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Most of the time i dont care about social status, but that really because im never social.

But my social anxiety is about social status.

This doesnt mean that i need to be at the top, or that i need to be in the spotlight, in fact i dont want any of these things.

But the kind of respect, support, consideration, patience, tolerance and all other good things which are reserved for the 'kool kidz' in the classroom or in the workplace is what i want.

And when i say want i mean that if i cant have these things i dont want to be in the situation one second longer.

This is basically why im in the situation im in.Someone made a thread about clingy people, i am the polar opposite of clingy, the instance i even imagine that im unwanted, disrespected or seen as a third wheel or someone who is just 'tolerated' i am outta there forever.

I have been in situations where i have felt like the lowest of the low, and noticed how people see you as a retard, weirdo, probably 'special' and insane and mentally challenged.

I can hardly describe in words how i despised those situations.It's the reason i misinterpret smiling and laughing as ridicule, the reason why certain facial expressions and gestures just fills me with rage and can ruin my entire day.

I dont want ever again for the rest of my life to be in any situation where i am some sort of 'low caste', as far as i am concerned it is the most revolting things you can experience in life...
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I don't have a college degree or children and I've had my own gender be quite rude or mean to me or pity me for that openly, and then they ignore me or snub me, then talk about me too..triple whammy without real cause and it has caused a lot of stress. I basically used to think as a religious person to forgive and its okay but no its not okay. I am not religious so I avoid those people. Online I've emailed people, PMed them on sites and as soon as I said my job and didn't have a degree either, I never hear back from them, could it be because I know they have a masters? hmmmmm? lol, um that was the only real thing the email was about so I am sure it wasn't anything else.. I have the sense to say yes they are snobs and I wouldn't want to befriend someone like that. hhahaha maybe I make more than they do and I am lying about the whole thing of education and job and want to see if they snub me because if they do than I know what they are like, later when they find out I make more than them, and they want to be friends I snub them back. I am only using their standard against them now. Can they fault me? The judgmental people who harshly judge the the lower classes are the same as the jealous people who suck up and manipulate, steal, and are jealous to the higher classes. if youre rich you know that the jealous are your sworn enemy and you want to know who they are immediately! I find out who they are this way pretending to be in the lower class to find out how class conscious they are and snotty or jealous. But that's my little weird fantasy.

No I don't tolerate being snubbed outright and I go elsewhere and seek to find people. I don't need a lot of good friends. I don't blame you for leaving a situation. I really care about the few friends in real life that I do have. I am getting better at picking up the social cues of people if they are disrespectful and am quicker to accept and move on.
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