[WhyMe888]

ok, so here's the thing. i'm meeting new people and stuff and they're really nice. whenever i see them on campus they always make an effort to talk to me but the problem is it's a one sided conversation. they'll ask me how i am, how are my classes, what i'm up to, etc. it seems more like an interview then a conversation because i answer their questions but i never know what to say after that so after a few minutes, it just gets really awkard becuase i don't how what to say and the other person eventually runs out of questions so we both just stand there and smile in awkward silence. does this happen to anyone else? what do you do in these situations to get rid of the one sidedness of the conversation?

 

[Teehee]

All the time, usually, I just throw the same question right back at them "...what about you?..." and let them babble about their life.

 

[RainPetal]

Yes this happened to me many times. Also when they ask questions about my life and I tell them, they go silent and blank-faced. I get the feeling they wanted to hear something more exciting.

 

[kikachuck]

Ah, the awkward silence. This scourn has been plaguing manking for centuries.

 

[ghostgurl]

Last semester this girl initated a conversation with me and I was talking to her for a bit, and then a few days later nothing progressed further from that and she never talked to me again.

 

[brownkeys]

Last semester this girl initated a conversation with me and I was talking to her for a bit, and then a few days later nothing progressed further from that and she never talked to me again.

Sounds like the story of my life.

 

[island]

I don't understand why it's so hard to form connections with others. I guess it doesn't help to be so guarded and to not have similar experiences to talk about.

 

[crystallizedtear]

even so called 'normal' people have problems with these silences...it's fine...they're just awkward moments...=)

 

[slurpazillia]

hi

 

[OneSADClown]

happens to all of us, i guess.

does it matter if you really have no interest in hearing about meaningless stories in the first place? i honestly could care less about someone i semi-know in college telling me their problems and i do mind them asking me questions and prying in my life.

i guess that people do it to be nice and some want to form connections. thing is, i can never act nice and pretend i'm enjoying the conversation.

but i do like to hear it from the people i like (very few, indeed). i'll ask about what's new with their studies, and comment about things i think would make them smile.

 

[RX2000]

I know what you mean. Thats one of the main reasons that I try to NEVER speak to anyone, lol. I am really terrified of the awkward silences that could pop up.

 

[kristina7]

The scary thing for me is that NO ONE makes an effort to talk to me. Even tho it's hard for me, I'M always the one going up to ppl to talk to them, ask them about their major, what their after-graudation plans are,.. and yet they'll answer my questions and then just never talk to me again! Even the ppl that help me with stuff in-class. NO ONE ever invites me to do anything with them.... maybe b/c they know I can't drive... I'm just afraid I'm a burden on people!

 

[infinite_time]

In this kind of a situation I would be flattered that someone was actually showing an interest in me (can't say I feel that way too often). I would start asking them questions as well (could be the same ones they asked you). I always ask people questions as a way of getting to know them.

 

[Meee]

even so called 'normal' people have problems with these silences...it's fine...they're just awkward moments...=)

Yeah but not seemingly every conversation with every single person that talks to them.

 

[Anatomica]

yeah awkward silences are sooo uncomfortable, sometimes they can occur online too, like in ims or chat rooms, those can be unpleasant as well.