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Anyone ever felt to shy to make a phone call, even if it was you're best friend who you've known for years? My mom offered that I call my best friend to see if she could help me babysit later cuz I've been so bored, but I can't bring up the courage to call and ask without feeling stupid or embarrassing myself. It's always so awkward on the phone or alone with friends cuz I never know what to say (duh) ugh. I'm frustrated. Ever felt like this?
 

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Yep. Friends, family, doesn't matter.
 

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Doesn't matter who it is, it could be my grandma, an aunt, an old friend, a store, a pizza place, whatever. i DO NOT like making phone calls! I will pace the floor back and forth and my heart starts to jump out of my chest. if i absolutely must make a call, I usually end up writing out what i'm going to say and just read off that paper so i don't have a brain freeze and forget what to say! i'm such a loser. it's just really uncomfortable being on the phone =/
 

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Hate talking on the phone. Avoid it at all costs. If I have to, I rehearse what I'm going to say before I even dial the phone, and then I dial the number and hang up 3 times so I know I have the right number.
 

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I'm definitely a phone phobic. When I hear it ring, my heart races, I check the caller ID, and I rarely answer it unless it's my immediate family or one of two friends (and sometimes when those friends call, I don't answer). And don't ever ask me to MAKE a phone call! There are 3 friends that I've really needed to call over the last month - these are people I haven't talked to in anywhere from 2 months to a year - and I keep putting it off. But the longer I put it off, the less inclined I am to call.

It's torture.
 

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If you can't talk on the phone then you should make plans to do something at the begining of the call instead. That way you won't have to try and think of things to talk about because you'll be seeing them in person later on.
 

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Phone is a big thing for me. I hate absolutly hate it when it rings and I have to abruptly talk without any sort of preparation. As for making phone calls..omg...torture...I had to make a phone call last thursday and I'm still thinking about it. Basically what I did was dial the number let, sit the phone down, get up and pace around the house before realizing that I HAVE to make this call NOW, then I do it. I pace around the house while on the phone. When I hangup, the anxiety does not go away and I start pacing around the house constantly analyzing word for word what was said in order to determine how stupid I sounded. I will pace, sit down start to play a computer game or something, but immediately have to get back up and pace. This can go on for 30 minutes, or 3 hours
It doesn't matter who I'm talking to
 

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I'm like this with my best friend too.
 

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Yeah. I always ask the people I know to text me. LOl.
 

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Yes, I've felt like that. For me, it depends on the day, but as i look back on my life, whether it is friends, family, or a pizza store like someone mentioned, i feel reluctance to call, generally.
 

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I'm scared of answering the phone
Of making phone calls
Or talking on the phone in front of others, I always have to leave the room to talk.
I'm exactly the same. And it doesn't really matter who I'm talking to; it could be close friends or a family member -- I only use the phone if I absolutely have to and even then I put it off until the very last minute (or, more often than not, I leave it far too long to pluck up the courage and people think I'm not phoning them back because I'm ignoring them or something).

I hate phones.
 

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yes i used to get woried about who was calling and i used to go and hide stick my fingers in my ears so i couldnt hear the phone .I went through a phass that i though that i was in truoble .But now im so used to it that i just get my mum to answer the phone. She comes round every day because my phobia is strong .My advice to you would be just answer the phone the longer you leve it the harder it gets .I hope i was of some use.
 

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I can't talk to anybody on the phone, except my sister and mother. Not even my dad. Not my best friend, or my other close friends. I can't order pizza or anything!

It really sucks.
 

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yup, happens to me too. i hate the anticipation of making the call and i think i usually know what to say i end up fumbling with my words. i get frustrated bc its only a phone call in reality but to me its far more than that.
 

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Glad to see I am not alone. I am terrified of talking on the phone! It is horirble horrible because I often procrastinate making important calls, like making appointments -- I am 24 and I (still) have my mom make them for me. Sad sad sad.
 
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