We are never going to be a bunch of social butterflies...that is, unless some of you want that....because of course you can do anything you set your mind to. I can't speak for all of us, but I definitely don't want to be the center of attention. However, it is very much in our reach to become successfully shy. Don't let the name disorder scare you, I have found that a lot of people have let this word further their emotional pain. It really depresses me to hear a lot of people say things like "I am not normal" or "I used to think I was just shy, but then I learned I have this disorder..." It doesn't make us freaks, and it is extreme shyness. But if you think of shyness as a trait that has a long scale...you can learn to move along toward the other side of the scale. I find that this helps me, because I do know how to be successfully shy. Another tip that works for me is when you are talking to someone, or if someone is talking to you, if you just listen with a slight smile the whole time, you will get a really good reaction from the other person. Whenever I do this, I seem to get compliments about how nice I am, or a good listener etc...it's nice to get good feedback and it allows me to grow socially. I hope some of this helps you.