don't know if the new ones are any better made than they used to be but the old ones were horrible to heat and cool. The insulation was terrible. In the Summer it was like being inside an oven without AC and in the Winter you could feel the cold air the instant the heat clicked off.

I didn't know it was that bad and only know it now looking back. I thought it was normal when I was a kid. :LOL:
 

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Just at work now and I just feel so disappointed in myself for something that happened yesterday. Really wanting to text someone and say we shouldn't speak anymore; it's not good for either of us. They want something's and I am not okay to be friends I am not healthy enough. I cannot do friendship, I just don't want to talk enough. It's just not going to be enough.
 

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@WillYouStopDave It didn't look bad when she first bought it, it is made of wood and a double wide. It had more space in it than our house, but it was neglected for years. A lot of the interior windows, door frames, and so on were made out of some kind of particle board and they disintegrated. She refused to use AC for years, so it was always hot and humid in the house, I'm sure that lead to quite a lot of damage. The termites ate up parts of the exterior walls, and they were just covered with paint. What a mushy mess that was.

I used to own a trailer, but only for a few months 🤣It was kind of cool, but I hated the neighborhood. It was one of those older models, I thought it looked neat, it had a cool little screened in porch that faced a few trees and was nice to sit out in. I think I was in my 20s still, and bought it for like $2,000 - only later to find out that it too had termites. Dry wood termites, which are the worst kind, regardless to say I gave it away for free.

When I had bought that trailer I later found a job working at a hotel, which provided me a free room anyway so I was paying lot rent for nothing. Those trailer parks are an absolute rip off though. I think when my MIL passed away they were charging her $500 a month just for the lot. At that point I would rather just spend another $300 and get an apartment.
 

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Those trailer parks are an absolute rip off though. I think when my MIL passed away they were charging her $500 a month just for the lot. At that point I would rather just spend another $300 and get an apartment.
Oh yeah. I have noticed the lot fees are sky high. It's like all these people who rent properties get together and conspire for everything to be pretty close to the same price so there's really no good way to live cheap. In some areas anyway. There might be some OK rental prices but it's probably mostly in economically depressed (and likely high crime) areas.

Anyway, I don't know if the lot fees were always that high. Like I said, we lived in one for the first like 12 years of my life. That's a lot of months of paying them and I don't think my dad was making very much. Maybe that particular park was cheap.
 

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@WillYouStopDave They were a lot cheaper, I think in 1999 the park fees were $175. I vaguely recall a documentary on how the trailer parks were being bought up by a few different companies and they started jacking up the prices. A lot of the people that live in them, own the trailers so they are in a bad spot and just had to take the extra expense, those that couldn't afford it ended up giving their trailers to the parks because of the expense involved with moving them. A real depiction of how crappy the US can be at times. Some of the trailer parks offer people a rent to buy option, which only drives the price of rent up further with people buying the dream of owning their own home. I imagine the owners of these parks know full well, that a lot of these people will eventually run into hardship and give them those trailers back for free. Only to repeat the process again.
 

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I'm getting increasingly worried that SAS may be in terminal decline, now. So few and very spaced apart posts throughout the forum, recently!

Yeah, it kind of worries me as well. I think the forum will remain for a long while, even when the posts become one or two a day, or perhaps one or two a week. It still has a wealth of information that a few stragglers will find in search engines and I imagine bring in some revenue.

I know this is being a bit over the top, but this forum really is the only place I open up to people and have what I would consider normal socializing behavior. It is the only place I feel comfortable to post my nonsense. I will be sad to see it slowly go away, because after it does I don't expect I will search out another forum and express myself in the same way.

Just for good measure, I'll put in a poem I first heard when I was in elementary school, surely it too is over the top, but how I feel at times.

Nature’s first green is gold,
Her hardest hue to hold.
Her early leaf’s a flower;
But only so an hour.
Then leaf subsides to leaf.
So Eden sank to grief,
So dawn goes down to day.

Nothing gold can stay.
 

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Just for good measure, I'll put in a poem I first heard when I was in elementary school, surely it too is over the top, but how I feel at times.
I love that poem. And the older I get, the more I feel exactly like that -- everything fades, breaks and dies eventually. I watched it happen to my dad. I've watched it happen to our house, which now needs serious repairs. Even mountains are worn down by wind and water over the ages; there is absolutely nothing which entropy does not affect.

I often have this weird notion that entropy is the true 'ruler' of this universe because nothing can escape it... perhaps not even the universe itself, if the "heat death" theory is to be believed.
 
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