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has anybody played the "so what" game with their anxiety, my therapist challenged me to say "so what? when it comes to social interactions or situations and i am finding myself still saying "what if? in my head over and over especially when i am around cute girls, even if it is a simple conversation, i will think in my head, the girl might be thinking i am just trying to pick her up, so i just avoid it most of the time, why does "so what" seem so hard.
 

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Sounds a lot like **** it in pop culture

Like when people take a huge risk, they are figthing themselves over it and just say

**** it

And go and do it
 

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has anybody played the "so what" game with their anxiety, my therapist challenged me to say "so what? when it comes to social interactions or situations and i am finding myself still saying "what if? in my head over and over especially when i am around cute girls, even if it is a simple conversation, i will think in my head, the girl might be thinking i am just trying to pick her up, so i just avoid it most of the time, why does "so what" seem so hard.
Did your mom (or sister), by any chance, ever tell you stories or situations she was in where a guy was flirting with her and how she was not interested or even disgusted? This might be the cause of what I bolded... it was for me.
 

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has anybody played the "so what" game with their anxiety, my therapist challenged me to say "so what? when it comes to social interactions or situations and i am finding myself still saying "what if? in my head over and over especially when i am around cute girls, even if it is a simple conversation, i will think in my head, the girl might be thinking i am just trying to pick her up, so i just avoid it most of the time, why does "so what" seem so hard.
Definitely! :yes

It helps a lot. The "so what" treatment was a key in helping me rationalize my fears and recover.
 
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