[n1kkuh]

I feel like because of SA, I've avoided so much and have done damage to so many things in my life. I feel like my friendships are all in jeopardy, my family is beginning to lose hope in me, and my personal/academic career is pretty much a wreck.

I feel like if I were to start taking initiative today, I wouldn't be starting from scratch, I would be starting negative because have to repair so many things that have been damaged because of my passiveness and lack of initiative.

I've made improvements in the way I interact with people, but that still hasn't changed what I've lost because of my past. Now I have to go and fix everything, and it just seems so daunting because it feels like there's so much pressure on me to perform well in everything I do or else I fail. So rather than do something and take action, I do nothing and sit around, only making things harder on myself.

I guess I just wanna know if anyone been in a similar state of mind and gotten out of it? Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

 

[Drew]

I've been in a similar situation. I remember feeling completely overwhelmed and also having the feeling that I had to be perfect at whatever I did.

What ended up for me was figuring out what I value most in my life and focusing on one of those things at a time, not until it was "perfect," but until I felt comfortable with where I was with it.

For me this applied to things like friendship/social life, dating, going back to college (I had dropped out), work, etc.

One thing at a time. One step at a time. There's only so many hours in the day.

Various therapy helped me with this and I can share if you're interested.

 

[n1kkuh]

Yeah, your right. I was stuck in a rut at the moment I made the post and I'm feeling better after spending some time with my father and friends. I also wrote down some candidates for a job. I'm feeling a little better, but kinda light headed from playing too much basketball with my friends.

And yeah, One step at a time for sure.

 

[mardy423]

I am in a rut right now so to speak. I need to get my license, but due to my SA i have been putting it off for years. I also need to find me some sort of job I can like and stay with and on top of that i also need to try to get into school someplace.

 

[zookeeper]

I know exactly what you're saying. It's very difficult to get life back in order when you've been sabotaging it (intentionally or not) for so long. It's like you need to pick up the pieces of the things that you broke the first time around before you can start moving forward again. Very frustrating. I seriously messed up my schooling the first time around because of all my issues, so if I ever plan to go back I have a lot of explaining to do f I expect to get in.


Good to hear you're feeling better for now though.