when i first joined, i would never PM people. and even when i added people from sas, i never messaged them. but then i got banned for a month (from SAS) and had nothing better to do, so i started messaging people and i had the same problem you guys mentioned. but i kept "bothering" people so much and they still keep talking to me. so i figured maybe i'm not really bothering them and most people give the vibe they enjoy talking to me. so now i don't really care, if i want to talk to someone i just IM them. i don't even think twice. even when they don't reply sometimes i keep going on :lol
Starting IM Conversations
This is something I have had a problem with for some time, but I think it's slightly worse than usual at the moment, so I wanted to ask if anyone else experienced this:
While I am often capable of seeming almost extrovert online, I have real difficulty bringing myself to actually start instant messaging conversations with people, e.g. on MSN. Even people who I have been talking to for over a year who are quite close contacts (I am hesitant to say "friend", since I never see these people IRL anymore) - once they start a conversation I'm usually ok, but I can never start it myself. I think I have some unshakeable internal conviction that they just don't want to talk to me, and that if I start a conversation I will just be bothering them.
Is anyone else like this, or am I alone in this particular weirdness?
While I am often capable of seeming almost extrovert online, I have real difficulty bringing myself to actually start instant messaging conversations with people, e.g. on MSN. Even people who I have been talking to for over a year who are quite close contacts (I am hesitant to say "friend", since I never see these people IRL anymore) - once they start a conversation I'm usually ok, but I can never start it myself. I think I have some unshakeable internal conviction that they just don't want to talk to me, and that if I start a conversation I will just be bothering them.
Is anyone else like this, or am I alone in this particular weirdness?
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