How do you deal with having friends? I feel crazy at times
^^And that is the main reason why I don't have many friends. I can't deal with the drama some of them have, I don't want to be too involved in their life, or be a parent to them when it hits the fan. Having friends that are not engaging to you or just have you around as an accessory is when my SA kicks in, because I feel like I'm just tagging along for the hell of it.
I think it really depends on how they're making it worse for you. I would rather have friends that are genuinely supportive, 'through thick and thin', and vice versa (even if it involves a few mood swings & drama). People are more comfortable around happy people, but no one can be happy all the time.If your friends are making things worse for you then maybe you should get new ones. The small group of people I would call friends always make me happy when I'm hanging around, they never make anything worse.
That's exactly how I feel too! I tend to avoid having many female friends because the ones I've associated with in the past are so quick to bash one of their other so-called "friends" if the friend does something as simple as forget to call them back or whatever. Its ridiculous. They'll start a whole passive-aggressive war over something that stupid. My two best friends are guys, and while I do have a couple girls that I'm acquaintances with who I've known practically my whole life, I don't feel the need for any super close female friends, for the reason I stated above.Anyways I have had friends before, mostly girls, but I find they all have one thing in common: they are superficial. When you see them with their friends, they are always happy and smiling and oh so close. But then when they are alone with me, all they do is talk bad about them, telling me they can't stand their friends, that they are stupid and so on. It's horrible for me because I get the impression that they are doing the exact same thing to me with their friends, which is part of the reason why I am very cautious around others.
Yeah, I get that sometimes. It's like a Jekyll-and-Hyde thing. I think it might just be a part of anxiety and depression, but it might also be bipolar.Does anyone else get really bad moodswings or is it just me? That's one of the reasons why having friends is complicated. I'm only the happy presentable less anxious self of me part of the time