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I just thought I'd share my experiences to all the lonely people out there and hopefully it will give you all HOPE...
I never had friends at school, that included gilrfriends. i never knew how to ask them out and even if I did, what would be the point, they would only reject me.
After school I went to collage, and to begin with it was pretty much the same, no friends, no girlfriend etc.
However, although I didn't have friends, I thought I did (long story not really relevant here), so I just happened to be talking to another guy in the group (there were only four of us) and said i fancied "that" one down there, which was actually his girl friends best mate. This other guy got us to meet and that was it. We weren't right for each other, I knew that very early on but I believed no one else would want me and I'd be better off with the wrong one than no one wouldn't I.
We went out for four years then when we were 21 we got married and for another 9 years we tried to make it work but it didn't. I would never admit it but she realised and left me.
That was it, i would have to kill myself, i wasn't going to live on my own my entire life. But that was such a big step to take I had to try and find someone else first hadn't I?
I gave it a try and put an ad in the local papers lonely hearts column. Not one reply but I wasn't prepared to give up I'd seen a dating agency advertised the wek before so i tried that. I met one person in six months, who wasn't interested. By this time I had the internet so decided to try a few online ones and met a couple of woman, but I wasn't "their type".
8 years later, several dozen dating agencies later and a lot of money later, I was ready to give up but before I did, I gave the local fre paper one last try. I met a couple who both said they'd be in touch, but never did, then nothing. My advert was now no longer in the local paper and that was it, what else could I do. I'd had enough by now, had enough of not being "their type", had enough of them saying " I'll be in touch", had enough of them saying "I like you but not in that way", I just couldn't take any more. But I didn't have to. My advert was now in a different paper in a different area and I had one contact from that paper...five years later and we are still together nad have been married now for 3 and half years.
For all those who think there isn't anyone out there
THERE IS, DON'T GIVE UP, PERSEVERE
Paul
I never had friends at school, that included gilrfriends. i never knew how to ask them out and even if I did, what would be the point, they would only reject me.
After school I went to collage, and to begin with it was pretty much the same, no friends, no girlfriend etc.
However, although I didn't have friends, I thought I did (long story not really relevant here), so I just happened to be talking to another guy in the group (there were only four of us) and said i fancied "that" one down there, which was actually his girl friends best mate. This other guy got us to meet and that was it. We weren't right for each other, I knew that very early on but I believed no one else would want me and I'd be better off with the wrong one than no one wouldn't I.
We went out for four years then when we were 21 we got married and for another 9 years we tried to make it work but it didn't. I would never admit it but she realised and left me.
That was it, i would have to kill myself, i wasn't going to live on my own my entire life. But that was such a big step to take I had to try and find someone else first hadn't I?
I gave it a try and put an ad in the local papers lonely hearts column. Not one reply but I wasn't prepared to give up I'd seen a dating agency advertised the wek before so i tried that. I met one person in six months, who wasn't interested. By this time I had the internet so decided to try a few online ones and met a couple of woman, but I wasn't "their type".
8 years later, several dozen dating agencies later and a lot of money later, I was ready to give up but before I did, I gave the local fre paper one last try. I met a couple who both said they'd be in touch, but never did, then nothing. My advert was now no longer in the local paper and that was it, what else could I do. I'd had enough by now, had enough of not being "their type", had enough of them saying " I'll be in touch", had enough of them saying "I like you but not in that way", I just couldn't take any more. But I didn't have to. My advert was now in a different paper in a different area and I had one contact from that paper...five years later and we are still together nad have been married now for 3 and half years.
For all those who think there isn't anyone out there
THERE IS, DON'T GIVE UP, PERSEVERE
Paul